As Life Goes on Without Our Beloved Pet Friend

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Ruthanne

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After we lose a dear pet we hold a special place for them in our hearts. We go through the grief phases just like with losing anyone. We may ask ourselves what we could have done better, we hurt and break down and cry, we miss their presence so, we try to help the other pets get on with living without them.

I had given Alice three separate treatments to try to cure her and she seemed like she was doing better for awhile. When I saw she was getting worse I made an appointment to take her back to the Vet. I was hoping she would make it till the appointment but she suddenly died. I am a big animal lover and it has hurt a lot.

All I can do is help Jasmine get on and that's what I do. I have my bad moments but still have some lovely memories of what a very special bird Alice was. I'm not sure what her age was as I got her from a pet store. Yet, I feel she was too young to go...
 

Dear Master,
You have been my teacher, my friend and most beloved companion. I was like your child, totally dependent on you for all my needs. But I never grew up and moved away as children do, I just grew to love and need you more each day, each month, each year.
I never went hungry because you gave me dinner and gave me water each day. When the weather was bad I found comfort in the warmth and safety of your home. I delighted you by learning tricks, but what you may not have realized is that I loved learning from you because I lived to please you.
The touch of your hand stroking my fur made my life worthwhile. Though I barked at noises in the night, the postman's footsteps and the ringing of the doorbell; the voice of my master was the one sound that I cherished most. Your moods became my moods. When you were sad or lonely, I nuzzled closer to comfort you .
There were times when you became upset with me because I soiled the carpet, chewed on a piece of furniture, or barked too much. But do not feel bad about those times when you scolded me - I needed to learn right from wrong, and I always understood when things weren't going your way or when you'd had an unpleasant day at work. There is no need for you to harbor guilt or remorse on my behalf.
You loved me and blessed me with more happiness than most animals will ever know. Instead of wondering what you could have done differently, remember the funny things I did and the happy times we shared together. Though it is hard for you to understand, I was ready to pass on from this life.
Our time together was short, but if we'd had fifty years together, you still would have not been ready for me to leave.
So please, Master, share your life with others. Do not refuse the opportunity to give another lucky pet the love you have given me. No other animal will ever take my place in your heart, but there is another one who needs you and will grow to love you as much as I did.
I am now at peace and no longer feel pain. You gave me a wonderful home and a happy existence on this earth. So please be happy - go on with your life and give your love to others.
Although I no longer share your world, I will always live in your heart, and you in mine.
Farewell, Dear Master
 
This is the sad part of having pets. Their lives are short and we have to deal with their deaths. When they are unwell, they can't tell us what the problem is so we have to guess. Do we take them to the vet or not? We feel guilty, wondering if there was something more we should have done.
I've always had pets of some kind and you never get hardened to losing them. Yet, in spite of the pain, we still want animals in our lives.
 

Ken N Tx said:
Dear Master,
You have been my teacher, my friend and most beloved companion. I was like your child, totally dependent on you for all my needs. But I never grew up and moved away as children do, I just grew to love and need you more each day, each month, each year.
I never went hungry because you gave me dinner and gave me water each day. When the weather was bad I found comfort in the warmth and safety of your home. I delighted you by learning tricks, but what you may not have realized is that I loved learning from you because I lived to please you.
The touch of your hand stroking my fur made my life worthwhile. Though I barked at noises in the night, the postman's footsteps and the ringing of the doorbell; the voice of my master was the one sound that I cherished most. Your moods became my moods. When you were sad or lonely, I nuzzled closer to comfort you .
There were times when you became upset with me because I soiled the carpet, chewed on a piece of furniture, or barked too much. But do not feel bad about those times when you scolded me - I needed to learn right from wrong, and I always understood when things weren't going your way or when you'd had an unpleasant day at work. There is no need for you to harbor guilt or remorse on my behalf.
You loved me and blessed me with more happiness than most animals will ever know. Instead of wondering what you could have done differently, remember the funny things I did and the happy times we shared together. Though it is hard for you to understand, I was ready to pass on from this life.
Our time together was short, but if we'd had fifty years together, you still would have not been ready for me to leave.
So please, Master, share your life with others. Do not refuse the opportunity to give another lucky pet the love you have given me. No other animal will ever take my place in your heart, but there is another one who needs you and will grow to love you as much as I did.
I am now at peace and no longer feel pain. You gave me a wonderful home and a happy existence on this earth. So please be happy - go on with your life and give your love to others.
Although I no longer share your world, I will always live in your heart, and you in mine.
Farewell, Dear Master
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Brought tears reading this......Thank you for the meaningful post.
 
