Child abuse after report cards come out....

Emotionally immature to say the least.
My parents never even looked at my report card so it was never an issue
They couldn’t care less about the grades I got
Looking at this report I’m glad they didn’t
This is very sad. It’s no wonder there are so many suicides with kids wanting to get certain grades.
That pressure is enough to push them over the edge.
What a waste of life.
 
Oh I was always terrified like lots of kids to take my report card home, because if I failed in Maths which I inevitably did, (it was my worse subject next to science)...I was in for a beating from my father..... I couldn't hide the bloody thing because it had to be signed by our parents before being returned to our teacher , so every end of term was a nightmare for me!!
 

I’m sorry you had to deal with this. I know we had similar parenting but this wasn’t an area I got nailed for at all.
For the first few grades my parents signed but never read it and after that , I signed my own so they never saw them nor asked. They also never went to any parents nights so I never had to worry about the subject coming up. In fact, in the education department I got away with so much. After a while I signed all my notes for school and considering I left home as soon as I legally could at 16, I had more freedom as a teenager than I probably should have. There were some awesome benefits to having narcissistic parenting. :laugh:
 
No mine never attended any parent nights or any of our big Stage productions we put on at school every year. I played Cello in the school orchestra , but the cello was borrowed from my music teacher, my parents were not interested in that either.

However given they didn't attend , nor show any interest..both parents kept drumming it into me that if I didn't get top marks in Maths (father) and English (mother)... that I would be sorry in more ways than one! Fortunately I was a top student in English... I still bear the scars of my father's beatings !!

I was made to leave school at 15 to earn a living...

However this is not about me...this is about toxic parents who are still treating their children ..and in this case some schools, like Pariah if they're not academically gifted
 
Most schools are telling students if parent lays a hand on them,they have "the right" to call the police and report them for abuse.
At least that's how it is in NYS.
 
Wow!

This horrific pattern of behavior may partly explainthe relatively recent phenomena of grade inflation. If I were a teacher who knew my students would be beaten for C grades or lower, I'd be sorely tempted to give out a whole lot of B's.
 
Keesha said:
I’m sorry you had to deal with this. I know we had similar parenting but this wasn’t an area I got nailed for at all.
For the first few grades my parents signed but never read it and after that , I signed my own so they never saw them nor asked. They also never went to any parents nights so I never had to worry about the subject coming up. In fact, in the education department I got away with so much. After a while I signed all my notes for school and considering I left home as soon as I legally could at 16, I had more freedom as a teenager than I probably should have. There were some awesome benefits to having narcissistic parenting. :laugh:
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My situation was sort of similar. My mother was pretty much overwhelmed with the stress of being a single parent with an 8th grade education working as a waitress. So I was left pretty much to my own devices. But she did sign my report cards. But didn't pay much attention to them otherwise.
 
StarSong said:
Wow!

This horrific pattern of behavior may partly explainthe relatively recent phenomena of grade inflation. If I were a teacher who knew my students would be beaten for C grades or lower, I'd be sorely tempted to give out a whole lot of B's.
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Grade inflation. Tell me about it. It's not all that recent. When I started out as a freshman in Junior college in 1965 I got a 1.8 GPA for my first semester. Now granted, I was never one to apply myself to my studies but they actually made you do a little work to get a "B" back then. But by the time I got out of the Air Force and went back on the GI Bill from 1974-76 they were handing out A's like they were party favors. Those professors wanted to keep up their FTE's so they could hang on to those cushy jobs during the recession. I maintained a 4.0 GPA for those two years. Me, the ultimate slacker, with a 4.0.

And it's not just grades that were inflated. Back in the mid 1950's when my old man coached Little league the only kids that got trophies were the members of the city championship team. But by the time my oldest son was playing in the 1980's his team went 3 and 15. That's 3 wins and 15 losses, and we parents still had to kick in money to buy them trophies. Trophies for finishing in the cellar.
 
IMO, inflicting the kind of punishment on children described in that article (beating with sticks, whips, electrical cords, asphyxiation, etc.) amounts to torture, and those parents should be arrested. How bad
does it have to be before it's called what it is, child abuse?
 
Trade said:

And it's not just grades that were inflated. Back in the mid 1950's when my old man coached Little league the only kids that got trophies were the members of the city championship team. But by the time my oldest son was playing in the 1980's his team went 3 and 15. That's 3 wins and 15 losses, and we parents still had to kick in money to buy them trophies. Trophies for finishing in the cellar.
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About five years ago I was with my Millennial aged daughter when someone in our generation was whining that her generation got trophies regardless of win-loss records. In less than a heartbeat she replied, "Let's be honest here. It wasn't OUR idea to receive all those stupid trophies. It was YOUR generation that insisted on bestowing them on us."

She shut him up rather nicely, I thought.
 
StarSong said:
About five years ago I was with my Millennial aged daughter when someone in our generation was whining that her generation got trophies regardless of win-loss records. In less than a heartbeat she replied, "Let's be honest here. It wasn't OUR idea to receive all those stupid trophies. It was YOUR generation that insisted on bestowing them on us."

She shut him up rather nicely, I thought.
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Your daughter has it exactly right. It is always the prior generation(s) who bestow their lunacy upon the new generation. Seems a child is born with the job of upholding ideas they had no part in creating.
 
StarSong said:
About five years ago I was with my Millennial aged daughter when someone in our generation was whining that her generation got trophies regardless of win-loss records. In less than a heartbeat she replied, "Let's be honest here. It wasn't OUR idea to receive all those stupid trophies. It was YOUR generation that insisted on bestowing them on us."

She shut him up rather nicely, I thought.
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I knows. I didn't blame the kids for it. It was the coaches and parents fault. And I'm guilty because when they passed the hat for trophy money I succumbed to the peer pressure and coughed up my share.

 

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