Anyone joined a dating site what are your experiences?

PeppermintPatty said:
Chemistry isn’t always instant. With all the romance movies and novels we’ve been conditioned to believe it should be but for many, it’s a slow building process so I wouldn’t totally ditch the idea.
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That's why I believe in long term dating. It takes time to get to know someone. Best is to have all sort of dates and watch your partner. If he keeps swearing at everything or keeps having some sort of anger problem; WATCH OUT! Worse of all, if a man pushes or even lightly hits you; run, not walk away. Trust me, you don't want this sort of creep around you. No one deserves to live with an abusive man. There are good, non abusive men around. The search for one is well worth you time, your money and your sanity. 😍😍
 

hollydolly said:
I'm laughing but actually, that's given me an idea to add that as part of my profile. I've been a dancer all my life.. but my husband never would go dancing with me.. ever... so I think I'll make that a stipulation...
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I enjoy dancing. After all, where else can a man take a woman he barely knows into his arms, tell her what to do, exactly when to do it, and she is perfectly happy to comply???
 
Packerjohn said:
That's why I believe in long term dating. It takes time to get to know someone. Best is to have all sort of dates and watch your partner. If he keeps swearing at everything or keeps having some sort of anger problem; WATCH OUT! Worse of all, if a man pushes or even lightly hits you; run, not walk away. Trust me, you don't want this sort of creep around you. No one deserves to live with an abusive man. There are good, non abusive men around. The search for one is well worth you time, your money and your sanity. 😍😍
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Same goes with women, though the abuse is often verbal. I had a short term experience with one like that. She started off being charming and fun to be with. At three months, she started to resent some things about me like where I lived, what my neighbors were like, the restaurants in my home town, my kids who did NOT go to college, my car, etc. etc. etc. A few weeks later she started ripping into me using language that would make a sailor blush. The issue had something to do with me not wanting a dog. Apparently that made me a selfish bad person. I took her home and told her that I would not see her again as this would never work out. After a few weeks the abusive phone messages she was leaving stopped. I feel rather foolish for putting up with her abuse for so long.

Thankfully, most of the ladies I have met during my late life bachelorhood have been great people. Not the right mate for me, but great people.
 

hollydolly said:
I'm considering joining a Senior dating site for over 60's.. ..it's not that I want to find a long term relationship... I would just like to find a casual friend basically... Nowdays there's no going down the pub or to a dance hall and meeting a guy like we did in our youth.. and now o/h's been gone almost 2 years it's time for me to start thinking about having a bit of a life before I get too much older... but I have no experience of dating sites per se.. except for some of the horror stories you read about people meeting weirdos and potential axe murderers...

So.. has anyone joined a dating site.. what were your experiences.. and thoughts..
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Yes, I met my guy on a dating site. You just have to be careful, but there are still good ones out there.
 
Brookswood said:
Same goes with women, though the abuse is often verbal. I had a short term experience with one like that. She started off being charming and fun to be with. At three months, she started to resent some things about me like where I lived, what my neighbors were like, the restaurants in my home town, my kids who did NOT go to college, my car, etc. etc. etc. A few weeks later she started ripping into me using language that would make a sailor blush. The issue had something to do with me not wanting a dog. Apparently that made me a selfish bad person. I took her home and told her that I would not see her again as this would never work out. After a few weeks the abusive phone messages she was leaving stopped. I feel rather foolish for putting up with her abuse for so long.

Thankfully, most of the ladies I have met during my late life bachelorhood have been great people. Not the right mate for me, but great people.
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Sounds like you got to know a very abusive woman. Good thing you got rid of her. For a relationship to work you need a lot of patience, kindness, understanding and mostly common sense. This woman deserves to be alone. Sure, she wanted a dog. A dog that she can push around. I feel sorry for the dog but I sure don't feel sorry for you. Guess you didn't want to be her "dog." Smart move on your side. Marry a woman like that and you would be living in hell right here on earth.
 
hollydolly said:
lol..there's many men out there who would be very happy to date a woman who does all the chores.. .. ever heard of the phrase..looking for a nurse or a purse ?
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You must be talking about lazy men. Those bald headed ones with the beard who love to watch TV all day long. They love beer and they love watching football.

Fortunately, all men are not like that. Today I fixed my girl friend's blood pressure meter and gave her 3 dozen dates (the fruit). I also gave her a jar of nut spread from Costco and some equipment to clean her BBQ. A few days ago I cut her grass and next week I am going to clean out 2 of her sinks as they seem to be plugged. I do all these things because she is a nice person. By the way, I cook most of my meals, do my own laundry and don't mind vacuuming. A lazy man I am not!
 
