Are you waiting for the finish it fairy or are you that person who must do it.

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Jeni

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I am taking a break from married life .... moved in with my son been gone for 10 days
i come over to let out dog as he is gone at work still for 12 hours a day ........ also son's spouse works from home so i feel in the way.....
so with space we have been able to iron out some issues but today ............. i am right back to saying enough is enough.

Hubby always waits for the finish it fairy ........ leaves lettuce he buys for HIS lunches ... to make green soup in the refrigerator ........
crumbs filling the cutting board and covering the cook top .......dishwasher not run and lets not mention yard work/ vacuum.

we need to update a few things ................... planning/ shopping and OMG never ending comparison on the internet is his specialty ,,, but follow thru and actually finishing or even buying an item ......nope
The exception have two sinks in a box in guest room was bought 3 months ago to replace kitchen sink..............
first one came damaged and place did NOT want it back. just sent replacement..... so now we must find a home or dispose of damaged one.....

hate internet shopping for this reason i do not need to buy an errand to dispose of items damaged and unusable.

I do not think this is a issue we will resolve .... he REFUSES to let me hire someone does not want others in house but always has excuse why he CAN'T do it.
Knees hurt is a common one but they are miraculously OK for golf each week.

So i discarded his two bunches of lettuce juice .......pulled enough weeds to keep HOA at bay ........vacuumed and emptied the cutting board .....
thanks i needed to vent!!!!
 

Jules said:
The HOA has to be kept happy. If you’re still at your son’s, I‘d leave the mess your DH made exactly as it is. JMO.
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I would agree except it is still a shared asset ,,,,,,,,,,,,and if i do not keep it up...... i will have to put in effort when it comes time to sell etc....Unless i can have him buy me out of my half.
 

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I'm not waiting for the finish it fairy, nor am I the one person who must do it...I guess that makes me? your answer
 
If the house is also in your name, then of course you're responsible. It sounds to me like no matter what you say or do, he's just not going to help you out. I don't consider what you're asking of him a favor, and you shouldn't have to beg him. He's your spouse and should be willing to do these things.

Even though you're staying with your son, you're not getting much of a break from anything. You're still doing everything even though you aren't at home.

Just a thought, Jeni... you said he's at work 12 hours a day. Maybe consider hiring someone to do things while he's not there. By the time he finds out, he might be mad, but it'll be too late to do anything about it. It'll already be done. You need help, and he's not going to give it to you. It doesn't sound like you'll ever be able to move him. If you keep waiting, you'll end up having to do it yourself, as usual, or it's not going to get done.

It's so aggravating and frustrating. I don't blame you for needing to vent. I hope you find a solution to all this. I would've punched his lights out by now.

Bella ✌️
 
I am the finish fairy. We moved into a new apartment and my wife proceeded to decorate it. Unfortunately, a lot of the furniture(not IKEA) had to be assembled. Here is the list:
2 corner desks
coffee table
entertainment center
mount for big TV
3 bookcases
2 recliners
3 table lamps
3 standing lamps
All the stuff that had to be mounted on the walls in 5 rooms.
No, I am not for hire :D
 
. I'm kind of like your husband- I'll get around to doing it,but.........And it's hard, for a guy to let another guy come into his castle and mess around. If you got tradesperson, what would be your husband's reaction? Would he yammer about it, but accept it?
 
fuzzybuddy said:
. I'm kind of like your husband- I'll get around to doing it,but.........And it's hard, for a guy to let another guy come into his castle and mess around. If you got tradesperson, what would be your husband's reaction? Would he yammer about it, but accept it?
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this is just one of the many issues i have with him brought it up yet again and he finally did a couple things he recognizes he is kicking can down the road but he would be very upset if i hired someone behind his back.
 
Jeni said:
this is just one of the many issues i have with him brought it up yet again and he finally did a couple things he recognizes he is kicking can down the road but he would be very upset if i hired someone behind his back.
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I can certainly understand your unwillingness to upset him. Yet, he seems willing to upset you over this issue. For me, it would be about which of two difficult choices would be the least difficult to live with.
 
bowmore said:
I am the finish fairy. We moved into a new apartment and my wife proceeded to decorate it. Unfortunately, a lot of the furniture(not IKEA) had to be assembled. Here is the list:
2 corner desks
coffee table
entertainment center
mount for big TV
3 bookcases
2 recliners
3 table lamps
3 standing lamps
All the stuff that had to be mounted on the walls in 5 rooms.
No, I am not for hire :D
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I think you want to get another Finish Fairy to help out.☺️.
 

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