At what age did you "Find Yourself"?

Around 45 to 50!

Life experience in parenting, being a husband, and getting enough work experience to be 'successful took 25 to 30 years. Then a few years after that 15+, when I was expert at it all (I thought) ...my kids got married and left home and I retired from my job.

Then I had to start all over learning how to be retired! Wow...
 
This is from my earlier post about the Myers Briggs Personality Type Indicator (MBT): "In 1985, at age 40, I was appointed to a temporary supervisory position of an organizational unit at a U.S. Navy R&D facility. (The following year, after competition with several other candidates, I did get the job on a permanent basis.) As part of my supervisory qualification process, I was required to take a number of classes including one that used MBT as part of the team-building process.

When I was provided the results and given the description of my personality type, I was flabbergasted. It was like, “wait this is me exactly, how did I live my whole life without knowing about this?!” I must tell you that it was an epiphany! I still consider that first MBT test as a major event in my life. I like to think that it improved me as a person, that I was better able to understand the mind set of other people but also helped to give me a lot more perspective about myself and my decision-making process."
 
I always tell my 18 year old daughters that your 20's are for you...late 20's-early30's are when you start to think about a family if you so choose. In other words, blow the bolts off of the doors...then think about settling down and planting some roots. ;)
 
I don’t think I’ll ever find myself.
I‘ve always been someone’s wife, mother, grandmother. Those roles always came before I even thought of myself.
Now that husband is gone, kids are grown and grandsons are all older and do their own thing I still
can’t find who I am and where I truly belong.
I think I’m just someone that’s always counted on to be there when needed.
And so it continues…
Oh well, I‘ve had a fairly good life so can’t complain.
 

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