I understand. Part of my issue is having wildly expensive things bought “for me” that I don’t really want and never asked for nor expected (and sometimes I suspect not really for me). They have a pattern of spending wildly in general, and waste money like there’s no tomorrow. Then later when the bills come due , they look to me for more money. I’ve resisted so far because I was clear about what I would pay going in, and I don’t think it’s fair to expect more from a senior citizen on a fixed income than they agreed to after moving in. I feel like I’m dealing with someone with a spending problem and they need to work on that rather than looking to me to solve their self-imposed problems. I’ve just given them a really nice piece of jewelry for Christmas. I was thinking something to remember me by, a family heirloom to pass down, that sort of thing. Now I’m getting hints that a much larger rent is wanted, and that the gift I’d hoped would be cherished is not wanted. To me this is just rudeness and lack of gratitude not to simply graciously accept a gift offered with love without trying to turn it into some kind of financial windfall. Just because a senior citizen on a fixed income can save, or use layaway or a credit card to buy a loved one an expensive gift doesn’t mean they have money to throw around!
