Do you like the opposite sex?

Sid said:
I guess it's just me, but Wife and I have been together 45 years. I don't claim it was perfect but I just never thought of it as work. I suppose the wife did feel like choking me a time or two or more. I do agree you gotta go into marriage with the this is for "til death do us part". I should be thankful she didn't chose to part me. H'mmm maybe it is work after all.
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Congrats Sid, 45 years is a good long time! :cool: I never thought of our relationship as work either, I think if you click with each other, and it was meant to be...smooth sailin' from there on in.
 
Warrigal said:
It's our wedding anniversary today - 51 years.

At times I didn't like being married and I chafed against it. I was married too young at 20 yo and had not yet established myself as a grown up person. There were times when I wished for be 'free' but now I realise that freedom or the lack of it is something that we often construct in our minds, rather than an immutable condition imposed from without.

Long story short, we were parents and so we honoured our vows and grew up, stayed faithful and eventually we grew old together and now I see the fruits of that union. I wouldn't change any of it. Not even the tough times. We learn more from them than from the easy ones.
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Congratulations to you and your hubby Warrigal, it's wonderful that you're celebrating 51 years of marriage...good for you both! :glitter-heart:
 
Thanks NWlady. We celebrated yesterday evening with dinner for two at St George Motor Boat Club on Botany Bay*** and today we will be with extended family for a different reason, so I'm feeling very happy today.

http://stgeorgembc.com.au/

*** Actually Kogarah Bay, which is an inlet of the larger bay. Botany Bay was where Captain Cook first landed on the east coast of this continent in 1770 and claimed it for England. We live not far from the Georges River, named after George III of England. This rivers runs down into Botany Bay which is just south of Sydney Harbour. Cook sailed past the heads of SH and missed finding the best deep water port of the NSW coast.
 
Warrigal, We are four years behind you, and I see every day together as a blessing. He is the only person, besides those of you on this forum, that I've told anything of my past. Michael is glad that I'm finally telling someone. He thinks I should tell my family too. But I don't want any of it touch them, in anyway. Michael says they would understand me better. I don't see it that way.
 
SeaBreeze said:
Congrats Sid, 45 years is a good long time! :cool: I never thought of our relationship as work either, I think if you click with each other, and it was meant to be...smooth sailin' from there on in.
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I don't doubt that is possible SB or Sid, not for a minute. Do either of you think it might be like child-birth though? You are mercifully blessed with forgetting the worst pain of your life, LOL!! Sorry, couldn't resist;):giggle:
 
I don't know, I do know some people that have a bond that is beyond anything I ever experienced. I do know about growing up believing in fairytales and movies that showed all the "honeymoon" part of a relationship. I don't mean sleeping together, I mean that blissful part that when it's over and you get down to what comes next, life. I met a guy one time and he wanted to have a relationship with me but I'll never forget him saying that he wanted to have a date that lasted forever. For me, that isn't reality, not what I've learned of it. And true love is what comes after, when the goin gets tough, and two people honor their vows like I think it was Warrigal or Seabreeze said. It's when you can say you aren't liken each other very much but you chose to love one another. I believe love is more of an action than a feeling.

I think it was Seabreeze and I talking about two very elderly folks walking hand in hand, just as when they went on their first date, that is love that endured everything life dished out. Or maybe they just met at a bar and going home for quickie, who knows.
 
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I don't know but I think GDad was doing a remake of Meg Ryan's part in "When Harry Met Sally"!! Sure hope he's ok:hatoff:
 
SeaBreeze said:
Being a heterosexual woman, yes I like the opposite sex. I am lucky to have shared the last 40 years with a wonderful man, who is not stereotypical at all. He has many good qualities, and I wouldn't want to be with anyone else.

Having said that, I have worked for many years, since the age of 16, in jobs that were predominantly men, but women also. There are a lot of "pieces of work" with both sexes, IMO.

Lots of guys can be plain jerks, but there's quite a few of them out there who are just normal nice people. Same for women, lots of drama, gossiping, back-stabbing, but I've have the pleasure of meeting a few ladies over the years who are super people and don't fit the way most women are portrayed.

