Are you celebrating "Pride Month"?

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jpstrap said:
If my neighbors choose to not help because of my attitude, that reflects upon them, not me. If a person needed help, would you assess that person's attitude before offering help? As I age I have certainly have developed notions and judgements, just as billions of others have done. That's what aging is all about. Why on earth should I let go of my life experiences and what they have taught me? Your suggestion is without merit, in my opinion.

You are assuming that my notions and judgments are the cause of why I am alone and seeking the standby help? What reasoning do you use to come to that conclusion? You certainly seem to be simply assuming a lot of things in your post. I know you are well meaning, but your words make little sense to me. Also, if I am left alone, which I seriously doubt, I can tell you being scared is not in my genes. I have prepared myself for ANY eventually and will accept those experiences as they unfold in my life, without the childish reaction of fear.

The suffering is another story. Being alone to my way of thinking really has no causal relation to suffering. People with zillions of friends will also suffer. Suffering is not just for those who need emergency assistance. In any case, I have prepared for that eventually. Suffering is lessened when one steels his mind by preparing. I have always lived this way.

I do appreciate your good intention in posting what you have, however I feel that because you do not know me as a person, your advice is at best a guess based on my very few posts on this forum. God bless and have a good life! I will be just fine without re-assessing and modifying my life's lessons. Life has been so good to me, and I have developed strong self-respect as a result. No changes are in store for me. Perhaps you should also seek to cherish what your life is teaching you.
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Life has taught me a lot, I have been caregiver to many. Big tough men that never thought they would be taken to their knees by illness. To depend on the love and concern of others to get them through the tough times, not only physically but also mentally. You can say you have prepared is one thing but when the crap hits the fan you will need other kind humans to care for you in all ways.

No, I do not know you as a person but I know that all humans will come to a time in their lives they need tender loving care. Yes, I would consider a person's behavior before I stepped in to help. Why would anyone want to try to help someone that is abusive, angry and mean. I chose to take care of husband's and my best friend after he had a leg amputation. They were going to send him to a rehab place that would not give him the care he needed.

It was not easy, taking care of the area of surgery. It was not easy giving him a bath, I only did the body, he took care of the private areas. I washed his hair, gave him haircuts, trimmed his nails. I emptied urinals and took care of the bedside commode for the other. I cleaned his false teeth, cooked his diabetic meals and snacks. I did all his laundry and took care of him having a clean comfortable bed.

I gave my life to taking care of my husband when cancer struck. He was ill for 5 years until he passed. I also brought my mother into my home when she could no longer live alone.

You are so hard headed that you can't see your nose because of these stupid notions that you won't ever need help. Far be it from me to judge the perceptions you have formed. If you are lucky you will never suffer an illness or disability that would require help. May God bless you and call you home with a quick death without suffering. I pray for the same thing every day because I have seen the long hard way too many times.
 

fuzzybuddy said:
I guess I poorly worded this thread. I meant to ask if you would have ever thought there would be something, like a Pride Month. I used the word, "celebrate", which implies having a cake, fire works, etc. That was a poor choice.
Today, everybody gets a "month". June is Asparagus Eaters Month. But I never thought I'd ever hear of Pride Month.
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I think I get what you mean. Given prevaling attitudes in our milieux I wouldn't at all have been sure this degree of societal acceptance would have ever come about, not that we're all the way there either. Since we'd been through racial civil rights and women's rights, it did seem to me in high school that this should be coming. It was just hard to imagine given the revulsion so many expressed and which I also experienced early on. But rather than stop there I thought more about it. Having sex with a same sex person didn't trigger me as much as the thought of kissing. But by realizing the cultural norm was wrong my feeling eventually came into line.

Now I know quite a few homosexual men and women. I've always liked the assertiveness of lesbians, jewish women and those more sure of themselves who wouldn't back down to being mansplained. What I appreciate about gay men is that they are more in touch with their feeling and on average are more expressive verbally. Reclaiming my own feeling and emotions was another rubicon my early cultural milieux made necessary and difficult but was well worth the trouble.
 
