Alone Time

Seeker said:
I crave it ,I want it..this retiring thing , this fixed income thing, is about to drive me crazy. Please don't get me wrong I LOVE my man and enjoy his company, but I so want my own time to just be ME. Am I alone in this? Am I not ready? Anyone feel the same? Been married for 40 years always on the go, slowing down is HARD.
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Be careful what you wish for. I have what you are talking about. I hate it with a vengeance.

There's a big difference between being alone and being lonely.

There is nothing like lonely. It's horrible.I guess that's why people have pets. It doesn't feel right to be the only person around.

Just me and my goldfish. Have you ever heard of cabin fever. It's real.
 

With my husbands illness, I’ve come to realize we all need alone time. He’s not going much of anywhere anymore so I purposefully will leave the house for awhile just so he (and I) have alone time. Have learned to respect our privacy.
 
I should have read all the previous posts. Lazy me. Sorry everyone!

I have plenty of alone time, and don't like it much. I, who am an introvert, really crave some company.

I was laid off two years ago, did the job seeking thing and gave up because I figured at my age, I probably wouldn't get hired anyway. (I'm close to early retirement age. I'm almost 61)

Don't get me wrong, alone time is great. I have no problem being alone. But it can get to be overwhelming after a while.
 

Gary O' said:
Uh, when we lived in civilization, I spent a couple weeks at home, laid off.
I kinda went to seed
Bathrobes are comfy
My lady started looking at me quizzically
I’d visually reply with my ‘Wut??’ look…while scratching
I never knew how irritating things like sitting across the table, ‘rattling that newspaper and making those flapping lip noises while sipping coffee’ could be
About the eleventh day she broke free and ran down the road
While she was gone, I decided to surprise her by re-arranging her kitchen for her
You know, to atone for becoming not much more than fallow


That might have been the final straw

I was given 'alone time'

went fishing
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I rearranged my own kitchen and I STILL can't find anything.................think I'll just go fishin'.
 
JohnnyV said:
I look forward to some me time when Im with some one and look forward to some companion time when Im alone, go figure..
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I think we all have been there for sure.

I'd rather be alone than be stuck with someone ! I'm not really sure humans were meant to be together though. I think by & large we are solitary 'animals'

I have been single 65 of my 68 years, I have also known many married folk, and in all my life, I have never heard a single one tell me that they are happy.....Honeymoons don't count :)....and yes I am being serious.

I have heard , content, it's OK, sorta OK, it's like living with a sister, or [brother] it beats doing the cooking, now that we have separate bedrooms, it's better, she does her thing . I do mine....I've had a girlfriend for years...she does'n know...or knows & doesn't care?........... Never heard happy.

A friend of mine recently, after 37 years just walked away from it...told me he was miserable for 25 or more of those years. Picked up with an old girl friend....damn if he didn't marry her...go figure ??
 
rgp said:
I think we all have been there for sure.

I'd rather be alone than be stuck with someone ! I'm not really sure humans were meant to be together though. I think by & large we are solitary 'animals'

I have been single 65 of my 68 years, I have also known many married folk, and in all my life, I have never heard a single one tell me that they are happy.....Honeymoons don't count :)....and yes I am being serious.

I have heard , content, it's OK, sorta OK, it's like living with a sister, or [brother] it beats doing the cooking, now that we have separate bedrooms, it's better, she does her thing . I do mine....I've had a girlfriend for years...she does'n know...or knows & doesn't care?........... Never heard happy.

A friend of mine recently, after 37 years just walked away from it...told me he was miserable for 25 or more of those years. Picked up with an old girl friend....damn if he didn't marry her...go figure ??
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You must hang with some very "different" sorts of folks. I have some married friends, and most are happy and content. Some have been married more than forty years and still travel with each other, still go out on dates, still have fun, together. I will never marry, again, simply because I don't like the legal garbage hanging over my head. My live-in LTR has been with me for the last twelve and a half years. Sure, there are times I wish I lived alone, but what two people living together never have those thoughts? You look at the balance: If the happy times outweigh the sad times, couple-wise, you keep things going. If not, you go your separate ways. No big deal. All in all, I'm happy with my relationship. There, you "heard" someone "say" it! Also, if humans were solitary animals, we would never have accomplished much, in this world. We, in fact, thrive on living in communities and working together to accomplish goals. We band together for the greater good, although the loners in society do seek solitude more than most, even when surrounded by people, on a daily basis. Still, I would never classify H. sapiens as a solitary animal. History doesn't show that.
 
I like being married and doing things together but we also give each other space. I do my thing on the computer or do some of my hobbies here at the house and hubby goes fishing, putters in his garage or goes off to visit friends who live locally.
 
I love alone time which is why I live alone (except for the cat.) When I was married my favorite times were when he went golfing or bowling.:bigwink:
 
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