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fishmounter

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I'll be 69 in a couple of weeks and I just wonder if it is part of getting older for men to easily become emotional? I mean I can't watch a sad tv show or movie without getting watery eyes or even a tear or two. If I think about sad things like my wife or dogs passing away, I get emotional. I never was like this. Maybe just a little bit, but not this bad.
 

If you are taking female hormones for prostate cancer they can make you emotional. My husband took Lupron for about a year and stopped because he felt he didn't need it. During that time and for about a year after he stopped he would cry just talking about certain things and during some movies. He hasn't taken Lupron in 5 or 6 years and while he isn't as emotional as he was he still is much softer emotionally than he was in his younger years. Also he used to watch a lot of Science Fiction or Western movies, now he prefers watching Hallmark or Lifetime channel movies. I much prefer him as a more emotional person the way he is now. He will be 75 in a few weeks.
 
I'm not taking anything except my Lisinopril for blood pressure. We watch "This is us" and "A Million Little Things" among others, but these two excellent shows are very emotional. Also the very good documentary film "The Volunteers" about a film maker that goes into Isis territory in Syria and becomes a medic. Sad, sad terrible stuff. Everyone should see what is going on over there.
 

fishmounter said:
I'm not taking anything except my Lisinopril for blood pressure. We watch "This is us" and "A Million Little Things" among others, but these two excellent shows are very emotional. Also the very good documentary film "The Volunteers" about a film maker that goes into Isis territory in Syria and becomes a medic. Sad, sad terrible stuff. Everyone should see what is going on over there.
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You are not alone...
 
Sorry, but I don't cry about anything. Actually, I like to joke & I tend to laugh a lot. Sometimes, you just have to laugh at some people & especially the news. Actually, the news isn't so funny; just some parts of it. All the fuss about football & hockey & who is going to win/lose. I laugh at that a lot. Life may not be "a bowl of cherries" all the time but it does have it's funny parts if you look around.
 
treeguy64 said:
I find myself crying, sometimes shedding copious tears, as I'm slicing onions. I never grieved, in the past, at the reduction of these many-layered, delicious bulbs, but lately I get all choked up, as I labor over my cutting board. Perhaps I have truly become as one, with my friends in the edible world. It must be my advancing years, or maybe it's just that I've moved my cutting board away from the kitchen window!
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Chew some gum while peeling..
 
I think my husband may be softening a bit, especially about the grandkids, although he would rather eat worms than admit it. And you won't catch him watching any Hallmark movies any time soon. So mostly, he's still the same old curmudgeon.
 
I have read/heard that some medications can have an effect on emotions, even though that is not their target. There is one that we see on TV ads that warns about it in the disclaimer . Do not remember just now what the med is intended to treat?

Also, it is no secret that we lose testosterone as we age.......perhaps that plays a part?
 
rgp said:
I have read/heard that some medications can have an effect on emotions, even though that is not their target. There is one that we see on TV ads that warns about it in the disclaimer . Do not remember just now what the med is intended to treat?

Also, it is no secret that we lose testosterone as we age.......perhaps that plays a part?
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Isn't it curious that as we age, men lose some of the testosterone and women lose some of the estrogen. We seem to be trying to become a ''unisex".
 
PVC said:
Isn't it curious that as we age, men lose some of the testosterone and women lose some of the estrogen. We seem to be trying to become a ''unisex".
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Just heard from a female friend last night. She is 59.....shocked that her doc now has her on a BP med, and a cholesterol lowering med. I think she thought she was immune...After her rant, I said for some, it is all a part of aging......get used to it kid.
 
rgp said:
Just heard from a female friend last night. She is 59.....shocked that her doc now has her on a BP med, and a cholesterol lowering med. I think she thought she was immune...After her rant, I said for some, it is all a part of aging......get used to it kid.
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Well, I am rabidly anti drug. In January 2012 my doctor wanted to put me on BP, cholesterol, and thyroid medicine. I said no, he hinted I might get a stroke or drop dead. Maybe it was just luck, but I'm still here almost eight years later. If I had taken them, I might be on maybe 5 prescrips by now due to side effects. I figured once I hit 70 I am on bonus longevity time, three of my friends died at 65-67.
 
it is very true some meds cause the tears to flow more ' I hate to watch a dog dying it creases me up '
but other wise iam ok ………..
 
