Be Kind

It can be tricky. We are quite isolated here. My new neighbor moved here in a rented truck. Now he wants to go to his former town (1000 miles away) to get his vehicle.

It's hard to make bus connections, there is no car rental, and the "remote" plane service is too expensive.

I even thought of driving him myself to the next town (250 miles away), but driving that road is scary for me.

Many times I've been a victim of someone's "help," so I didn't want to interfere either.

Another acquaintance was driving that way, and I asked the neighbor if he wanted me to arrange a ride for him. He seemed reluctant. At that moment I realized I couldn't help him and should mind my own business.
 
charry said:
They are the people that need more care and kindness holly ……..
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No, that's where I draw the line.. I am nice to people, even tho' I have my own problems.. when others start being Nasty to me.. because they have problems.. ..then I don't put up with that...

I'm not going to have to cope with problems of my own and then allow others to attack me and create more angst for me , because they've got problems..nope not gonna happen..
 
Thank you, Charry, for your inspirational post. I have always tried to treat all people the same. When I was working and visiting our headquarters in Seattle, I stayed in a particular hotel that served a buffet breakfast in the morning. There was a delightful woman that oversaw the buffet and always acknowledged me because I stayed there so frequently.

We were just at that same hotel last weekend during vacation, and I told my Hubby I was hoping she was still there. She was, and she remembered me after over 2 years. I hugged her and told her I was glad to see her again.

Everyone deserves compassion and respect.
 
When someone is nasty or unfriendly to me I often go out of my way to be nice back. I get a variety of reactions, some get even nastier, some are just surprised, and every now and then the person gets a bit more friendly. However their reactions are not what I am after, I just want to do the best thing. Even when the reaction is nastier I don't let it bother me, just try to avoid that person if I can.
charry said:
They are the people that need more care and kindness
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Absolutely!!
NorthernLight said:
Another acquaintance was driving that way, and I asked the neighbor if he wanted me to arrange a ride for him. He seemed reluctant. At that moment I realized I couldn't help him and should mind my own business.
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You did the right thing in offering help, I don't think minding your own business was right, and I believe you are a good person. What matters is what you did and do, not so much what the other person's reaction is.
 
hollydolly said:
No, that's where I draw the line.. I am nice to people, even tho' I have my own problems.. when others start being Nasty to me.. because they have problems.. ..then I don't put up with that...

I'm not going to have to cope with problems of my own and then allow others to attack me and create more angst for me , because they've got problems..nope not gonna happen..
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If your conscience can handle that
Then good for you holly
Because mine couldn’t !!
 
hollydolly said:
sorry..your consciounce couldn't stand not allowing people to be nasty to you, to add to your own problems after you've gone out of your way to be nice to them ?...that makes no sense Charry..
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if someone is nasty to you for no reason........unless youve been rude to them.........
then surely.....you have to feel sorry for them.......not bring yourself down to their level.....
its sometimes a cry for help ......!!!
 
charry said:
if someone is nasty to you for no reason........unless youve been rude to them.........
then surely.....you have to feel sorry for them.......not bring yourself down to their level.....
its sometimes a cry for help ......!!!
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yes I agree.. but my point is, that if you continue to be kind to them.. and the continue to cause you angst, then it's time to walk away...
 
We would like for the world we live in to be better sometimes. There are myriad ways for each of us to find happiness...and we do. In my life there have times when I could no longer be kind to a best friend or a family member. It had reached a point of such "hatred" towards me that I no longer could rationally talk with them. I began to hate them, so I quit the interaction. I always am kind to others I would like to think. Others I am sure feel
otherwise. :)
 

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