70yo single m... where should i move to and why? yall could help me out !

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justcallmeZ

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i am just starting out here this evening so please bear with me... i live alone without any relatives or family (separated at birth), single for like fifteen years... my health is pretty well taken care of... 70yo but looks much younger... but yeah... i am starting to really feel my aging recently... i absolutely have to move away from a crummy rental that is surrounded with the wrong kinds of folks you want near you... in my dreams, i would love to live in a small place in the country... but is that right for me? i could try and find a senior housing apartment... i could try and find a senior roommate, which i would really like if it were the right person... i prolly need to move a bit closer to my dr. and staff at my va medical center... i have no one close to me in any kind of relationship... i appreciate your wisdom and comments whatever... i plan on moving to a better place in may... any ideas???? thx to all!
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I can't help you with the details but how about jotting down on paper all of your options and then for each one focus on the pros and cons. This may help you clarify things and then you may be able to get some professional advice re finances and other practicalities.
 
Dame Warrigal said:
I can't help you with the details but how about jotting down on paper all of your options and then for each one focus on the pros and cons. This may help you clarify things and then you may be able to get some professional advice re finances and other practicalities.
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I can't add anything to Dame Warrigal's sage advice.
 

justcallmeZ said:
i am just starting out here this evening so please bear with me... i live alone without any relatives or family (separated at birth), single for like fifteen years... my health is pretty well taken care of... 70yo but looks much younger... but yeah... i am starting to really feel my aging recently... i absolutely have to move away from a crummy rental that is surrounded with the wrong kinds of folks you want near you... in my dreams, i would love to live in a small place in the country... but is that right for me? i could try and find a senior housing apartment... i could try and find a senior roommate, which i would really like if it were the right person... i prolly need to move a bit closer to my dr. and staff at my va medical center... i have no one close to me in any kind of relationship... i appreciate your wisdom and comments whatever... i plan on moving to a better place in may... any ideas???? thx to all!
"z":cool:
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One thing to consider at your age I would be careful moving too far away from a decent hospital, medical help, chemist, shopping and places where you could join a community or club for somebody to talk to. Being lonely is not good as you get older as you need somebody to chat with or to bounce ideas off at times.
Good luck in making an informed decision as your starting to.
 
Just stay out of a snow zone and you will probably be fine,..:cool: Oh, and be careful not to be enticed into moving to a furin country as the natives can be strange and many untrustworthy...
 
According to your introduction you live in NE Oklahoma and your VA is in Arkansas. What are your interests?? What do you do in your retirement??
 
Another thing to know about small town life is that those folks may be friendly but also they have their routines and friendships and you could find it difficult to fit into that and could find yourself as lonely as ever despite it being a 'friendly town'. I live in a rural area and we are currently planning our next move back into town into an apartment. If we can find a place that is 55+ that allows pets, we will go with that kind of a situation and particularly if we can find one that has a small supermarket within walking distance. I'm looking for that kind of an arrangement because there will come a day when I'm no longer allowed to drive.

Our options seem to become more limited as we age don't they?
 
Hmm, seems like you were not up to the challenge. Too bad, exploring my psyche might have made you famous...
 
Sigh. This is banter, Ralphy's enjoyment of repartee in no way reflects on his ability to be a multidimensional human being. In this therapist's humble opinion, laughter is a marvelous medicine which often keeps us (me) from screaming in the street. Lol.
 
If I was facing this situation, which I basically am (68), I would probably not look for a place in the country as one day you will find you are no longer able to drive and there's no public transportation and you'll find yourself moving again. In my opinion, location is important especially the older we get. I am fortunate in that the place I selected 40 years ago, with the exception of the high cost of living, is perfect in every other way . . . within walking distance of a supermarket, several restaurants, several banks and more, and on a bus route. I think that as I get older I want to be around more people and living in the suburbs of a major city or a small city itself might be the better option as one ages. There's a senior center, a library, a waterfront park as well as several doctors in the area and a hospital 3 miles down the road.
 
You're right about the issues of moving to the country Logics. We've lived on a lovely property in the country for the past 8+ years but we're in the process of preparing for another move for exactly the reasons you have mentioned. While I was planning (in my own mind) on moving back into the little city we came here from, my husband didn't have that on his radar although I mentioned it in the fall. His turning point was when we had our worst snow storm this year and our 200 foot driveway was totally impassable and I came down with a raging case of vertigo. It was three days before he could get us dug out even though he has a tractor with a snow plow on it. It suddenly occurred to him that if one of us had been having a heart attack instead of simply a case of 'the dizzies', that person would have died. And it wasn't a week before I noticed him on the internet looking at apartments for sale in the area that I've been thinking about. Downtown, walking distance to shops, the library, etc.

So yes, to the OP do not move into the country even though property might be cheaper.
 
Although I am older than you are I can relate to your situation. The choices available to you depend pretty much on your finances, so, how are you financially speaking?
 

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