I never wanted to go in there ,Delivery Room

Davey Jones

Davey Jones

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Ive never seen any of my 3 kids born in a delivery room,unlike today back then you were not allowed in there period.


New Jersey Judge Rules Women Can Keep Fathers Out Of Delivery Room.

A New Jersey judge likely made history this week when he released an opinion that found women can keep the biological father of their children out of the delivery room.
NPR's Jennifer Ludden reports that the ruling involves a couple who got engaged after the woman became pregnant but later broke up. The man sued for the right to be present at the birth of his child.

http://www.npr.org/blogs/thetwo-way...s-women-can-keep-fathers-out-of-delivery-room
 
I believe that's the mother's decision. If she doesn't want someone in the delivery room, they should not be allowed in there, period. People are generally in there to comfort and support the woman during this time, why would she want someone there that would just upset her. I'm back from the time where the father's and family waited in the waiting room, and that's fine with me. Childbirth is a very private and personal thing, and it should be respected.
 
Yes, yes and yes, to DJ and SeaBreeze.

I also don't understand the people that record it; and expect friends and family to watch it back!
 
I don't get it either Vivjen, and some even post it on their Facebooks, etc. I'm in complete disagreement with that.
 
I was in there and it was a beautiful experience. The twits waiting outside for their children to be born were shocked, "THAT GUY WAS IN THERE!" Cowards.

But, I agree with all the above. It's up to the mother and in this case, the idiot father shouldn't even be allowed near the hospital. Hell, chase him outta town.
 
Oh boy-good thing none of you are in my family :). Birth,for us,is a family affair-IF the mom wants it to be! The ultimate decision is hers-and dad`s wishes would,of course,be respected as well. But so far,I have been at the births of all of my grandkids-with the exception of my son`s son and that was only because the nurse told us that she wouldn`t be delivering for hours so to go have something to eat. We no sooner sat down at the restaurant ten minutes away when my son called and said "It`s a boy!"

I did labor and birth coaching for about 20 years so it`s not surprising that my daughters and then DIL wanted me there,but they also welcomed the rest of the family. At our local hospital,they always called us the "party room"-not for the noise-we always kept things respectful and quiet-but for the sheer number of people. Funny thing is,if it were me,I`m pretty sure I would throw everyone except dh out lol.

So our son will be having his second child in July (different wife) and she has not yet said whether or not she wants me or any of us in there. She actually does not do pain well so maybe she won`t.

When my dd had grandson #3,she had this very old,very conservative doc. She also had the baby very suddenly after they had thought it would be hours-we had actually gone home to get some sleep but only made it to the front door when she called and said "Come back quick!" We made it back but the doc didn`t-the ER doc had to deliver the baby. Then,a few minutes later,the "real" doc walked in and was none too happy about all the people in there. Everyone else had been fine with it though. That ended up being the last baby her doc ever delivered-or didn`t deliver,in this case. I always wondered if that was why. He retired shortly after that.
 
My husband was there at the birth of our three daughters, he then reckoned he had done his bit as far as small babies were concerned!:D
 
SeaBreeze said:
I believe that's the mother's decision. If she doesn't want someone in the delivery room, they should not be allowed in there, period. People are generally in there to comfort and support the woman during this time, why would she want someone there that would just upset her. I'm back from the time where the father's and family waited in the waiting room, and that's fine with me. Childbirth is a very private and personal thing, and it should be respected.
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IMO...the only one that should be allowed in that room is the guy that cause her pain.
 
Davey Jones said:
IMO...the only one that should be allowed in that room is the guy that cause her pain.
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How about a labor coach (or a doula)? Some men are up for the job-mine happened to be-but many of the women I coached had husbands who just didn`t want to be that involved. Or couldn`t be,due to squeamishness. In one case,the birth was of twins,with the birth of the second,having very sudden and unexpected complications. Dad was able to hold and comfort baby #1 while I helped mom get through the birth of #2. This is not a medical person,just a lay person who is there just for support of the mom.
 
Mrs. Sid wanted me there.
It was not my right to be there.
It was an honor to be invited to four blessed events.
 
In fact,our local hospital no longer even has a "delivery room". Unless you are having a C-section,labor,birth and recovery all take place in the same big room. And the maternity wing is now called "The Family Birth Center." Even the hospital considers birth to be a family affair.
 
Why would a hospital even consider allowing someone to be present in the delivery room if their presence would cause distress to the woman in labour?

It's a no brainer.

The welfare of the woman and baby is paramount.
If need be, they should have the authority to clear the room entirely and shouldn't have to call security to make it happen.
 
In 1984, I was so proud to be allowed to view my first grandchild birth. The place was also called a family birthing center. It was across the street from the hosiptal. The very large room was set up like with a living room with TV, it had a small kitchenette, a full bathroom, and in a corned was the pretty birthing bed. Our whole family were there on and off. I took photo of the whole day with all the big eyed family. It is a favorite memory of mine. One of the reasons I know life is worth living.
 
Back in Pgh in 1958-60, dad could stay a while in labor room, but not allowed in delivery, which was like a standard OR & I thought the drs & nurses were very mean & cold. Now Birthing rooms are like a nice bedroom or even motel room, but with all necessary stuff for normal delivery, and OR down the the hall if sudden complications occurred. Daughter & s in law invited me to be with them when my granddaughter was born, and it was one of the most wonderful experiences of my life. Daughter did fine, and it was so beautiful to see that beautiful little girl stretch her arms & legs way out when they put her on the warming table, like, "Finally I'm out of there!"
 
I have done something with all my grandkids-you mentioned the warming table and it reminded me. They plop those poor babies in the warmer right after birth,naked and although it`s a warmer,it`s not really very warm when you`ve just come out of warm water. Not to mention,t`s not a secure feeling-they are at a slant and just rolling back and forth. So I always let them hold my fingers and give themselves a little feeling of security. It`s always ben a really special bonding time with me and the grandbabies :)
 
I was present for my daughter's third and fourth deliveries, which were both home births.

It can be very scary. I remember seeing my second granddaughter's face just before the last push.
She was suspended between life and death, alive but not yet breathing.

As I said, very scary and that moment seemed like a very long eternity.
 
My daughters would not have wished anyone but their husbands at the birth of their kids, I am quite sure of that. I wouldn't have wanted my mother at the birth of mine, anyway she would have died of embarrassment! She was such a prude we reckoned she gave birth in the dark! When I was born in the maternity hospital in 1950, my father was at home in bed. He didn't hear the phone, and my uncle whom they contacted next, had to go round to wake him up to tell him the glad tidings. But as his first born was only a girl he went back to sleep again. He didn't actually get around to seeing me before late following evening. He never did have a son, but three more daughters. His elderly aunt, would shake her head and suggest the next would be a boy. My mother said the thirteenth would probably be a son so the drawbridge was raised and firmly padlocked after the fourth girl!:D
 
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