Anyone joined a dating site what are your experiences?

I think it would be great if it could work, but the major obstacle I see is geographical. The odds of you finding someone on here that lives within 100 miles of you is pretty remote (At least from what I've seen), and even if that unlikely occurrence were to happen, the odds of you both being a great match would be a miracle.
This is what I was thinking, too... plus if someone *did* "fall" for another member, not only would we all see the back and forth leading up to it, but we'd also hear the fallout if someone flew off to Japan and had a miserable time with the "date." :oops: On dating sites, it's private and everyone else doesn't get to see the exchanges like on a forum.
 

I think it would be great if it could work, but the major obstacle I see is geographical. The odds of you finding someone on here that lives within 100 miles of you is pretty remote (At least from what I've seen), and even if that unlikely occurrence were to happen, the odds of you both being a great match would be a miracle. If a person is into long distance relationships, I guess that's another matter, but for the most part, it seems daunting.
Lol, we could all book a cruise together, however, when the cruise was over, you would still be faced with the same problem. But then again, what happens at sea stays at sea ;) .
I agree with you 100%. it is hard enough to meet someone in your own area, let alone someone online that is a long distance away and to make it work out that is another can of worms. I am not saying it would never happen, because it could but the chances are quite slim.
 
For what it's worth, I'm voting for that can of worms you mentioned. I think dating apps and sites are fine for meeting someone locally or even semi-locally, but SF is global and there are all kinds of potential problems that could arise.

As for the loneliness, I don't think it needs a dedicated thread because that's already what some of us are doing... forming close friendships, and it isn't really a "singles" issue because everyone gets lonely. I've seen members sharing and forming closeness woven throughout threads that are already here.

But... that's just me weighing in. I've been glad to have a site that *doesn't* open itself to the things that "dating sites" always seem to end up being.
I wasn’t suggesting a separate thread or section due to single people getting lonely. I was just adding it as an after thought. Even if members can’t meet in person, they might enjoy chatting with each other privately. It was just another reason for agreeing with the idea. It was being supportive of the idea. It’s not something I’m interested in but I think there’s a lot of people here who would like it.
 

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This is what I was thinking, too... plus if someone *did* "fall" for another member, not only would we all see the back and forth leading up to it, but we'd also hear the fallout if someone flew off to Japan and had a miserable time with the "date." :oops: On dating sites, it's private and everyone else doesn't get to see the exchanges like on a forum.
I thought of that too. 😂
 
Maybe SF should open a thread on dating, you know, for those who wish to meet and form relationships. Does that make sense? I know this isn't a dating site, but there are plenty of single women and men on SF that have voiced about being lonely, and a few times about dating online. @hollydolly, I don't want to derail your thread, just see if there is any interest in this. Do you think it might open up a can of worms (bringing in people that might not be Seniors).
well..I think it would bring it's own problems tbh having a dating site as part of the forum.... people on here can choose to become more friendly, and perhaps become couples if they wish.. behind the scenes... this has already happened on here to my knowledge with at least 4 couples..in the years I've been here

A Dating forum would have to be more moderated than this forum is already... ensuring there was no-one under age.. no scammers and so on,... so I don't think it would work... nice idea but like I say if people want to get closer, they'll do it by Private message on here regardless of distance..
 
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Maybe SF should open a thread on dating, you know, for those who wish to meet and form relationships. Does that make sense? I know this isn't a dating site, but there are plenty of single women and men on SF that have voiced about being lonely, and a few times about dating online. @hollydolly, I don't want to derail your thread, just see if there is any interest in this. Do you think it might open up a can of worms (bringing in people that might not be Seniors).
Good idea Patty!
However such a forum should have two moderators, male and female.
Preferably someone who has been happily married for at least 50 years!
 
Maybe SF should open a thread on dating, you know, for those who wish to meet and form relationships. Does that make sense? I know this isn't a dating site, but there are plenty of single women and men on SF that have voiced about being lonely, and a few times about dating online.
I can't speak for Matrix, but I'd bet the farm that a dating forum will never happen, no matter how many members are interested.

If you find yourself attracted to and are interested in connecting more personally with a member on SF, your best bet is to do so by PM. Whatever type of connection you're seeking, always approach it with the utmost caution and respect. If someone is interested in pursuing it further or not, they'll let you know.
 
I can't speak for Matrix, but I'd bet the farm that a dating forum will never happen, no matter how many members are interested.

