Are there things you won’t talk about?

Ronni

Ronni

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Reading another poster’s thread about not wanting to talk about his military service and it got me thinking, but I didn’t want to hijack his thread so I made another one.

It occurred to me that there’s nothing I can think of, personal to me, that I don’t want to talk about! I don’t know if that’s unusual or not. I’m wracking my brain here trying to come up with something and there’s just nothing!

There is the occasional PERSON I don’t want to talk TO but nothing about me I can bring to mind that’s off limits. Perhaps that’s because I have always tried to be as authentic and transparent as possible? I don’t know what it is, maybe I’m just broken! 😂

What about you?
 

Of course there's things that I wouldn't discuss.. or would only discuss with certain individuals.. some things are too painful... some things are too embarrassing, some thing are just not anyone else's business.. and whether we like it or not, we live in a judgemental society, and so even if you're as open or honest as you can be you're going to be judged by society at large.. who needs that ?
 
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I was brought up in a "dont tell anyone anything " family , but once i left home I gradualy came out my shell , and became more open about myself .
But there are things that happened in my childhood that I never spoke about to family or anyone till very recently .
And there are things that happened in my adult life that are locked away ,and never to be discussed .
So I agree with @Gaer and others that we all hold back on certain things .
 
I might often wear my ❤️ on my sleeve where far too many people can figure out what I'm feeling or thinking... but I have never been an open book to discuss things I consider private and personal. Many years ago I had a dear friend who worked within the State Department. He often told me that when we hand someone our vulnerabilities, we give them the power with which to destroy us. That always stuck with me and my vulnerabilities remain private.
 
Often people share TMI. Some are comfortable sharing every minute detail of their lives and relish doing so because they're “open books.” Sharing a certain amount of personal information with trusted friends and family is one thing. With others, there are personal things that I'm not willing to talk about, and it has nothing to do with being authentic. It's because it's none of their business.

I have a relative who thinks he's the most interesting man in the world. When he walks into a room, he sucks all the air out of it by monopolizing every conversation with details of his fascinating life. The fact is, I find him tedious and often can't wait to get away.

I've learned to be more careful about the things I share on the court of the internet because the critics and naysayers can and will look for every opportunity to shoot you down and use what you've shared against you.

The other reason I'm reluctant to share certain things is because this is an open forum, open to members and non-members alike, in fact, it's so open that anything that's posted here can and most likely travels to places you never intended it to go. If I wanted to share my thoughts on Fakebook, Twitter, Reddit, Pinterest, Tumblr, WhatsApp, etc., I'd do it myself. Signing up for most social media platforms is tantamount to agreeing to allow your words to be copied, sent, and posted anywhere in cyberspace. Some people will say it doesn't matter where it goes because they're anonymous. That's fine if they don't care, but it matters to me.

As time goes on, I find it's in my best interest to share less personal information publicly.

Bella ✌️
 
Lady said:
I was brought up in a "dont tell anyone anything " family , but once i left home I gradualy came out my shell , and became more open about myself .
But there are things that happened in my childhood that I never spoke about to family or anyone till very recently .
And there are things that happened in my adult life that are locked away ,and never to be discussed .
So I agree with @Gaer and others that we all hold back on certain things .
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I grew up in that family too.. nothing was told to use by our parents about anything really.. and anything that happened in our house, was never to be told to a soul outside of the home by us .. a complete upbringing of secrecy.
 
CallMeKate said:
I might often wear my ❤️ on my sleeve where far too many people can figure out what I'm feeling or thinking... but I have never been an open book to discuss things I consider private and personal. Many years ago I had a dear friend who worked within the State Department. He often told me that when we hand someone our vulnerabilities, we give them the power with which to destroy us. That always stuck with me and my vulnerabilities remain private.
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Never a truer word spoken.. I've learned that to my cost
 
People have different reasons why they don’t want to talk about something in their life. It’s not always because they are ashamed of it, often it’s because it’s personal and private. Some are afraid that their friends may change their opinion of them and they don’t want to chance it. I would say most everyone holds something back.

I knew a fellow Marine that told me the old line, “You’re the only person I ever told this to.” After he told me what was on his mind, I understood why he never told anyone. I would have done the same. The reason he kept his secret to himself was because of fear.
 
hollydolly said:
I grew up in that family too.. nothing was told to use by our parents about anything really.. and anything that happened in our house, was never to be told to a soul outside of the home by us .. a complete upbringing of secrecy.
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Same in my family. I didn’t know my father was married before my mother until I was 18 and found a marriage certificate at my grandmother’s house. She then told me the truth..the first wife died a year after they were married and there were no children but still something I’d like to have known.
I waited a few years and then told my sisters, mainly becasue when I was 18 they were only 5 and 10 yrs old.
There were other things we weren’t told but that was the biggest.
 
Bella said:
Often people share TMI. Some are comfortable sharing every minute detail of their lives and relish doing so because they're “open books.” Sharing a certain amount of personal information with trusted friends and family is one thing. With others, there are personal things that I'm not willing to talk about, and it has nothing to do with being authentic. It's because it's none of their business.

I have a relative who thinks he's the most interesting man in the world. When he walks into a room, he sucks all the air out of it by monopolizing every conversation with details of his fascinating life. The fact is, I find him tedious and often can't wait to get away.

I've learned to be more careful about the things I share on the court of the internet because the critics and naysayers can and will look for every opportunity to shoot you down and use what you've shared against you.

The other reason I'm reluctant to share certain things is because this is an open forum, open to members and non-members alike, in fact, it's so open that anything that's posted here can and most likely travels to places you never intended it to go. If I wanted to share my thoughts on Fakebook, Twitter, Reddit, Pinterest, Tumblr, WhatsApp, etc., I'd do it myself. Signing up for most social media platforms is tantamount to agreeing to allow your words to be copied, sent, and posted anywhere in cyberspace. Some people will say it doesn't matter where it goes because they're anonymous. That's fine if they don't care, but it matters to me.

As time goes on, I find it's in my best interest to share less personal information publicly.

Bella ✌️
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You are making very valid points re. the Internet! Crooks and scammers are gathering information on you on every platform you use. It isn't smart to give too much personal information away. I share a lot with people on this Forum but nothing that could be used against me by the bad guys!
 
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