Ken N Tx said:
Dear Master,
You have been my teacher, my friend and most beloved companion. I was like your child, totally dependent on you for all my needs. But I never grew up and moved away as children do, I just grew to love and need you more each day, each month, each year.
I never went hungry because you gave me dinner and gave me water each day. When the weather was bad I found comfort in the warmth and safety of your home. I delighted you by learning tricks, but what you may not have realized is that I loved learning from you because I lived to please you.
The touch of your hand stroking my fur made my life worthwhile. Though I barked at noises in the night, the postman's footsteps and the ringing of the doorbell; the voice of my master was the one sound that I cherished most. Your moods became my moods. When you were sad or lonely, I nuzzled closer to comfort you .
There were times when you became upset with me because I soiled the carpet, chewed on a piece of furniture, or barked too much. But do not feel bad about those times when you scolded me - I needed to learn right from wrong, and I always understood when things weren't going your way or when you'd had an unpleasant day at work. There is no need for you to harbor guilt or remorse on my behalf.
You loved me and blessed me with more happiness than most animals will ever know. Instead of wondering what you could have done differently, remember the funny things I did and the happy times we shared together. Though it is hard for you to understand, I was ready to pass on from this life.
Our time together was short, but if we'd had fifty years together, you still would have not been ready for me to leave.
So please, Master, share your life with others. Do not refuse the opportunity to give another lucky pet the love you have given me. No other animal will ever take my place in your heart, but there is another one who needs you and will grow to love you as much as I did.
I am now at peace and no longer feel pain. You gave me a wonderful home and a happy existence on this earth. So please be happy - go on with your life and give your love to others.
Although I no longer share your world, I will always live in your heart, and you in mine.
Farewell, Dear Master
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Crying my eyes out at this. It's been one month since I lost my little Zoey and some days something reminds me of her sweet face and loving temperament and I will cry all over again. My little baby girl will forever have my heart.
 
LindaB said:
Crying my eyes out at this. It's been one month since I lost my little Zoey and some days something reminds me of her sweet face and loving temperament and I will cry all over again. My little baby girl will forever have my heart.
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I know it is very hard......she'll be forever in your heart and memories......our little loved ones are part of our souls.
 
I lost my 19-year-old cat Lucy in March. There's a hole in my heart. I have a picture of her and her sister Ethel as my wallpaper on my desktop computer. Ethel died three years ago. It helps to have their little faces greet me each day when I turn on the computer. It doesn't make them seem quite as inaccessible.
 
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Phoenix said:
I lost my 19-year-old cat Lucy in March. There's a hole in my heart. I have a picture of her and her sister Ethel as my wallpaper on my desktop computer. Ethel died three years ago. It helps to have their little faces greet me each day when I turn on the computer. It doesn't make them seem quite as inaccessible.
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I'm glad that helps you Phoenix.
 
We had our Miss Kitty for 16 years. She had a lot of health problems, my husband used to joke that she was the only cat he knew with her own Ophthalmologist, Cardiologist, Dentist, Dermatologist and GI Specialist. She died of a heart attack - I never even knew cats could have heart attacks.

We were heartbroken, but our 6 year old niece told us the story of the Rainbow Bridge and what a wonderful place it was. She was so sweet. She said all pets go there and are happy and free from pain. She even drew us a picture of Miss Kitty crossing the bridge. Of all the condolences we got, that one meant the most.
 
