Busybody Neighbor

I live next to one of 'em. He and his wife are always running down to the town office, swearing out complaints They are always having wars with at least two neighbors. Believe me, I understand the urge to strangle the SOB. But after living next to them for 30 years, I found if I just ignored his childish complaints solved a lot of problems. Granted if your neighbor is on your property, etc, that's a whole other story- but a letter?????
Fuzz, you should handle your asshat neighbors however you see fit. If ignoring their childish complaints works for you, that's great. :)

It doesn't matter if the guy spoke directly to Win or wrote him a letter. Win doesn't have to live by his neighbor's standards. He's a free agent who can tell his asshat neighbor to stick it. The asshat needs to mind his own business. Win knows the situation better than anyone who has commented, and he handled it as he saw fit. Good for him!

Bella ✌️
 

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I was just thinkin' "Hey. What's wrong with me? How could I forget to post my response:

Dear "Steve"
I suggest you find something better to do with your time & energy than being a busybody whose life is so empty that you would decide which yards don't meet your expectations. Maybe find a job. Or a hobby. Or a companion - assuming someone can stand you.
If my yard is an eyesore for you, you are free to avoid looking at it. Much better than making an ass out of yourself - which is exactly what you are.
It's quite amusing that you say you hope you're not being rude - after being more than rude. But, I'm sure that's not the first time someone said that to you.
Tony
 

I had a similar experience. I politely told them I wasn't going to do anything with my yard. But they were welcome to come and fix it up however they wanted.

They probably thought I was being snarky, but I was serious. Anyway, that was the end of the complaints.
I was just about to suggest that the neighbour is the one who is bothered by the yard, so he was free to do something about it, if he wished.
 
Well! This is a fun read at 3 AM! I've often thought how fun it would be to visit Win, hear him play piano, help him feed his raccoons ... but then there's that big gate and the gun collection, so I'd be sure to call first.

I think this neighbor is absolutely nuts. It's the, "Hope I'm not being rude" after the rudest letter ever that would have sparked my flame.

When we lived in the country, I once went down the hill from my house to get the mail. There across the street was the opposite neighbor's trash bag ripped open by some varmint in the night. Because I'm obsessively clean and I thought I was being helpful, I picked it all up and stuffed it back in her bin.

A few minutes latter she came running up the hill frothing at the mouth over how my dog had torn up her trash. My Mini-Dachshund was never out of my sight and I don't think she could have ripped the side of a hefty bag if she wanted to, but I listened to her tirade and then she said, "No hard feelings," and flounced off. I didn't say anything but that last part really got me.
 
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I live in a neighborhood with a lot of snooty people. They don’t talk to one another, except to complain at the HOA meetings. One meeting almost turned into a riot. If we hadn’t had a Virginia State Trooper living in the community and was in attendance at the meeting, it would have been an all out riot. I sat there and listened to them act like a bunch of little children that had their crayons taken away from them. I got up and left.

Some people will walk all over their neighbor if they think they can get away with it. We have 1 man that stands up at every meeting and complains about something. One time he complained because the one house in another section of the development didn’t drop their flag to half staff when RBG died.
 
Three months ago, I recommended to the board of our HOA that if someone wants to speak at a meeting they should send the request to the secretary along with the topic to be discussed. This would eliminate a lot of people from just standing up and voicing complaints about petty things. I also added that the agenda should be emailed to each home at least 72 hours prior to the meeting.

Here’s a sample of a few complaints. We are suppose to only water our laws between 10 pm and 6 am. We have sprinkler police that actually drives through the development to make sure everyone is complying with the rule. Another one. All U.S. flags that are flown at night must come down at dusk, unless there is a light displaying them. I have my flag on a pole with a light attachment at the top that displays the flag. My neighbor uses 2 lights that are mounted in the ground and shines the light onto the flag and the lights are controlled by a timer. His timer stopped working and he didn’t notice that the lights weren’t coming on. He got a letter from the board that was taped to his front door threatening to fine him, if he didn’t fix the lights. Why not just put a note on the door “asking” the owner to please check his flag lighting?

If I stay where I am, (I am looking to move, just haven’t decided where to) I have decided to have my name placed on the ballot next month for a member at large position on the board. It’s a 2-year term and I’m ok with that. The election is in December. A few people have been asking me to run, so I will ask one of them to nominate me.
 

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