Anyone seen Ruthanne?

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I haven't seen her post since Tuesday, and given that she usually posts every day, it's a bit of a concern.

Is anyone in contact with her on FB , can check that's she's well . It's always a concern when someone who lives alone and regularly posts suddenly doesn't, and she didn't say she was going away !!
 

This is a real problem with computer forums. We're all in close touch with each other.... until we aren't. Is there any way to find out what's going on when we are worried about someone? Probably not, since no one knows anyone's real name. And then privacy issues come into it.

Maybe the closest we can come is to share our email address with one close friend on the forum. At least, maybe we stand a chance of reaching someone that way.
 
Sunny said:
This is a real problem with computer forums. We're all in close touch with each other.... until we aren't. Is there any way to find out what's going on when we are worried about someone? Probably not, since no one knows anyone's real name. And then privacy issues come into it.

Maybe the closest we can come is to share our email address with one close friend on the forum. At least, maybe we stand a chance of reaching someone that way.
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I agree..you have my email addy Sunny, and 2 or 3 others..but if I'm poorly and can't reply, then my husband wouldn't look at my mails I'm sure, much less think of posting on the forum, and of course it's harder if people live alone, however by having contact details for someone, whether email or FB, it's at least of some use !
 
I think Ruthanne (just a guess) may have been sensitive to how her thread was going on tuesday 4pm (the one named "happy birthday idic-writer"). She had been posting multiple happy-birthday threads to members who were not currently active. There was a little misunderstanding because she was doing it in hopes that the inactive members would return but they didn't and current members stopped posting once they knew the threads were for inactive members. Her feelings may have been hurt.

Matrix made a very nice and thoughtful message at the end but I don't think she saw it. She may have decided to take a break for awhile and left just before he posted it.
 
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I always get an email on my iPhone whenever anyone adds a post to a thread that I have started. That may be one way to get this forum website to contact her by a different mode of communication. Assuming, of course that her settings have been set up like mine.
I will look for a thread that she has started and give this a try.
 
@Lara I didn't see any of that, so you may be right, she may have got a little upset and thought it best to take a little break! I know she can get very sensitive sometimes. I hope that's the case and she's not unwell...
 
I read it Lara , thanks! :) I think Ruthanne was just trying to be nice to those who haven't posted in a while, in the hope they might see it and return, and as you say Matrix was very sweet to her, so I hope that thread wasn't what caused her to stay away. Maybe she's just having a little break , sometimes we all need it..
 
CeeCee said:
I just looked and she posted on Facebook 8 hrs ago but I see her post animal pics on there almost every day.

I’m still having a very hard time with losing Pickles so I scroll past any pics of animals quickly...hope she doesn’t think I’m avoiding her....just animal pics.
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As long as she's well, and posting somehwre at least we know. Thanks for that CC...
 
CeeCee said:
I just looked and she posted on Facebook 8 hrs ago but I see her post animal pics on there almost every day.

I’m still having a very hard time with losing Pickles so I scroll past any pics of animals quickly...hope she doesn’t think I’m avoiding her....just animal pics.
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CeeCee, I hope you are planning on getting another doggie. I lost my Bonnie in April and found the perfect dog for me in late July. He a very well trained, well behaved house dog and I found him at the Humane Society animal shelter. You just have to haunt the shelters and shelter websites to find your new doggie. He or she is out there, you just look for him/her and save the life of another doggie in honor of Pickles.

Don't give up -- he or she really is out there.
 
Butterfly said:
CeeCee, I hope you are planning on getting another doggie. I lost my Bonnie in April and found the perfect dog for me in late July. He a very well trained, well behaved house dog and I found him at the Humane Society animal shelter. You just have to haunt the shelters and shelter websites to find your new doggie. He or she is out there, you just look for him/her and save the life of another doggie in honor of Pickles.

Don't give up -- he or she really is out there.
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I Agree.

@CeeCee , you may be surprised at how much better you'll feel just having a little dog in the house again. In no time you'll be in love again!
 
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CeeCee, don't feel like you are ''replacing'' Pickles in your heart. I'm sure Pickles would rather you find another dog that needs your loving, there are so many dogs that need a home.
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Pickles doesn't want you to be alone without the love that only a dog can give. All those good memories will stay with you forever.

My wife and I talked at length this morning and we are going to move forward with finding another Bichon. Along with all the grieving that my wife and I did when we lost Heidi, our other Bichon, Lilly, grieved even more and is still very lonesome.
Lilly is, by nature, a very nurturing dog and quickly adopted Heidi when we brought her home as a puppy. We will take Lilly with us when we narrow down the search and let her help. Having an older dog makes housebreaking a puppy so much easier, and the joy of watching them play together is unmatchable.
 
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We will take Lilly with us when we narrow down the search and let her help. Having an older dog makes housebreaking a puppy so much easier, and the joy of watching them play together is unmatchable.
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Pecos, that is an excellent idea. I've read where when introducing a new dog to the home, it is best to have the old dog and new dog meet in a neutral place, away from territories, let them play a bit or better for two or more meetings if possible. If Lilly is nurturing, it should be easy.

That's how they train those rescue St Bernards, they let the puppies tag along on searches and they train by watching the parents. Same with dogs being housebroken. Good luck finding that new Bichon.
 
Getting back to ruthanne, there's been some behind the scenes discussion about the inappropriateness of these types of "why hasn't so-and-so posted for a few days?" threads. Nobody has spoken out in open forum, so I'll say a few things.

I don't like them. They put people on the spot and create drama. In the case of ruthanne, insinuating that she's overly sensitive......dredging up an exchange between her & Matrix from another thread......ugh. That's just wrong.

Inquiring about emails and Facebook...is it really necessary to issue an APB (all points bulletin) just because someone hasn't posted for a few days?

As far as being "concerned"and worried, if something IS wrong, is the concerned member gonna hop on a plane, send a check/flowers, contact the police or paramedics in that person's city? Come on. 🙄 I doubt it.

Not every member's life revolves around Senior Forums. Nobody owes an explanation as to why they haven't posted. Life gets in the way, as do computer problems, real-life friends & relatives, dozens of things that need to get done, and yes...sometimes people just don't want to participate on SF anymore. Such is life.
 

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