Anyone joined a dating site what are your experiences?

hollydolly said:
I still haven't signed up to any sites yet.... I am having trouble getting interested enough tbh...
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I certainly understand. I was not actively involved in these sites. I turned down or did not reply to those that I thought were too “dating” like. I also did not embellish myself or reveal too much about me. Mostly focused on them so I could really see they were who they were. Today is far different on those sites now then when I first went on.
 

Wontactmyage said:
I certainly understand. I was not actively involved in these sites. I turned down or did not reply to those that I thought were too “dating” like. I also did not embellish myself or reveal too much about me. Mostly focused on them so I could really see they were who they were. Today is far different on those sites now then when I first went on.
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in what way would you say they're different ?:unsure:
 
I view online dating sites as simply a way to meet a person I would normally not meet as I go about my life.

As I age, I find I don’t need the dating sites. The ratio of men to women is tilted quite a bit since the ladies outlive we men, and often take better care of themselves. Besides, I can only eat one casserole a day. And most women are to discerning to go out with a guy like me.
 
Brookswood said:
I view online dating sites as simply a way to meet a person I would normally not meet as I go about my life.

As I age, I find I don’t need the dating sites. The ratio of men to women is tilted quite a bit since the ladies outlive we men, and often take better care of themselves. Besides, I can only eat one casserole a day. And most women are to discerning to go out with a guy like me.
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why, what is it that you think women don't like about you ?:unsure:
 
I have done the dating sites and didn't meet any local men that would be interested in a friend. I am looking for a platonic friend. I just want some company.

My profile is also open to women and I have chatted with several and most have been heartbroken by the death of their spouses and very deeply sad. After commiserating with me in a chat they stop chatting.

I do have a new friend who is a lady. We are going out for lunch one of these days. I have a male friend out of state and we chat on our phones at times.

There are a lot of romance scammers on the free sites I've used. I can usually spot them because of clues in their profiles. I have chatted with some just to see what they are up to but that got old pretty fast.

So I have a new local friend. I want to go to the senior center at the end of the street. I hear they have resources and activities.

The search on dating sites has been long and difficult especially to weed out people who are scamming and just looking for a sex partner. I'm not interested in that. I've had enough of that in my younger years.
 
I visited ours and I liked playing pool for a donation. Otherwise I felt like I was in a wing at a hospital...kind of like a psych ward....Not as bad as "One Flew Over the Koo's Koo's Nest". No, I think they are a great place for a lot of seniors. I could see how involved and pleasant they were. I am sure there are some cranky ones but I felt very comfortable there. I don't think they engage in political fights there. Come to think on of it this forum is kinda like it was there. People are very civil, usually...with the of comments or arguments about which color you like best. 😄 We don't do any dating, although sometimes I can tell if it is male or female posting. At a senior center it is much more personal, and I think some of them hook up. Good for them. I am satisficed and have been for over 30 years. I also have close female friends.
 
A friend of mine met someone on a dating site and agreed to meet up with him for dinner. Her son was a little suspicious and waited with her, date came into view and looked a little dishevelled., next minute he tripped and fell into the gutter, he was drunk as a skunk, and she and her son quickly hurried away. No more blind dates for her.
 
oscash said:
A friend of mine met someone on a dating site and agreed to meet up with him for dinner. Her son was a little suspicious and waited with her, date came into view and looked a little dishevelled., next minute he tripped and fell into the gutter, he was drunk as a skunk, and she and her son quickly hurried away. No more blind dates for her.
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you know what Im thinking...I'm thinking if I ever meet up with someone...I'm going to tell them I'm dressed in Red, when I'm really dressed in Black... say at a restaurant.. or a park.. and I'm going to sit and watch their behaviour for about 15 minutes after they arrive, before I decide whether to introduce myself... :D
 