I had an idea some months back that at my age I am not going to watch brutal movies, documentaries or read about horrific slayings, etc. any more. In short, like the songs says, "nothing but blues skies from now on".
 
fishmounter said:
I'll be 69 in a couple of weeks and I just wonder if it is part of getting older for men to easily become emotional? I mean I can't watch a sad tv show or movie without getting watery eyes or even a tear or two. If I think about sad things like my wife or dogs passing away, I get emotional. I never was like this. Maybe just a little bit, but not this bad.
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I think it's very normal as we get older, if your wife and dogs have passed on, my condolences. If you're just thinking about it happening in the future, you're not alone. I do that more often now that I'm in my 60s and think it's very common and understandable. I have no problem if my husband gets more emotional about something than he did when he was younger, I think it's healthy for all of us to embrace our emotions, happy or sad. We are complex beings.
 
SeaBreeze said:
I think it's very normal as we get older, if your wife and dogs have passed on, my condolences. If you're just thinking about it happening in the future, you're not alone. I do that more often now that I'm in my 60s and think it's very common and understandable. I have no problem if my husband gets more emotional about something than he did when he was younger, I think it's healthy for all of us to embrace our emotions, happy or sad. We are complex beings.
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I failed to mention that I laugh a lot now also! I have a great sense of humor and enjoy comedies and funny things that I come across in everyday life. And just to let you know my wife of 46 years is still with me as is our two Golden Retrievers. It's just the thought of losing them.
 
SeaBreeze said:
I think it's very normal as we get older, if your wife and dogs have passed on, my condolences. If you're just thinking about it happening in the future, you're not alone. I do that more often now that I'm in my 60s and think it's very common and understandable. I have no problem if my husband gets more emotional about something than he did when he was younger, I think it's healthy for all of us to embrace our emotions, happy or sad. We are complex beings.
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I agree. I don't know how or why it's treated as normal that men are not supposed to be emotional. I have no problem when a man cries as long as he's not loud enough to wake the whole neighborhood. I wouldn't like that in a woman, either.
 
Recently, my son said that since being a young boy, he knew boys & men don't cry. "You didn't get that from me or your father," says I and he answered that he learned that early from TV.
 
fishmounter said:
I failed to mention that I laugh a lot now also! I have a great sense of humor and enjoy comedies and funny things that I come across in everyday life. And just to let you know my wife of 46 years is still with me as is our two Golden Retrievers. It's just the thought of losing them.
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Thanks for that Fishmounter. :) Glad you wife and furkids are still around, I've been married for 43 years now (together over 45) and have a dog and cat that I love, I sometimes think of how it would be if I lost them, I'm very emotional so I do get teary for lots of things happy and sad. We laugh a lot too, have the same sense of humor and don't go a day without the smiles and laughter warming our little home. Life is good!
 
Linda said:
If you are taking female hormones for prostate cancer they can make you emotional. My husband took Lupron for about a year and stopped because he felt he didn't need it. During that time and for about a year after he stopped he would cry just talking about certain things and during some movies. He hasn't taken Lupron in 5 or 6 years and while he isn't as emotional as he was he still is much softer emotionally than he was in his younger years. Also he used to watch a lot of Science Fiction or Western movies, now he prefers watching Hallmark or Lifetime channel movies. I much prefer him as a more emotional person the way he is now. He will be 75 in a few weeks.
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At 77, I am almost half way through my two year hormone treatment using Lupron. It does affect me emotionally, but nothing like you have described in the case of your husband. I avoid movies and shows that are violent, especially when it comes to women, children, and animals. That sort of thing bothers me much more than it used to. I also minimize the amount of news that I watch since that is an easy way to wind up pumping stomach acid.

There were two other guys in their 70's that were going through the same treatment at the same time that I was and their experience is a lot like mine. Neither of them were experiencing drastic emotional swings.

However, two women that my wife and I know have told me that their significant others are having a very tough time of it. Of interest is the fact that they are both in their early 60's and are particularly upset over losing their "mojo." Losing your "mojo" in your mid 70's is a lot easier to accept. I have come to grips with the idea that I am now a "completely harmless male" and I am just moving on with other things that life has to offer.

So like many things in life, the way we react to Lupron "just depends." Personally, I am strongly partial to the idea of staying alive.
 
I'm 70, and have found myself getting a bit touched over some things that never bothered me before

Guess it's normal

I know my dad, in his 80s and beyond, would get the blubbers over everything
My brother and I had to kinda steer him toward something else, 'Hey Dad...how 'bout them Mets?'

I hope I don't get that way
 
I was a softy. This world we live in has been hardening me more lately. I wish it didn't. I don't like feeling like a mean & insensitive person. But very little makes me cry or feel bad anymore. Hope I don't turn into a piece of stone. LOL
 

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