I recognize that boat Katy, I was in it too, and while I didn't mind being alone I wouldn't risk traveling too far that way even 30 years ago.
I was lucky to be working with an older woman who had been to the States and wanted to do it again since her husband was retired. He was a home-body and wouldn't go anywhere so she and I just booked and went.
We scraped up all the spare money we had and booked as much itinerary as it could cover. It added up to 8 weeks in the US, Alaska and Canada and left enough spending money to buy the lunches that were never included. Not a cent of it was wasted, we had a ball.
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Gwen and I didn't have a great working relationship, in fact we were at constant loggerheads and had daily tiffs.
She was 20 years older than me and self appointed queen of the office. A bossy control freak with a short temper and shorter tolerance levels. She had that alpha at any cost and vengeance on dissenters personality. She was the quintessential Scorpio who ruled by terror where she could and manipulated those in power shamelessly.
She was exactly like an older version of me.
The day I started there was the worst day of her entire career. It was on from day one. She was bossy and I was stubborn and that never changed. But strangely because we understood each other so well we also had a kind of respectful rapport that the other staff never realised and woe betide anyone who ticked us both off at the same time or tried to play one against the other.
We often had dinner at each others' homes and went to social outings and got along fine. Like all heirarchal creatures we only fought over common territory, the workplace. Strangely it wasn't really 'personal' just a 'professional' power conflict.
I mellowed in later life once I didn't feel the need to be on the defensive all the time, because that's what that type of personality really is. It's 90% pure bluff, armour to cover a weak, soft centre, a survival tactic. ... but I digress.
When we announced that we were off traveling together for 8 weeks the staff had 3 sweepstakes running.
One for which of us would 'spit the dummy' and come home first, one for how long we'd last, the other for which one would murder the other.
As she'd been before and knew the tricks about how things worked over there I let her take the lead and that worked fine. She knew how far she could push me and there were a few places we went that I'd have missed out on had I not let her have her way and boss me into going along. Then we met a Canadian lady who was braver than both of us and had set off to see her country totally alone. She was retired and recently widowed and wanted to put some distance and memories between her and a sad time.
We explored Canada like the 3 musketeers but poor Ada couldn't understand how our 'friendship' worked at all.
She'd never encountered people who could have a full on public yelling match over something one minute and be laughing together at something else 10 seconds later. We were a bit strange I guess, Gwen and I.
But Ada hung in there, and when Gwen was bossing Ada more than usual I'd warn Ada to wander off a bit as I was about to jerk Gwen's reins and a verbal brawl and steam venting was brewing. She saw the funny side of it all eventually and quite enjoyed 'the show.'
She didn't gel with Gwen so much but Ada and I remained firm friends until she died around 10 years later. She came to Australia twice and stayed at my home and we all went touring together up the coast to Cairns, flew across to Darwin and by bus down through the Centre to Adelaide, then flew back to Sydney. Great trip. I'd done it all before but it was better having someone new to show it to.
She'd come in the best season they'd had for 20 years, there was actually grass and flowers growing on the Gibber Plains! It's normally dead flat red dust horizon to horizon and covered in billions of small shiny black rocks.
She was impressed at how 'pretty' it was never realizing she was one of very few who'd ever seen it that way.
The 2nd time Ada came over we didn't even tell Gwen she was there. I felt bad about that but Ada had had enough of her as she was getting even crankier as she aged, and had retired so we didn't work together any more and only phoned each other rarely for the odd reunion so I got away with it, she never knew.
The 2nd 'grand tour' was a road trip. We did a leisurely 3 days, staying where we liked, drive up to the Gold Coast and stayed with my relatives there for a week, then got stranded in Taree on the way back when we got into the middle of a 5 car pile up and found ourselves largely uninjured but without any transport. But that's another tale.
Ada was booked for a 3rd trip down here when she was diagnosed with cancer and had to cancel.
She lost her battle, but we spoke often on the phone and she was always positive to almost the end that she'd make that 3rd trip eventually. I miss her still, she was a wonderful person and we were so lucky to have met her on that tour.
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So you see Katy, traveling alone can have all kinds of fun outcomes. Like Ada, you might have met a couple weirdos like Gwen and I and opened up a whole new world.
Traveling isn't just about the scenery, and travel companions don't need to be close friends, just share a common interest in seeing the same things.
... and all that isn't a bit of use without the money and fitness to do it with right?
Know about that boat too, which is why we shouldn't put off doing what we want to for too long. Those opportunities don't remain open for ever. Sorry we won't see you down here.