hollydolly said:
you know what Im thinking...I'm thinking if I ever meet up with someone...I'm going to tell them I'm dressed in Red, when I'm really dressed in Black... say at a restaurant.. or a park.. and I'm going to sit and watch their behaviour for about 15 minutes after they arrive, before I decide whether to introduce myself... :D
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I dunno Hol. You want to find a guy that's honest and upfront with you, and you're gonna lie to him right off the bat. That doesn't sound like you. I don't think you would go through with that plan. Besides, he may go up to a lady in Red sitting by herself, they may hit it off, and away they go. I think if you're serious about this, just let him know from the start that you are unsure about the whole thing, and if either of you feel it's not what you're looking for, no hard feeling, just a polite goodbye.
 
bobcat48 said:
I dunno Hol. You want to find a guy that's honest and upfront with you, and you're gonna lie to him right off the bat. That doesn't sound like you. I don't think you would go through with that plan. Besides, he may go up to a lady in Red sitting by herself, they may hit it off, and away they go. I think if you're serious about this, just let him know from the start that you are unsure about the whole thing, and if either of you feel it's not what you're looking for, no hard feeling, just a polite goodbye.
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I was joking.... however I doubt I'm even going to do this Dating site lark... sounds like most of it is filled with weirdos... both male and female..
 
Pookie said:
Please don't do that. Meeting a person in real life is much better. There are scammers and deadbeats out there on dating sites. And if you do meet a person on a dating website, never, ever start sending them money.
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lol.. I am not entirely stupid.. besides I have no money to send them..lol...... however there's little to no chance of me meeting anyone around here... so that one is dead in the water..
 
hollydolly said:
yeah...well I haven't even joined a site yet... can't get the enthusiasm up tbh...
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Sorry, I didn't mean to just be you on a dating site, I just meant be you as you socialize with others.
Look, I've never been on a dating site, so my advice probably isn't worth diddley squat, but here's what I think, if you choose to do it:
Don't agree to meet anyone any time soon. Try e-mailing first (You can always block them). Take some time to get to know them. Then when you feel comfortable with it and things are going well, then try phone conversations (See how that goes), if it's still good, then exchange a few pictures, and finally if it seems like you are really getting to like this guy, then meet. If he's not willing to put in the time to get to know you first before meeting, then he's not worth it.
 
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bobcat48 said:
Sorry, I didn't mean to just be you on a dating site, I just meant be you as you socialize with others.
Look, I've never been on a dating site, so my advice probably isn't worth diddley squat, but here's what I think, if you choose to do it:
Don't agree to meet anyone any time soon. Try e-mailing first (You can always block them). Take some time to get to know them. Then when you feel comfortable with it and things are going well, then try phone conversations (See how that goes), if it's still good, then exchange a few pictures, and finally if it seems like you are really getting to like this guy, then meet. If he's not willing to put in the time to get to know you first before meeting, then he's not worth it.
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yes if I do join a site, or match with anyone that's precisely what I would do...
 
bobcat48 said:
Sorry, I didn't mean to just be you on a dating site, I just meant be you as you socialize with others.
Look, I've never been on a dating site, so my advice probably isn't worth diddley squat, but here's what I think, if you choose to do it:
Don't agree to meet anyone any time soon. Try e-mailing first (You can always block them). Take some time to get to know them. Then when you feel comfortable with it and things are going well, then try phone conversations (See how that goes), if it's still good, then exchange a few pictures, and finally if it seems like you are really getting to like this guy, then meet. If he's not willing to put in the time to get to know you first before meeting, then he's not worth it.
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I know that sounds like a good approach but personally I have found it best to meet quickly. I like to say the only way to know if you're truly attracted to someone is to give them the sniff test.

Online or even phone calls puts a filter or buffer between you and the other person. It's easy to create an imagined idea of someone but when you meet they're totally different than you expected, and that's a two way street.

My approach was to connect online, get some preliminaries out of the way then meet, within a week. Obviously you need to be safe, only meet in public, tell a friend or family member all the details of the meetup.
 

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