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MarkD said:
Now I know quite a few homosexual men and women. I've always liked the assertiveness of lesbian, jewish women and those more sure of themselves who wouldn't back down to being mansplained.
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You mean lesbian AND Jewish? Or lesbians in general and Jewish women in general? Big Generalizations here, Mark. I wish Christians would forget the word Jewish. Just forget you know it.
 

Pepper said:
You mean lesbian AND Jewish? Or lesbians in general and Jewish women in general? Big Generalizations here, Mark. I wish Christians would forget the word Jewish. Just forget you know it.
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Either, or both and others who make it out of their upbringing intact. Women in my family were embarrassingly self abdicating and there was nothing one could say to make that go away.

I am not a Christian or, if I am, not on purpose. So I will go on remembering what I like about jews. You can be an accidental Christian just as you can be an accidental tourist, but I don't think one can be an accidental jew. There is course work and tests, I think. Christianity would do well to adopt that model instead of just trying to get people to bend the knee by saying the words.
 
Blessed said:
Life has taught me a lot, I have been caregiver to many. Big tough men that never thought they would be taken to their knees by illness. To depend on the love and concern of others to get them through the tough times, not only physically but also mentally. You can say you have prepared is one thing but when the crap hits the fan you will need other kind humans to care for you in all ways.

No, I do not know you as a person but I know that all humans will come to a time in their lives they need tender loving care. Yes, I would consider a person's behavior before I stepped in to help. Why would anyone want to try to help someone that is abusive, angry and mean. I chose to take care of husband's and my best friend after he had a leg amputation. They were going to send him to a rehab place that would not give him the care he needed.

It was not easy, taking care of the area of surgery. It was not easy giving him a bath, I only did the body, he took care of the private areas. I washed his hair, gave him haircuts, trimmed his nails. I emptied urinals and took care of the bedside commode for the other. I cleaned his false teeth, cooked his diabetic meals and snacks. I did all his laundry and took care of him having a clean comfortable bed.

I gave my life to taking care of my husband when cancer struck. He was ill for 5 years until he passed. I also brought my mother into my home when she could no longer live alone.

You are so hard headed that you can't see your nose because of these stupid notions that you won't ever need help. Far be it from me to judge the perceptions you have formed. If you are lucky you will never suffer an illness or disability that would require help. May God bless you and call you home with a quick death without suffering. I pray for the same thing every day because I have seen the long hard way too many times.
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UGH! Not a discussion, a lecture. I'm out. Good luck.
 
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Pepper said:
I wish Christians would forget the word Jewish. Just forget you know it.
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Huh? Are you saying "Jewish" is offensive? Why?

What about English? Scottish? British?, Swedish?
Spanish? Irish? Turkish? Polish? Danish? Finnish?

What about the Jewish New Year? Should we say Jew New Year?
What about "the Jewish People"? Should we say "the Jew People"?

I'm not trying to be a smart-ass....I'm sincerely confused
by all the name changes we have now this is really the first I've heard this.
Is it something new?

If anything, I thought some consider "Jew" a slur.
 
Lara said:
Huh? Are you saying "Jewish" is offensive? Why?

What about English? Scottish? British?, Swedish?
Spanish? Irish? Turkish? Polish? Danish? Finnish?

What about the Jewish New Year? Should we say Jew New Year?
What about "the Jewish People"? Should we say "the Jew People"?

I'm not trying to be a smart-ass....I'm sincerely confused
by all the name changes we have now this is really the first I've heard this.
Is it something new?

If anything, I thought some consider "Jew" a slur.
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Uh oh!
 
Lara said:
Huh? Are you saying "Jewish" is offensive? Why?

What about English? Scottish? British?, Swedish?
Spanish? Irish? Turkish? Polish? Danish? Finnish?

What about the Jewish New Year? Should we say Jew New Year?
What about "the Jewish People"? Should we say "the Jew People"?

I'm not trying to be a smart-ass....I'm sincerely confused
by all the name changes we have now this is really the first I've heard this.
Is it something new?

If anything, I thought some consider "Jew" a slur.
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Maybe, just maybe, take Jewish out of this conversation. Its about pride month.
The Jews have got their own issues right now.
 
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