Anyone joined a dating site what are your experiences?

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My best friend on her mobility scooter yesterday fixing a plate of food at our party we had, the turnout was much less than we predicted due to the heat here which was bad humid till later on then got very comfortable.
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Nice picture but did you meet on a dating site ?:unsure:
 

Hi Holly, on a significant note, think how ya meet, where ya meet is mostly chaos. Some of meet and greet is the society you live in and their norms. If you know them a bit and they need to borrow your money beware of a scam. thank you gone now. → → ↑↓→ → .....(n) Maybe if you feel comfortable with online dating go for it. Good people can attract each other. I could guess difficulties that usually arise separate the possible from the frenzy. Never met a good friend that didn't need me. Haha 45 years ago I met a lady from England, she liked acid, i kissed her and saw blue and pink bubbles. Obviously, it didn't work out, my bad, she was a music shop owner. Most likely beautiful music together or awful! I met Snowball online, 30 miles apart, Small town girl, we had stuff in common. She great!...:love:
 
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I could offer the French Riveria and a couple weeks of vacation to just relax, chill see whats new in the world. In otherwords just get out and have a hair let down good time. Get a lil Rose tattoo and a set of earrings. Laugh, giggle toss a few in the air, off the shoulder, see the Funnybone comedy improv. that sort of thing. don't worry about guys and gals stuff.
 
I have been on sites since 2001 when I was divorced from my wife of 18 years. Have met many new friends through the sites. I think I forgot how to flirt long ago so I just aim for new friends. Kind of funny though I have learned not to mention my time in Prison as it scares them off before I get the chance to tell them I was a Christian missionary and entered the prisons to put on a workshop called Kairos. then that explanation turns into "Oh No a guy trying to use a Christian hook Or a bible thumper. Heck I go to burning man but to mention that they think you are a druggy. Lately I try not to say much about my past. I do think you can learn more about a person through a site than meeting a stranger. Good luck and have fun meeting new people.
 
@hollydolly I waited a few years after my divorce to begin dating again. I was a fish out of water. I joined a few dating sites and had some interesting experiences. In almost all cases, the "dates" (which were actually more like "meet and greets") were in the daytime at a place of my choosing and I always made sure friends knew where I was and with whom.

And I'd ask for their ID (typically a driver's license) when we met. I might have been overly cautious but if any of them had issue with those requirements (and none did), I would have canceled the meeting. So here is a summary (as best as I can recall) of my online dating experiences. Keep in mind that I joined those sites over ten years ago and these meetings took place over four or five years:

Dave: divorced with 2 teenage daughters. Great conversationalist on the phone. We met for lunch. He never uttered a word. He was a 'social mute' as he called himself (but failed to mention prior to our meeting). He was not comfortable talking to people in person so he would text them instead. There we sat, across from one another in a restaurant with me talking and he texting me his responses. Never saw him again.​
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Rick: divorced with 5 children. Successful business man, self-made. Had recently been divorced. Turns out it was his 3rd or 4th divorce. The last wife was considerably younger and they had 2 children together (twins) that were only a year old (!) when he and I met. He had custody of all his children and was essentially looking for a mate to help him. Nice guy but no thanks. Never saw him again.​
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Emmett: divorced but I don't know if he had any children or how many times he was married. We met for coffee. It was interesting so we made a date for dinner. We went to a lovely restaurant (we drove separately). He was so unbelievably rude to the wait staff that it was embarrassing. I excused myself to go to the restroom. I found our waiter, apologized profusely explaining that I did not approve of Emmett's behavior, tipped the waiter generously then told him I was leaving but not to tell Emmett. Just let him sit there and stew until it dawned on him that I was gone. I planned on never seeing him again but.....a month or two later we ran into one another at a cafe where I was having lunch with 4 girlfriends. He glared at me and all five of us glared back at him. Then I never saw him again.​
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Rob: divorced. I actually met him through a friend. No chemistry at all. He was a heavy drinker, bloated from too much alcohol over too many years. Met him once then never saw him again.​
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Jim: divorced, one adult daughter. He and I actually became great friends. He was someone to have fun with. We traveled periodically, went to dinner, had fun outings but there wasn't a hint of romance. I moved then he moved and we've fell apart but we do stay in touch via text a few times a year.​
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Steve: divorced multiple times, on an avid hunt to find a wife. We were on opposite sides of the road politically, religiously, ethically and most other ways. One date, never saw him again.​
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Bill: divorced twice, two adult children. Three dates with him...#1 lunch, #2 baseball game, #3 dinner. He proposed on date #3 in a restaurant with people watching. I damn near died. I barely knew this guy. Obviously I said no. Never saw him again.​
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Ken: the only thing I remember about him was that he used chew tobacco...gross. Never saw him again.​
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Dave#2: divorced 3 or 4 times. Retired college professor. Something about him seemed off. Turns out he was a stoner and alcoholic which he said he was never going to stop either. Bye, Dave.​
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Bruce: this one was too complicated to summarize. No love connection between us but he did stay in contact. I grew weary of being his relationship counselor with his new gf so I ended any communication between us.​
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By the time I called all of this quits, I was planning on retiring and moving. Which I did. I moved to a small rural town, convinced I'd probably never meet anyone and content with my fate if it was to be. I threw myself into renovating my mid-century home which had been long-neglected before I purchased it. Then, on a lark, a few years back, something nudged me to try online dating one more time. I decided to give it exactly one month. If I hadn't met anyone reasonable during that time, I was going to declare dating done and over with.

