As a Grandparent, a Pet Peeve

I dont have GKs to spoil yet but when my son was in grade school and younger, we trained him that he can't grab anything at the store that we'd buy atm. He tried once and threw a fit right there. His dad and I just took him outside until he calmed down. While it took sometime for him to calm down, it was a teaching moment for him that he won't get his way by throwing a fit to pressure us. NOT me, NOT his dad. From then on. he learned the rule quickly.
 

My daughter loved books .. so, every time I took her grocery shopping with me, I would sit her inside the cart & give her one of her favourite books. Sometimes, we would stop at the section where they had children's books, and occasionally I would buy her one. She rarely asked for candy, though she liked those PEZ thingies.
 
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Autumn said:
My nephew has a 4 year old daughter, and I went shopping with them a couple weeks ago. Jane saw some hair scrunchies that she really liked, and I was amazed to hear her ask her dad, "Papi, can we afford for me to have these?" They had a discussion about the price, the value, and decided that she could have the hair scrunchies if she was willing to skip the small bag of Sun Chips she wanted as a treat. She was happy with that.

I asked him about it afterwards, and he said he was trying to teach her the value of money and how to make good choices. Also, that none of us can have every single thing we want. It was so nice to see a child behaving that way, instead of wailing and demanding. My nephew is a single dad, and I think he's doing a pretty amazing job.
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I’m not a parent and clearly not a grandparent either but this sounds like smart parenting. Teaching the kids the value of money while out shopping so they are involved in the decisions is great. They get to be part of the decision making. Being part of the solution helps make them aware that THEIR choices matter.
 

Our Grandson would start in with wanting something,
No....
He start throwing a fit...
NO
Fit continues... and swatted hit butt and we left the store with him empty handed and crying....
Hes at 8 and haven't had that issue with him in years.....
But for some reason his parents still do??????
 
I just had the most brilliant idea! How about at Christmas this year I try again with sending a check for the whole family. Enclosed in the card with the check will be a self-addressed, stamped, thank you note. All they will have to do is sign it.:rolleyes:
 
GeorgiaXplant said:
I just had the most brilliant idea! How about at Christmas this year I try again with sending a check for the whole family. Enclosed in the card with the check will be a self-addressed, stamped, thank you note. All they will have to do is sign it.:rolleyes:
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I gave a laugh, Georgia, even though it's not funny.

Sad to think that a simple picking up of a telephone to extend a thank you to someone, can prove to be so difficult for some.

We have family that have cut nieces and nephews out of their will, account not being appreciated and taken for granted.
 
I was near a lady in a market when her kid was having a fit, she said to him in a firm tone, I WILL NOT REWARD YOU FOR BAD BEHAVIOR. I complemented her, she thought I was being condescending, I felt bad for her and left it alone but kept it in my memory bank.
 
jimbowho said:
I was near a lady in a market when her kid was having a fit, she said to him in a firm tone, I WILL NOT REWARD YOU FOR BAD BEHAVIOR. I complemented her, she thought I was being condescending, I felt bad for her and left it alone but kept it in my memory bank.
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How unfortunate the woman failed to absorb the jest of your compliment.

Nonetheless, kudos to you for noticing a little good old-fashioned proper parenting skills, something that seems to be going more and more by wayside today.
 
With texting, it takes no effort to send a thank you. They spend hours every day doing it with their friends.

A few words show that they care.
 
GeorgiaXplant said:
I just had the most brilliant idea! How about at Christmas this year I try again with sending a check for the whole family. Enclosed in the card with the check will be a self-addressed, stamped, thank you note. All they will have to do is sign it.:rolleyes:
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If nobody ever even bothers to say thank you, I don't think I'd be sending any more checks. I'm kind of an old poop about stuff like this.
 
When my nephews didn't thank me for a birthday, etc. gift I would say "Now say Thank You" in a humorous and sarcastic way and they did. Sometimes you must confront it.
 
Pepper said:
When my nephews didn't thank me for a birthday, etc. gift I would say "Now say Thank You" in a humorous and sarcastic way and they did. Sometimes you must confront it.
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If I have to prod someone into thanking me, I stop giving them stuff. A forced thank you does not mean they are grateful.
 

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