Bad sign that girlfriend has Dementia.

I am beginning to think that we can see signs of things if we look real hard........... and miss things if we do not look close enough.

Everyone slips into forgetfulness and even dementia in different speeds and ways....
I too watch perhaps to closely to a person in my life..... I could probably make a case that they lost some steps but others do not see it...
 

I think that is something we all ponder about ourselves or older loved ones.
For myself, I find myself forgetting things more. Or not having as much interest in things I once enjoyed, like reading. Of course, I am not sure if losing interest in things is a sign of dementia as much as our ever changing lives in general.
 
One thing I caught with someone who I thought was showing signs of it was that she knows what she wants to say but cannot think of the name of who or what she is talking about. At first it was a very slight thing, like when anyone forgets a name of something. Then it became worse, like not knowing the word for the elevator and will say "you know, the thing." She is now on medication for it but it is still very apparent. Her doctor called it "onset dementia" and this is all that is wrong with her. Otherwise she appeared to be in good health for her age of 75.

I certainly hope your girlfriend does not have it. Maybe just having trouble with the physical part of the bath.
 
Pepper said:
They'd notice you all the way to the police station. You can't say that.
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Girlfriend has in the past say to her doctor that she killing herself and doctor puts her in a mental hospital for five days and then she's out again worse then ever. The other day her own children and sister told me they don't want her because of the bi-polar seams.
 
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I need help to get in and out of a bath.
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Me, too. I love a bath but it's too much like getting Shamu out of a small holding tank.

Really, if it wasn't so embarrassing, I'd do a video for YouTube and sell advertising. It would be a hit, for sure. "There she goes....she has one leg out, she's gonna make it....ooooh, that was so close, she almost had it. Now, it looks like she's going to try the Double 180 Spiral Leg-over with the Fosbury Flop. AND SHE'S DONE IT!!!! Good show, JuJu!"
 
It's a terribly frustrating situation, that you are in, Robert.

It is her own legal family members that need to do something, at some point.

Don't do anything that makes your situation worse.

Sometimes someone does change enough so that we do know,
when they are not able to be thinking how they would have sometime in the past.... when they are worse than physically unable, and with more noticeably extreme confusion with a usual activity like a bath...
and when they themself, don't even realize they are confused at all.
About things they have always known.

And if they are not any more capable, after they have rested and slept.
 
Pepper said:
Threatening to kill oneself is different from threatening to murder.
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Reason I said this I'm going blind and who will care for her? I tried to get her in a nursing home none will take her because she to healty they said and has bi-polar. Her children and sister should care be force but the law willn't make that happen. I might have to sue her sister to make her care for here sister. Her sister has good health and is retired. I've taken care of my girlfriend for almost seven years now because her family don't want to do it.
 
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@Robert59 - Has your girlfriend seen her doctor recently? You mentioned that she has bipolar disease. Sometimes changes in behavior could be a reaction to a medication. Or medication doses are missed or taken too frequently. Can she see her doctor with you so you can explain what you have experienced? If you feel her doctor is not responsive to any concerns, maybe it is time for a second opinion.
I really feel bad for all you are going through. This is not easy at all. Has she appointed a Health Care Proxy? That would take effect if she could no longer make her own decisions for her health care.
 
When you say she's having trouble taking a bath, do you mean she can't remember what she's supposed to do or how she's supposed to do it? Have you noticed any other signs like her repeating something she said over and over, maybe during a relatively short period of time (same day)? Is she having trouble forming sentences or articulating her thoughts?

My sister has dementia. Her children finally faced and addressed the situation but I think if it was done sooner, she would be in a better condition. She's not so bad that she needs a nursing home, but we all have been able to see the deterioration in her memory and demeanor (sometimes) over the last couple of years.

I hope that somehow you can get your GF the help she needs, if she is in fact going into dementia. Someone mentioned that she's on a lot of meds...definitely also an angle to check out. It seems like she'd have to be on board with persuing answers if you can't find anyone in her family to do so.
 
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