As a parent what age would you condone your daughter having sex?

Ralphy1

Ralphy1

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A couple visiting from German permits their daughter of fourteen to have sex with her boyfriend in the parental home. When questioned about this they claim it is the norm now in their culture...
 

Condone?? Rather, she has been explained (or read about) ALL the ramifications involving the sexual intercourse act.

Besides. one never knows what your teenager is up to when out of your eyesight.
 
Fourteen is rather young and even an older, young lady I would not condone having sex at home. What I would do is make certain there is communication and discussion about birth control and diseases and if she were seeing someone steady, I would help her select a OBGYN. This is not condoning anything, it is protecting your daughter.

I think fourteen is too young to date, let alone have sex! I know it depends on their maturity but if she were to become pregnant, how would she take care of it? Parents have to be parents and be responsible! These things (pregnancies) can happen to mature girls at a young age. I think parents should try to hold them back for as long as possible so they can get an education and enjoy their young life a little before settling down. Call me old fashioned or out of touch, but I think at fourteen, she should be involved in sports, music and keeping company with girlfriends.
 
So glad I never had to face this as a parent. Just had the one son. 14 is way too young to understand all the ramifications of sexual intimacy, not to mention the risk of STDs by condoning such behavior.
 
Call me old fashioned or out of touch, but I think at fourteen, she should be involved in sports, music and keeping company with girlfriends.

Not old fashioned at all...That's my feelings exactly. At fourteen, even at seventeen school, sports, girlfriends and finding your place in the world should be top priority. You've got the rest of your life to get frisky as you see fit. But then again kids and their nutty hormones...As a parent you have to be realistic and make sure they completely understand contraception and STD prevention as well.
 
Kids do what they want to do, when they want to do it. To think otherwise is naive. Most guys I know had their first sexual experience when they were thirteen. One of my nieces started at 13 and the other at 11...with her cousin. All a person can do is teach them the ramifications and hope for the best. Sometimes the more a parent forbids a kid to do something, the more they are likely to do it. It's always been that way.
 
I had a daughter and a son. Neither were permitted to engage in sexual congress in my house before marriage.
That does not mean that it didn't happen behind my back though. Ignorance is bliss, isn't it?
 
Besides how wrong all this is, how creepy is it for mom and dad sitting in the living room watching tv and daughter and her fella are going at it in the next room. The boyfriend sure must not have respect for the parents.
 
That does not mean that it didn't happen behind my back though. Ignorance is bliss, isn't it?

See back before STDs that could kill, ignorance used to mean somebody might need some penicillin there. Now it means they might die in a really ugly way. Ignorance can mean playing a big role in raising your grandbaby. Early marriages are a bad idea and abortions are no fun. Uncomfortable as it can be all parents need to have " The Talk".

It's okay for a parent to state their own feelings. That they think it's better to wait with sex and romance, or that their religious feelings say to wait. But kids will be kids and still need the information and resources to make safe choices. Our grandkids too...if their parents aren't teaching them then we have to.
 
My granddaughter has a couple girlfriends that have babies. My granddaughter is 18. One of the girls I think was 16 at the time. What sticks in my granddaughter's mind is now these girls cannot go out and have fun because they have to take care of their babies. I'm glad she realizes this. I hope she gets to enjoy her young life a bit. She hasn't had a real boyfriend yet but hopefully, she understands the responsibility that being a young mother entails. Then there is that trend of baby momma and baby daddy. It's seems to be perfectly acceptable for a couple today to not even consider marriage but continue on to have more babies, robbing these children of any family stability. Now, I'm not saying that marriage is right in every circumstance but there does seem to be a nonchalant attitude. A fourteen year old child is incapable of understanding any of this. I really doubt that it is an acceptable practice in Germany today, I'd be very surprised!
 
There were always STD that could kill. Nero died of syphilis.

When my nieces started having babies without being married, I wasn't worried about their morality. I was worried that it would be easier for the guy to skip out on the responsibility. For a guy it's often a shot in the dark, but for the gal who gets pregnant from that shot....
 
And so many of us remember the " joys of motherhood"...Jiminy crickets, even being happily married with a partner with gainful employment...there are some days when you want to throw yourself under a bus. I remember nights when two or three, maybe me too, were all sick at the same time. Oh and I had to be up for work the next day. Feverish little creatures throwing up down your neck, pooping on you and themselves, then they hurl the medicine in your face too. For a single mom, Heaven help them. I've known folks who had their kids turn seven years old before they saw a dime of child support.
 
Thanks for the greeting, I am trying to adjust to be ing 65, such a big milestone...
 
I was fortunate enough to be the youngest kid in the family. I watched my sister and sister-in-law and my aunts and how much work their kids required of them and how the men in the family did squat to help. I knew I never wanted to do that. To me a kid was a crying vomit and poop factory, and when it grew up it was likely to blame me for all it's mistakes.

Ralphy, my biggest adjustment was to being 50. But it is weird to be officially old now, and being considered elderly by some. Happy Birthday.
 
Happy birthday, Ralphy. I don't like being old, either, and I'm 5 years ahead of you in that endeavor -- I turned 70 this year! I still don't believe it. The only good thing about being old is that it beats the alternative, which is being dead.
 
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