Recent content by Flaneuse

Yes - I have current experience. I signed up for Silver Singles and then half way through asked them to switch me to their sister site, Elite Singles. It didn't matter because they share their members. At first, I was getting some interesting matches, but now, six months in and as my...

Oh - so very many frogs. One would think that's all there are so far. But there must be a pony in here somewhere!

Thanks for the male perspective on this - I think you are spot on with the "stroking his ego" comment. And you're right about potentially developing feelings - which happens far too easily for me (I even once felt so sorry for a spider trapped in the second floor ladies' room at work that I...

Hey - wait a minute - I'm a lawyer too! (But never a trial lawyer!) 😂😂😂

Actually, I did a lot of research about him before even talking with him and was able to confirm that he is who he says he is - retired judge, retired trial lawyer, widower.

Thanks all - I appreciate the input and knowing that I have done the right thing. I recalled last night with a bit of a chuckle that he was a trial lawyer and he had said during our conversation that trial lawyers are master manipulators. 🤣🤣🤣

No - I've already bid him farewell once, then he returned. The next time, I'm blocking him. But talking with him is like taking a master class in a dozen different areas I'm interested in. I'll find another way to learn about these things because it's not worth my integrity. But he was clear...

Nah - since he's in an intimate relationship I think he's probably getting the real thing. What's ironic is that his profile says that he would never part with his integrity and ethical life. Huh?????

I recently decided to try an online dating site - it was fun at first but I'm losing interest, which is not the problem. I have an ethical issue and wonder if I'm being too old fashioned and narrow minded. I was recently contacted by a man who lives a couple of states away. We have a lot of...

When I find the right place, I'm going to be moving out of the area. I don't think she will want to leave so the situation may resolve itself. This situation does bother me from time to time - asking me to use miles for her vacation was a bit of a tipping point because I just don't understand...

And that's what I worry about.

You're absolutely right, and I'm working on sorting it out. I don't want to see her homeless, but have decided my response to any requests like travel will be " if this is something you want to do, then you need to figure out a way to earn/save the money for it." The thing is, this is my...

I jusst checked the waiting lists for senior housing in our county - they are closed. I'm in California and many of the waiting lists in the state are closed. So much homelessness - we need to do better. I think she has talked to agencies in the past and has been told that because she has a...

The HMO she is in for Medicare only refers to specific therapists and she can't relate to the ones she has seen. But after a year of therapy, I'm tapped out on that expenditure so if she needs more, she will have to use the ones Kaiser refers her to.

Thanks to everyone for your comments - I'll try to respond to each one: 1. To Bellbird - thank you. You're right - that's exactly what I need to do and I'm getting better at limiting my generosity to dealing with her needs not wants. Your comment gives me some of the strength I need in order...