Am I wrong with grandson?

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Patnono

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It's in the triple digits here, my daughter gives him water, I have no problem with that. Thing is he's been refusing to drink any. I'm concerned because of the heat don't want him to get sick. So I gave him some sugar-free Kool aid type powder in his water, he drank it All. She got upset with me. I wanted to keep him hydrated. I never give him soda. Was I WRONG? She left him in my Care.
 

I don't think so. Much better than soda. What about Gatorade? It comes in flavors. What does she give him to drink besides water? He might like the flavored waters called Ice. Sometimes I will get them and they are tasty. If my daughter told me to not give him kool aid, then she better leave something with me that he will drink. Otherwise I will keep him hydrated. I would have given him regular kool aid because of the chemicals in artificial sweeteners. When I kept my grands my daughter and I had a good understanding of what to feed them. She knew what I had in the house and would bring stuff if they wanted something different.
 
I try to respect my children's wishes when it comes to the grandkids. Not to say that some treats from Grandma don't go unmentioned. :D
 

I usually do, but this time I was more concerned about his safety. He's 4 and very active, I gurantee that if I didn't give him any and him refusing to drink water and he got heat exhaustion, I would have been blamed for this. It's happened in the past where I didn't substitute something for what she normally gives him and was Why didn't I do that? They live with me, I can't WIN? Thanks for writing
 
I agree with Terry about things with artificial sweeteners, lots of bad press about them, the sugar version is probably healthier. I never drank Kool Aid and doubt I would ever give it to my kids, natural juices that are unsweetened would be better choice, in my opinion.

What was your daughter's objection? Would she have been okay if you gave him for example half orange juice or apple juice and half water? Did she not like the idea of giving something with artificial sweeteners? If she's particular about what you give him to drink, then she needs to have some options available. Most kids won't drink plain water very readily. Maybe some homemade lemonade?

I suggest you sit down with your daughter and have a discussion about what he can or can't have when you're watching him. That's the only way to get it out in the open and make things clear. Since you're the adult in charge of him when she's gone, you should have some leeway in these types of decisions, while still respecting her wishes.
 
Agree SB.

My 2 cents- what have we done to kids, that they won't drink anything that's not sweet? They are over-juiced to a large degree. Gosh, I can remember being tiny and thirsty, when my mom passed down a glass of cold water, I drank it with delight! (with 2 hands) Nothing... I mean nothing, quenches or refreshes like real water!
 
I try to abide by my children's wishes. If it were me I would have watered down some orange or apple juice.

When kids are thirsty, they'll drink water or whatever is at hand.

For the record, my grandchildren mostly drink water. Never soda and rarely juice.
 
It's Rare that I've done that. She won't even let him have any kind of juice. Only Water and Milk or Pedialyte. which milk has sugar? Just drinking those things are boring, he needs variety. We all have flavor buds. He takes vitamins everyday. We had talks about what he can and cannot eat or drink. I think she's trying to compensate for the Bad things he gets at the other grandparents house, which we know involves Mc Donald's? He's not allowed fast food, which I dont buy him either. When I go shopping I don't bring toys only foods that I know he likes and are good for him.
 
Patnono said:
It's Rare that I've done that. She won't even let him have any kind of juice. Only Water and Milk or Pedialyte. which milk has sugar? Just drinking those things are boring, he needs variety. We all have flavor buds. He takes vitamins everyday. We had talks about what he can and cannot eat or drink. I think she's trying to compensate for the Bad things he gets at the other grandparents house, which we know involves Mc Donald's? He's not allowed fast food, which I dont buy him either. When I go shopping I don't bring toys only foods that I know he likes and are good for him.
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This isn't the first time you've mentioned difficulties getting along with your daughter and her family. You and she appear to have boundary problems with each other that are exacerbated by living under the same roof. The two of you seem unable to sit down and negotiate a peace and some compromises. I'm sorry for the upsets that this must cause all of you.
 
I don't know of anyone who has kids that hasn't had total mutual agreements on everything? I do pick my battle's. I'am CPR certified so I do know what I'm doing when it comes to First Aid.
 
Does the little boy feel he can work grandma? If your daughter only gives him water, milk or Pedialyte does he get dehydrated when she is with him? I would only abide by my daughter's wishes and I have a daughter and she has a child (now grown up) so I am speaking from experience. If he starts to get dehydrated put him in the car and take him to the ER and then after that, ask your daughter what she wants you to do in the future? I'd guess one time in the ER with your grandson hooked up to an intravenous feeding tube he would gladly drink water when grandma offered it to him.
 
He was never in danger of being dehydrated, this was just a precaution cause he was refusing to drink any water. Trust me I'm not one of those grandmother's who wants to give him everything he wants. I've seen too many other grandmother's who've done that. These grandkids are now grown up with an entitled and lazy attitude. I plan on moving next year anyway. I only have his best interest. She's gotten over it, we're good.
 
Patnono said:
He was never in danger of being dehydrated, this was just a precaution cause he was refusing to drink any water. Trust me I'm not one of those grandmother's who wants to give him everything he wants. I've seen too many other grandmother's who've done that. These grandkids are now grown up with an entitled and lazy attitude. I plan on moving next year anyway. I only have his best interest. She's gotten over it, we're good.
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Patnono said:
It's in the triple digits here, my daughter gives him water, I have no problem with that. Thing is he's been refusing to drink any. I'm concerned because of the heat don't want him to get sick. So I gave him some sugar-free Kool aid type powder in his water, he drank it All. She got upset with me. I wanted to keep him hydrated. I never give him soda. Was I WRONG? She left him in my Care.
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Well, Patnono, you've suckered me into thinking you were talking in the present.

and if you are....how old is the little nipper now, 20?

This thread just became.....incredible

Nice one
 
In hot weather you have to stay hydrated and it doesn't matter where the source of the liquid comes from.

I prefer beer and coffee.

Probably carbonated water without any sweeteners would work as well. Water by itself is yucky. Mybe even water with a bit of lemon juice would do the trick.
 
Patnono said:
It's Rare that I've done that. She won't even let him have any kind of juice. Only Water and Milk or Pedialyte. which milk has sugar? Just drinking those things are boring, he needs variety. We all have flavor buds. He takes vitamins everyday. We had talks about what he can and cannot eat or drink. I think she's trying to compensate for the Bad things he gets at the other grandparents house, which we know involves Mc Donald's? He's not allowed fast food, which I dont buy him either. When I go shopping I don't bring toys only foods that I know he likes and are good for him.
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In one post he refused to drink water now he drinks water if his mother gives it to him? In this post sounds like you are trying to prop yourself up as the good granny. With all the communication/financial problems you have described in other posts maybe it's time for you to stop being the enabler and let the other grandparents enjoy the care and feeding of your daughter & grandson. Maybe then your daughter will see the fast food trips and bad things he gets at the other grandparents and appreciate your efforts.
 
Camper6 said:
I don't agree. Sorry but that's what hockey teams drink in the dressing room after a game.

Beer is mostly water. I would never drink a gin collins or any hard liquor however or even wine.
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Hockey game is not severe heat. I also don't see what beer/alcohol have to do with the topic.
 
C'est Moi said:
You mean you don't give beer to your grandchildren??? :lol:
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We are talking about hydration. There's no difference between sweating it out in a hockey game or on a golf course in high heat and humidity or even on a real hot day at home.

You have to replace the chemicals and minerals lost in sweating and plain water just doesn't cut it.

Today I went to the grocery store and picked up some beer. The clerk jokingly asked me if I was over 25? I told her well not quite yet I just have had a very hard life.
 
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