Anxiety attacks

Here’s the thing. What bothers me most about a reductionist western insistence that an anxious person should just grasp proactivity and run with it until they are “cured,” is that it doesn’t always work, at least in the short term. If it

fails, all too often an Uber stressed individual is castigated for not working hard enough to take control of their life. Adding shame/blame/guilt to the list of negative emotions already crowding their brain can be crazy making. I believe that

learning/utilising coping mechanisms is often a passport out of anxiety, that we are responsible for trying to better our mental health if competent to do so. But, but, I also embrace the Buddhist philosophy of stopping action, and

sitting in the moment, waiting for the mind to have an opportunity to clear, and begin to heal itself. Sometimes, no matter what we do, the journey to a healthier mind is a very painful, jagged, back and forth, up and down thing. That

is ok. I have a huge portfolio of coping mechanisms, hey, I teach them. Lol. Yet, anxiety has walked with me, off and on for years. Is that normal? Dunno, but it is normal for me. 🙂
 

cdestroyer said:
was in a local grocery store a couple of years before the pandemic. Looking over the veggies when two older women met and hugged each other, then another came up and hugged... nobody hugged me. and I said gee I never get hugged,,, of course I got the evil eye from all three....prevert. and yall may think it funny but I do not!! I wear a cap stating my veteran status, so why pass me off?
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Big hug, and a kiss on the cheek from a small Canuck. 🤗🥰
 
would it help to breath those 7 seconds without causing a panic attack watch my o2 level drop
 

Duneman said:
Question 1 Is it normal for elderly male 72 to have to have anxiety I think it's anxiety attacks. I take drink or valium for it.
Question. 2. Important
How is an elderly person to feel living at home happily married but neither has any relatives close by.
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Sorry if this sounds brutal, but nobody has ever found solace at the bottom of the bottle. If it were so, it would have been on prescriptions decades ago. As for your second point:

The phrase 'If the mountain will not come to Muhammad then Muhammad must go to the mountain, arises from the story of Muhammad as retold by Francis Bacon, in Essays, 1625: "

And when the Hill stood still, he was neuer a whit abashed, but said; If the Hill will not come to Mahomet, then Mahomet must go to the hill.

Loosely translated it simply means that potential friends are not about to come knocking on your door. But if you do something about that, like join an association, a church group, a music society or anything that puts you in touch with like minded people, you will quickly become enriched with the company of others.
 
horseless carriage said:
Sorry if this sounds brutal, but nobody has ever found solace at the bottom of the bottle. If it were so, it would have been on prescriptions decades ago. As for your second point:

The phrase 'If the mountain will not come to Muhammad then Muhammad must go to the mountain, arises from the story of Muhammad as retold by Francis Bacon, in Essays, 1625: "

And when the Hill stood still, he was neuer a whit abashed, but said; If the Hill will not come to Mahomet, then Mahomet must go to the hill.

Loosely translated it simply means that potential friends are not about to come knocking on your door. But if you do something about that, like join an association, a church group, a music society or anything that puts you in touch with like minded people, you will quickly become enriched with the company of others.
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I think that may depend on the severity and root cause of a person’s anxiety. While I agree that reaching out to the community in some form or another can be beneficial, sometimes an individual is unable to find the emotional/mental

strength to deal with social situations. Even with therapy etc, the healing process can be a lonely journey, at least in the beginning. That has been my personal experience on more than one occasion. 🙂
 
Rosemarie said:
What exactly are you anxious about? Is it that you fear something happening and there being no-one close enough to help? In Britain, we have an organisation you can sign up to, which has emergency help at the end of a button. They give you a bracelet which you press if you need help. Isn't there something similar in the States?
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No we don't have that here.
 
Shalimar said:
Also, although drugs and booze are crutches at best, even Freud acknowledged that at times we need escapes to get us through the night. Life can be messy and very painful, healing almost always is. 😁
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True; there are all kinds of crutches: food, shopping, religion, astrology. What works for some, doesn't work for others and I of course admire those who truly don't need any kind of crutch. (Although I do wonder if such people even exist; at any rate, I'm tired of judgment.)
 
I do feel people need to escape more now than before the pandemic. There's so much more at the present time to be anxious about that if someone wanted a drink to help them sleep, I wouldn't condemn it, but it is better to try to find something to escape "into" than "away from."
 
Many of us simply think too much. We all have imagination and it's easy to find yourself thinking about all the dreadful things that could happen. I use my imagination to create an alternative life for myself....a bit like role playing but it's strictly inside my own head. I do find that if I concentrate on good things happening, it does lift my mood.
 

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