Turns out I met a very nice man who is now my S/O (significant other). Above all we're very good friends who happened to fall in love. We agree on the important things (such as neither of us wish to marry). He has his place about 30 minutes away and I have mine. He still works, I'm retired. We've been together over two years now. Oh, and my dog loves him!

So @hollydolly, if you do decide to dip your toe in the dating pool, I hope you meet someone wonderful just like you. And know that I will always be here to lend a listening ear or a strong shoulder. Best of luck my sister by another mister 😘
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Oh my goodness, @Leann , what a track record! I was kind of hoping that you'd say Jim came back... BUT then I read that you met someone and fell in love... that's so romantic 🥰 after all those bummer bozos! I apologize, but I had to have a good chuckle when I thought of poor ol' Dave having to text you his replies when you were sitting right there across the table! 🤭
 
The question is "Why worry about meeting someone" and just go about the business of every day. Haha
I meet at least 2 strange girls every day, they all are wonderful. But I am married so I got the ring. Haha
 
I am surprised by the number of women who do not want to get to know me with a few text and want to meet right away. I did do a couple and wish I had not. Now I ask a few questions and if they do not respond with something interesting then I saved the time and price of the coffee.
 
i know many friends who have met the love of their lives and eventually married from an online dating app. that was then. now it seems dangerous. i wouldn't consider it. i have joined a group called Meetup. A host has people meet up for breakfast or mini golf or a day at the beach. it's a group thing. I feel safer in a group and if there is someone in that group I connect with, I'd consider a 1:1. My daughter met her husband on an online app. app. But admitted she kissed a lot of toads on the way.
 
hollydolly said:
Forget it...Fuuuurget about it.........your life runs parallel to mine as you well know Leann... so ....I am not gonna go through all these nutters to find any man.....I'll just get a pet pit-bull instead... :ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO:
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Holls, I didn't want to scare you away from the idea of signing up on an online dating site. I'm sorry if I did. I just wanted to tell you a bit about my experiences which took place over several years. You may find that your experiences will be much more pleasant.

Maybe consider it again for some point in the future?
 
Leann said:
Holls, I didn't want to scare you away from the idea of signing up on an online dating site. I'm sorry if I did. I just wanted to tell you a bit about my experiences which took place over several years. You may find that your experiences will be much more pleasant.

Maybe consider it again for some point in the future?
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I know you didn't Leann.. but I just don't want to start meeting nutters... I really can't be bothered wading through weird people..
 
Counting on stuff in life, hunger, thirst, shopping, more hunger and thirst. Maybe a little lonely. Lonely may be a good companion?
Sure better than companions of the IRS, Realty Co. and Lights & Power. The Water bill can be a ball buster! Lonely is a better option?..Haha! Ya know an empty mind is a wasted one. The Phone and Bluetooth ear plugs works well. You can listen to every best work of literature ever written 27_7's. Did you know 710 is Oil_ Cap written Upside down n backwards?
 
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