When I've lost a dog, I've always rescued another. No matter how much your heart hurts from the loss, there are so many out there who need good loving homes and deserve a chance at love and comfort. I feel that rescuing another dog honors the memory of the lost one more than staying stuck in grief and not rescuing again. You can't help the lost dog any more, but you can offer another the gift of life.
 
Autumn said:
We had our Miss Kitty for 16 years. She had a lot of health problems, my husband used to joke that she was the only cat he knew with her own Ophthalmologist, Cardiologist, Dentist, Dermatologist and GI Specialist. She died of a heart attack - I never even knew cats could have heart attacks.

We were heartbroken, but our 6 year old niece told us the story of the Rainbow Bridge and what a wonderful place it was. She was so sweet. She said all pets go there and are happy and free from pain. She even drew us a picture of Miss Kitty crossing the bridge. Of all the condolences we got, that one meant the most.
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Sorry for your loss.
 
Butterfly said:
When I've lost a dog, I've always rescued another. No matter how much your heart hurts from the loss, there are so many out there who need good loving homes and deserve a chance at love and comfort. I feel that rescuing another dog honors the memory of the lost one more than staying stuck in grief and not rescuing again. You can't help the lost dog any more, but you can offer another the gift of life.
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My problem is that should my husband and I pass there would be no to take care of the new pet. So we don't get another one. An animal who gives so much love does not deserve to be abandoned, even if we couldn't help it.
 
Phoenix said:
I lost my 19-year-old cat Lucy in March. There's a hole in my heart. I have a picture of her and her sister Ethel as my wallpaper on my desktop computer. Ethel died three years ago. It helps to have their little faces greet me each day when I turn on the computer. It doesn't make them seem quite as inaccessible.
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I'm sorry for your loss.
 
Ruthanne said:
After we lose a dear pet we hold a special place for them in our hearts. We go through the grief phases just like with losing anyone. We may ask ourselves what we could have done better, we hurt and break down and cry, we miss their presence so, we try to help the other pets get on with living without them.

I had given Alice three separate treatments to try to cure her and she seemed like she was doing better for awhile. When I saw she was getting worse I made an appointment to take her back to the Vet. I was hoping she would make it till the appointment but she suddenly died. I am a big animal lover and it has hurt a lot.

All I can do is help Jasmine get on and that's what I do. I have my bad moments but still have some lovely memories of what a very special bird Alice was. I'm not sure what her age was as I got her from a pet store. Yet, I feel she was too young to go...
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I've been thinking quite a bit about this. Have you thought of setting up a shrine for Alice? What if you find some place in the house/apartment, like the top of a dresser or a coffee table or some other such place and put up a picture or pictures of Alice? You could add her favorite toys, some of her favorite things and such and maybe even a candle, anything you think that would honor her, her love for you and your love for her. During the moments of sadness or tribute you could light the candle and pour your heart into hers, knowing that her spirit is there with you, loving you in return. I did that after my boyfriend Gary died. It helped ease it a bit. Love is love.
 
Phoenix said:
I've been thinking quite a bit about this. Have you thought of setting up a shrine for Alice? What if you find some place in the house/apartment, like the top of a dresser or a coffee table or some other such place and put up a picture or pictures of Alice? You could add her favorite toys, some of her favorite things and such and maybe even a candle, anything you think that would honor her, her love for you and your love for her. During the moments of sadness or tribute you could light the candle and pour your heart into hers, knowing that her spirit is there with you, loving you in return. I did that after my boyfriend Gary died. It helped ease it a bit. Love is love.
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I have photos of our last lab, Mackie, his ginger jar urn with ashes, rawhide shoe and his collar on a little table in the bedroom for years. He and his predecessor, Moe, come to me in dreams, often. When they passed, I always kept a photo and fresh flowers in a vase on the living room table. It somehow comforted me.
 
Pinky said:
I have photos of our last lab, Mackie, his ginger jar urn with ashes, rawhide shoe and his collar on a little table in the bedroom for years. He and his predecessor, Moe, come to me in dreams, often. When they passed, I always kept a photo and fresh flowers in a vase on the living room table. It somehow comforted me.
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It's amazing how it can help.:love:
 

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