If you find yourself attracted to and are interested in connecting more personally with a member on SF, your best bet is to do so by PM. Whatever type of connection you're seeking, always approach it with the utmost caution and respect. If someone is interested in pursuing it further or not, they'll let you know.
Thanks @Bella, and everyone for your inputs! Just to be clear, I wasn't interested in starting a dating forum for me. This was a general idea, that just popped into my head, given what I saw happening here and in other threads.
 
Reading all your dating site experiences had me laughing out loud. It's like we're all on this crazy rollercoaster of love!
I totally agree that finding someone geographically close can be a challenge, but hey, who knows, love might just be one click away. And remember, what happens on the forum, stays on the forum! Wishing you all the best in your dating adventures and, most importantly, in forming those beautiful friendships that make life even sweeter. Keep sharing those heartwarming and hilarious stories
Welcome to the forum @Sallynn :)
 
I wasn’t suggesting a separate thread or section due to single people getting lonely. I was just adding it as an after thought. Even if members can’t meet in person, they might enjoy chatting with each other privately. It was just another reason for agreeing with the idea. It was being supportive of the idea. It’s not something I’m interested in but I think there’s a lot of people here who would like it.
New to this site and I hope someone male or female responds so I can see how this forum works. Trying dating site now. Sometimes I just want a male perspective on things.
 
New to this site and I hope someone male or female responds so I can see how this forum works. Trying dating site now. Sometimes I just want a male perspective on things.
Hi and welcome. This was just a discussion brought up about the possibility of adding a dating section to this site. This forum is not a dating site though. As discussed in previous posts though, if two members strike up a conversation and it so happens to take off in private messages and even further than that is fine, but nothing is formal.
 
Hi and welcome. This was just a discussion brought up about the possibility of adding a dating section to this site. This forum is not a dating site though. As discussed in previous posts though, if two members strike up a conversation and it so happens to take off in private messages and even further than that is fine, but nothing is fo

Hi and welcome. This was just a discussion brought up about the possibility of adding a dating section to this site. This forum is not a dating site though. As discussed in previous posts though, if two members strike up a conversation and it so happens to take off in private messages and even further than that is fine, but nothing is formal.
Thanks so much for your reply Monica and I do understand what you mean by formal. So how can I get to private messages if needed. Is there a section here to help newbies navigate the forum.
 
New to this site and I hope someone male or female responds so I can see how this forum works. Trying dating site now. Sometimes I just want a male perspective on things.
This is a forum for over 50 seniors only. We create threads to discuss various topics. It’s not a dating site. This thread was created by one of our members who is or was curious or interested in joining a dating site . She opened this thread to get a response from others to see how they felt about it.

Since so many responded, another member asked about creating another thread for members interested , which I initially thought was a good idea. My main reason for thinking it was a good idea is because I’ve made friends with certain members only to discover that they didn’t just want a platonic friendship and that’s not something I’m personally interested in.

If there was a thread for people who were interested in this type of relationship, then these people would know who’s game and who isn’t so my views were a bit on the selfish side.

I don’t think creating a dating section is a good idea for this forum, for various reasons, but I do hope that some day there’s a thread or section for those who are looking for romance or ‘other types of friendships’ so these people know what people are open to that type of thing. I’m not.
 
I don’t think creating a dating section is a good idea for this forum, for various reasons, but I do hope that some day there’s a thread or section for those who are looking for romance or ‘other types of friendships’ so these people know what people are open to that type of thing. I’m not.
Great post, Patty... I agree with all of it except the thread or section for "other" relationships.... those are a dime a dozen all over the 'net and apps. This place would change so much and already there have been inquiries... since just yesterday! I think the mature people who frequent this board know how to contact each other privately for friendship, or whatever without advertising it.
 
Like @hollydolly said, I am also new here and jumped into this conversation yesterday as I am also single. I am also in total agreement with @PeppermintPatty that this site not have a dating section. Like I stated, if two members strike up a conversation and see that they have things in common than they can pursue that in the private messages or elsewhere if they like. We are all adults here and I think we all can handle this appropriately without it being something formal if any of us want to go down that avenue.
 
Like I stated, if two members strike up a conversation and see that they have things in common than they can pursue that in the private messages or elsewhere if they like.
Perhaps they'd have better luck on one of the dating apps? Just a thought... using SF as a private messaging hub only... doesn't feel right... because then there will be members joining ONLY for the PM'ing and that would basically make it a hook-up site after all.
 


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