We are having a tough time in our family lately. We lost one of our 2 nieces last month from pancreatic cancer. She was 61 and very active in her business and personal life. At present, our wonderful DIL is suffering from the same illness and she is only 55, is an RN and aware of the expected result of this illness. She and our son have 6 children, the youngest suffering from Downs Syndrome. he is 14 now but not high functioning which is an added burden for them. Fortunately, 2 of their kids are married, have children of their own and have settled in the same community as their parents so there is family help available.
I thought that by our age (mid 80's) the kids would be caring for us but we find ourselves making the 100 mile drive to their home and staying for a few days to provide some help and comfort. Our DIL is especially close with my wife and has usually called 2 or 3 times a week to chat, even before her illness. All three of our girls have been down to visit and stay over to help out. They always have called her their 4th sister and include her in their annual "sister's week-end".
Sad times here but others (some in this group) have gone through similar situations. Just a part of life.