I think I mentioned in some other thread that one woman told me they hadn't seen their (adult) kids in 3 years because it's easier to text. People have more phones than ever - many married couples still have a landline and each a cell phone of their own - yet I never reach them by phone. I get forwarded to unattended voice mailboxes that are full. No one writes letters and few send greeting cards - they just copy and paste a cheery little greeting into an email, if even that. It's much the same with Christmas cards.
To avoid arguments, I steer clear of most meaningful conversations of substance with my relatives, since those can develop into debates due to division in our country. We visit on occasion, at least once a year, so we can exchange pleasantries, tell jokes, and talk about the high price of eggs or toilet paper, or see the latest photo of the new grandbaby. And we can be polite at Thanksgiving and ask Karen to give us the recipe for her wonderful new scrumptuous caramel scrunch cake she brought.
Then we all go home and text now and then.