I'm not anti male or female...just anti jerk. :p
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You and me both. The point I make is we're all the same species. I never did like anti-male jokes/attitudes or vica versa, anti-female ones either. For me it's always from someone who has had a negative experience with the opposite sex whether from childhood or a relationship and then proceeds to paint the entire gender with the same brush.

There are qualities about males and females that I like and those that I don't. But I take people as I find them and it's not about their gender for me. It's about the individual.
 
Falcon said:
I've always liked/loved women; married two stunners. But there's always some that spoil it for me with their

vanity, bragging and simply NEVER shut up. You asked; I'm answering.
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Thanks for your honesty. Now is that is an accomplishment to have had negative results with some women but were able to maintain an objective outlook towards the rest of the gender. Too often the exact opposite occurs.
 
i_am_Lois said:
When my age was in single digits I enjoyed hanging around girls the most. When I was in my teens the only thing the girls wanted to do was listen to music and talk non-stop about the boys they had crushes on. It was much more interesting hanging around with guy friends who weren't romantically interested in me.

After I married it seemed only appropriate to have female friends. In my 40's I was single again. I did develop a few friendships (non-sexual) with some males and continued my female friendships as well. I still found males much more fun to be with. Women like to talk, eat and shop. Men are much more diverse in their interests. With male friends I've gotten to go fishing, crabbing, boating, played frisbee golf, gone to RV shows, gone to concerts in the park, played board & card games, went to auctions and went on hikes. When the day is done men friends have cooked for me, played their guitar for me and told me some of those crude jokes men tell so well.

I'm married again so my only male friend is my husband. As a whole I LOVE being around the opposite sex. They are wonderful creatures.
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That's very interesting. I've known women who prefer the company of men in general for similar reasons. Again, I think it has to do with the indivdual and their experiences.
 
nwlady said:
I especially like some of the differences. Seriously, I think a man and a woman can really compliment each other, and I am one of those that feel we were meant to be mated up. I know many either aren't able to find someone, like me so far, or they just feel better without a man/woman in their life. I prefer the hard work that goes into a meaningful relationship. In my opinion, it is easier to be alone in many ways, for me, it feels too selfish and I feel I don't get to be "all" the things I was meant to be, when I am alone.
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I too, prefer a companion then going it alone. I like the feedback and companionship of having someone to share my life with.
Having a relationship requires some sharing and compromise. When you're on your own you just have to answer your own needs. A lot of single people I've known find it harder to share as they've gotten out of the habit of daily doing so with someone or never had to in their lives.
 
Sid said:
I pretty much agree but as for the hard work to make a meaningful relationship I just don't feel that way at all. It seems (in my life anyway) it just happened. To me those realationships are a gift. Those that didn't turn out in spite of all I tried to do to make happen.
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I've always felt that if a significant relationship is going to occur, nothing will stop it and if it's not, nothing will make it happen.
 
nwlady said:
I don't know, I do know some people that have a bond that is beyond anything I ever experienced. I do know about growing up believing in fairytales and movies that showed all the "honeymoon" part of a relationship. I don't mean sleeping together, I mean that blissful part that when it's over and you get down to what comes next, life. I met a guy one time and he wanted to have a relationship with me but I'll never forget him saying that he wanted to have a date that lasted forever. For me, that isn't reality, not what I've learned of it. And true love is what comes after, when the goin gets tough, and two people honor their vows like I think it was Warrigal or Seabreeze said. It's when you can say you aren't liken each other very much but you chose to love one another. I believe love is more of an action than a feeling.

I think it was Seabreeze and I talking about two very elderly folks walking hand in hand, just as when they went on their first date, that is love that endured everything life dished out. Or maybe they just met at a bar and going home for quickie, who knows.
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The term hopeless romantic applies to me. It doesn't get any worse then how I am. And I've had my fair share of romance but the ultimate soul mate came to me late in life after a long marriage. So never say never.
 
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