Packerjohn said:
You must be talking about lazy men. Those bald headed ones with the beard who love to watch TV all day long. They love beer and they love watching football.

Fortunately, all men are not like that. Today I fixed my girl friend's blood pressure meter and gave her 3 dozen dates (the fruit). I also gave her a jar of nut spread from Costco and some equipment to clean her BBQ. A few days ago I cut her grass and next week I am going to clean out 2 of her sinks as they seem to be plugged. I do all these things because she is a nice person. By the way, I cook most of my meals, do my own laundry and don't mind vacuuming. A lazy man I am not!
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My husband wasn't fat or bald... he is a very intelligent man .. in full time work.. turns his hands to everything and does it well.. from house decorating to motor mechanics, to plumbing, electrics.. he'll even do the shopping.. you name it he can do it....

It doesn't make him less of a cheater or a liar... :(
 
EmptyCup said:
It’s the broken trust. That’s what ruined my marriage (along with drug addiction). Affairs are the cowards way out of a relationship.
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oooh I'm sorry you had to go through it too... the lies, the cheating.. the broken trust as you say... and an addiction on top... just horrific... but who suffers ?.. not those Bar stewards that's for sure..
 
hollydolly said:
...I haven't been looking up to now... and even when I start looking, I'll only be doing it on a casual basis.. I won't be rushing to find just anyone.. like @jujube was back in the day..I've been genuinely thinking of not bothering and just getting a dog for company.. and that's what 'll do if I think the whole dating site thing is not for me..
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Holly, I am an old married guy, and I say you should have a date and a new dog! Dogs are great companions and if the dog doesn't like the guy, you will know to dump him...
 
Timewise 60+ said:
Holly, I am an old married guy, and I say you should have a date and a new dog! Dogs are great companions and if the dog doesn't like the guy, you will know to dump him...
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I love dogs... but aside from recently , I travel a lot abroad, and I wouldn't want to leave a dog in kennels... ..I'm not that young Jim...I'm only 18 months from 70 ( I'm fortunate to look young)... so I don't want to be tied by an animal. When my travelling days are over, I'll probably get a dog..
 
Packerjohn said:
You must be talking about lazy men. Those bald headed ones with the beard who love to watch TV all day long. They love beer and they love watching football.

Fortunately, all men are not like that. Today I fixed my girl friend's blood pressure meter and gave her 3 dozen dates (the fruit). I also gave her a jar of nut spread from Costco and some equipment to clean her BBQ. A few days ago I cut her grass and next week I am going to clean out 2 of her sinks as they seem to be plugged. I do all these things because she is a nice person. By the way, I cook most of my meals, do my own laundry and don't mind vacuuming. A lazy man I am not!
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Might need to clone you :giggle:
 
Maybe there is no way to not be taken advantage of. Lifes a risk. are you worth it? The more social a person you meet is, most likely the fuller of B.S. If their handicapped, they mostly likely are honest? sure, life's a risk. Being lonely, even in a managed care facility sux is a good thought. Maybe you spend years just messaging each other. still its sort of something!
 
hollydolly said:
I love dogs... but aside from recently , I travel a lot abroad, and I wouldn't want to leave a dog in kennels... ..I'm not that young Jim...I'm only 18 months from 70 ( I'm fortunate to look young)... so I don't want to be tied by an animal. When my travelling days are over, I'll probably get a dog..
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Aaaahhh HD. That's what I said about when I'd wait to get a kitten when I was ready to slow down on my traveling, maybe in 10 years (I'd be in my mid 80s). But our Deja found me, and I couldn't let her go! Don't know if you remember the story, but she meowed quite loudly the first night and camped out on my patio, one of 24 in the complex, for two nights. I fell in love with her the moment I saw her :love: but was still hesitant to take her in. As long as anincredibly cute and sweet stray dog doesn't come up to you looking to be adopted, you'll be safe. :ROFLMAO:
 
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OneEyedDiva said:
Aaaahhh HD. That's what I said about when I'd wait to get a kitten when I was ready to slow down on my traveling, maybe in 10 years (I'd be in my mid 80s). But our Deja found me, and I couldn't let her go! Don't know if you remember the story, but she meowed quite loudly the first night and camped out on my patio, one of 24 in the complex, for two nights. I fell in love with her the moment I saw her :love: but was still hesitant to take her in. As long as no incredibly cute and sweet stray dog doesn't come up to you looking to be adopted, you'll be safe. :ROFLMAO:
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LOL>.I think I'm safe Diva..no strays around here... and Im very careful to stay away from Dog shelters, otherwise I'd come home with them all :ROFLMAO:
 
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