Agree Or Disagree, With Some?
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Ian McKlatchie
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The caffeine one, I'm not sure of. I went through a time when I was having lots of strong coffees, for around 2 months and I didn't feel uptight, nervy or any other negative nervous condition. But, around 4 weeks after I dropped to having only around 2 coffees a day - and, not strong ones, either - I began to suffer from increased agitation and anxiety. I honestly have no idea what to think about that - No 6 in the list.
No 1: No physical activity...yes. I must confess to that. My general physical condition has suffered a lot, from sheer lack of movement, for around 8 months, now. I must work on that as the real UK Summer finally arrives (sooner or later).
No 1: No physical activity...yes. I must confess to that. My general physical condition has suffered a lot, from sheer lack of movement, for around 8 months, now. I must work on that as the real UK Summer finally arrives (sooner or later).
George1959
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All reasons are valid. The problem is how to avoid all of them.
Murrmurr
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It depends on the individual. Some people stress over every little thing, some over specific things, and some people are just chill by nature.
I'm pretty chill, but it took practice (I used to have a bad temper). But there's a few things on that list I stress over; pain most of all, and having to limit my activities because of pain. Actually, that's probly my main cause of stress.
Next, in order, is negative self-talk and disorganized space. Well, I don't let spaces get disorganized in the first place, and neither does my wife because she knows it drives me nuts, but if I walk into someone's home and it's a mess, I'm in for an uncomfortable visit.
But that's me. For others, I think unhealthy relationships is probly one of the top 5 causes of stress, and being a Yes-Person is another.
I'm pretty chill, but it took practice (I used to have a bad temper). But there's a few things on that list I stress over; pain most of all, and having to limit my activities because of pain. Actually, that's probly my main cause of stress.
Next, in order, is negative self-talk and disorganized space. Well, I don't let spaces get disorganized in the first place, and neither does my wife because she knows it drives me nuts, but if I walk into someone's home and it's a mess, I'm in for an uncomfortable visit.
But that's me. For others, I think unhealthy relationships is probly one of the top 5 causes of stress, and being a Yes-Person is another.
Murrmurr
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I didn't know we came up with a term for the yang of the 2 stresses.
For me, it'll always be called "good vibes."
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In the last 10 months I've suffered from a few things that are apparently top stressers.... in the space of just 2 weeks during those months..I went through a particularly stressful divorce, and was involved in a car crash at age 70...where someone hit my car on the motorway and my car turned over 3 times on it 's roof with me in it..
I was taken blues & 2's to the emergency room .. and had to undergo plastic surgery on my body... and which has left my right hand semi parlaysed with no feeling .. ( apparently it will return to normal at some point )
During this last 10 months.. I had to have steroid injections for arthritic pain in my knees and hip.... and a melanoma cut out of my leg...
I bought a new car and within one month someone else crashed into it...
In the meantime I've been searching for a new property .. without much luck.... but continuing in the meantime to maintain my substantial house and gardens alone...
I eat junk food..drink caffeine... have little money...... but am I depressed ?.. No... !
yet just one of the things I've been through in recent months would have some people swallowing anti depressant meds like smarties...
I was taken blues & 2's to the emergency room .. and had to undergo plastic surgery on my body... and which has left my right hand semi parlaysed with no feeling .. ( apparently it will return to normal at some point )
During this last 10 months.. I had to have steroid injections for arthritic pain in my knees and hip.... and a melanoma cut out of my leg...
I bought a new car and within one month someone else crashed into it...
In the meantime I've been searching for a new property .. without much luck.... but continuing in the meantime to maintain my substantial house and gardens alone...
I eat junk food..drink caffeine... have little money...... but am I depressed ?.. No... !
yet just one of the things I've been through in recent months would have some people swallowing anti depressant meds like smarties...
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Ian McKlatchie
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Good Lady...you're a walking miracle! Just half of that would've seen me taking myself clean out!
Sunkist
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Right on!!!! You definitely come out on top!!
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I'm a lot less stressed since I removed Microsoft OneDrive from my computer. 
hollydolly
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exactly... and my own opinion for the reason for this is that I had a very abusive childhood... and I really do feel, that atho' things hurt me ..I'm not an emotional stone...... I feel that I learned to take the physical and emotional blows of which there were many, during my formative years... and I;m able to shrug off these things , better than most people... because of it as an adult .
