Advice for elders raising teenagers.

Davey Jones

Davey Jones

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Good advice for me raising a 15 years old grandaughter....from Dave
Berry's new book
TITLE:You Cant Date Boys Till You're Forty.
1."Do not try to be cool.You are not cool to you child.You are hideously
embarrassing."

2.Do not talk to your child's friends. This will be hideously embarrassing to
your child. If you're around your childs friends,you should be invisible and
wear military style camouflage.

3.Never,ever sing in the presence of your child's friends.

4.When you're driving your child and your childs friends,do not talk to them.Do not sing along with the radio.Do not act like you are even in the car.
 
Ive always believed that boys age 8-12 are a pain in the ass to deal with then girls.
Girls are always nice and pretty till they hit 13 then all hell breaks loose.:)
 
Welcome back Warrigal :D, so happy that you had a good cruise vacation! Will be looking forward to enjoying all of your photos! :sunglass:
 
I must be a glutton for punishment-wasn`t enough that I went through it four times with my own,now I take on somebody elses two,12 & 15. At least these two are respectful and so far,have not copped the typical teen attitudes. They have lots of other issues but at least they seem to realize that things could be a whole lot worse than living with us.
 
Yes, welcome back from me also Warrigal......
One of the residents in our retirement village went on the same cruise as you I think.....
She arrived home yesterday....haven't seen her yet to ask how it went.....
I hope you enjoyed it and we're waiting for a review.....:yes:
 
Tell you one thing, I feel for parents with teens at this point in time. The world they inhabit is so fraught with dangers and pitfalls that were never an issue in earlier decades.
 
I feel so sorry for the over 60s having to raise teenagers. I found it hard enough in my 30s and early 40s when ours were teenagers, and they weren't bad kids by any means. I am so glad I got procreating over by the time I was 26!
 
Justme said:
I feel so sorry for the over 60s having to raise teenagers. I found it hard enough in my 30s and early 40s when ours were teenagers, and they weren't bad kids by any means. I am so glad I got procreating over by the time I was 26!
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Are there a lot of them? Wasn't aware of this trend. And I agree, that to attempt this at that age is just too much.

I look back and think of how it was for me so young having a child. Well, I had a lot of support and the strength of youth. Even so I found it exhausting. Forget it for anyone over 60!
 
Welcome back Warrigal; sorry about Fiji....next time?!

My boys were really good as teenagers; the bad things I didn't find out about until they told me in their 20's! Sensible kids!

Your daughter must really wind your grandson up, Ceecee; I must admit I tended to let mine get on with it; their lives.

One went to Oxford, the other didn't and both are fine; as different as chalk and cheese; but still talk to me and each other, which I think is more important to me.
 
Gael said:
Are there a lot of them? Wasn't aware of this trend. And I agree, that to attempt this at that age is just too much.

I look back and think of how it was for me so young having a child. Well, I had a lot of support and the strength of youth. Even so I found it exhausting. Forget it for anyone over 60!
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In the UK many women are putting off having children until their later in life because of their careers, so some will have teenagers well into their 50s or even 60s.
 
Gael said:
Are there a lot of them? Wasn't aware of this trend. And I agree, that to attempt this at that age is just too much.

I look back and think of how it was for me so young having a child. Well, I had a lot of support and the strength of youth. Even so I found it exhausting. Forget it for anyone over 60!
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Yes there are a lot over 60 raising teens today especially grandparents.
Every child is differen and Ive been lucky,so far, to have this teen gal to take care of as her guardian.
Sometimes they fly off the handle with anger,etc,etc but thats part of the job and with past experience raising 3 kids of my own I think Im doing ok with this 15 year old.
 
Justme said:
In the UK many women are putting off having children until their later in life because of their careers, so some will have teenagers well into their 50s or even 60s.
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Ah yes, same in the US for sometime now. I didn't think about the situation in the coming years. Well, this is wanting it all and what can occur.
 
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