A horrible way to have learned as an adult to deal with harsh realities, but if there was any silver lining to an abusive childhood , then this would be it for me...plus I also watched my mother suffer from deep depression .. and ultimately die from an overdose when I was just a teen... I was determined come what may I was never if I could help it, going to go down that route myself... I would do everything in my power to prevent that happening to me..
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And I thought I had troubles. You rock, Holly.
You're amazing!
Oldeagle66
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I've probably had all of those on the same day. Probably why I'm crazier than a long tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs.
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As @Murrmurr said it depends on the individual--both physical and mental stressors.
Caffiene-- different bodies actually respond differently to it. I take after my Dad in that i process it oddly, i have neither the negative or positive effects that some people report. I can consume large quantities right up to bedtime and fall asleep easily anyway. But i can also drastically reduce my daily consumption without the withdrawal shakes or headaches some people i've known get. Summertime i drop from consuming a quart and half of it a day to about 10 oz in morning. The rest of the day i drink herbal sun tea (no caffeine ones) and water.
As a teen i was an insomniac for several reasons including simply not being able to turn my mind OFF. While i've experienced varying degrees of stress at various times from almost everything on the list, once i reached adulthood and had a bit more control over my life and by then was beginning to meditate fairly regularly, i found my self more able to change what i could change and cope with what i couldn't change. But my optimum sleep varies from 5-7 hrs nightly depending on moon cycle and how much i exerted myself physically that day.
Caffiene-- different bodies actually respond differently to it. I take after my Dad in that i process it oddly, i have neither the negative or positive effects that some people report. I can consume large quantities right up to bedtime and fall asleep easily anyway. But i can also drastically reduce my daily consumption without the withdrawal shakes or headaches some people i've known get. Summertime i drop from consuming a quart and half of it a day to about 10 oz in morning. The rest of the day i drink herbal sun tea (no caffeine ones) and water.
As a teen i was an insomniac for several reasons including simply not being able to turn my mind OFF. While i've experienced varying degrees of stress at various times from almost everything on the list, once i reached adulthood and had a bit more control over my life and by then was beginning to meditate fairly regularly, i found my self more able to change what i could change and cope with what i couldn't change. But my optimum sleep varies from 5-7 hrs nightly depending on moon cycle and how much i exerted myself physically that day.
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I like your attitude. Attitude plays an important part in how we deal and cope with negative situations and stressors.. When I was diagnosed with cancer in 2023, I was in shock. After that, my first thought was "poor me" and I wanted to cry but I couldn't. My next thought was that "I've got it and I'm just going to have to deal with it no matter what" and that's how I got through. I had to use mind over matter otherwise I would have self-imploded. I'm not saying antidepressants aren't necessary and helpful for some people. I'm just the type of person that thinks the less drugs in my body, the better.
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absolutely and i agree totally...
There are definitely people who need some kind of chemical help, and maybe one day I might need it myselff so I'm pleased it's there for that reason... but as far as I..and you are concerned we'll do our best NOT to have to rely on something other than our own strength to keep us on the straight and narrow..
I think also where I believe that where I'm concerned anyway... it's a reason that I've never been interested in alcohol or drugs... I just always want to be in full control of my own actions...
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Murrmurr
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I know that isn't funny, but I had to laugh because "blues & 2's" is so British but "swallowing anti depressants like smarties" is totally American.
Anyway, when you talk about your childhood traumas, I think about Paxton. Here's a little dude who had a doting dad and nothing but good vibes at home for the first 28 months of his life, and then bam! suddenly he's being constantly knocked down, tossed around, slapped, taunted and called horrible names by his own mother for 8 long miserable months. He's with a good family now, but I always wonder how he carries that. And I know you know what I mean.
I didn't prepare him for that whatsoever. I don't know how I could have, but still...I feel kind of guilty about it.
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I often think of Paxton and wonder how he's doing now, that poor little chap... bless his little soul ....you did the very best you could for that little guy ! I hope he's living a wonderful life now
Murrmurr
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He's a smart little guy, so he's got that going for him. I was teaching him to read when CPS gave him back to his messed-up mother. He could read 14 different words without help...I kept a list. That's pretty good for a 2 1/2 year old.
It was education-interrupted, but it's a solid sign he's an intelligent kid. And he enjoyed learning. I just hope childhood trauma hasn't become a silent distraction for him.
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I remember...!
Ian McKlatchie
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Whoa, Lady! When you get movin' on yourself, you really get movin'. FORTY FIVE POUNDS? What did you have? A hemicorporectomy? Also, do you have any pictures of your Suzy dog?