Can I ask you a questiom?

I do. (so...here I am :p)

According to my psych classes, there are 3 reasons why people feel they HAVE to be "the answer man." I put myself in the 3rd category: a strong sense of responsibility to help others...probly because I was in charge of my younger siblings when I was a kid. And I took guidance from my older, much smarter brother, who was in charge of me. He really did have all the answers.
 
"The only true wisdom is in knowing that you know nothing" - Socrates
In Stoicism, based on personal experience and accountable knowledge, wisdom is one of four virtues a Stoicist can use to guide others to make sound judgments and decisions for living a well-reasoned life, but must accept without ego or judgement that every individual has the choice to take it or leave it.
 
In Stoicism, based on personal experience and accountable knowledge, wisdom is one of four virtues a Stoicist can use to guide others to make sound judgments and decisions for living a well-reasoned life, but must accept without ego or judgement that every individual has the choice to take it or leave it.
. . . And courage, justice, temperance, but I can't claim to guide others, which is why I quoted another. :)
 
It was sort of expected of me during my working years.

I used to tell the young folks that worked for me not to bring me a problem without bringing me a possible solution.

It was good for all of us.

I got to know a bit more about their knowledge and ability and they gained a bit more confidence and experience.

Most self described experts are dangerous and should be avoided because they have for the most part stopped learning and growing.
 
Do you always feel/ think you HAVE TO Be The Answer 'Man'?

How much so?

Or not!šŸ˜‰

Yes and no. I like to research stuff. To me its like working a crossword puzzle. If people ask me I will volunteer what I have and show them where I found the info. And If I like them I will even look up stuff from scratch. But I feel no obligation to share. :D

Before I retired I was engineering tech support for five states So back then I was the answer Maam. :D
 
When someone describes a problem they're having, I want to help if I can. But this site has taught me that suggestions can be offensive. It's often better to just say, "I'm sorry,"
What do I know, anyway? Nothing.
For what it's worth (or isn't) I don't feel that way toward you. I don't agree with you on everthing, just as you don't always agree with me. But there is something I like about you and your style and the way you get right to the point.
 
If the question asked calls for my opinion, I will give it. It’s neither right nor wrong, it’s just my opinion.

If they ask a factual question and I know the answer, I’ll give it. If I don’t know, I’ll say, ā€œ Let’s look that up.ā€

Too often, especially on the internet, people ask for an opinion, and then get angry with the answer or try to debunk it. An opinion is just that -
oĀ·pinĀ·ion
noun
a view or judgment formed about something, not necessarily based on fact or knowledge.
 
It was sort of expected of me during my working years.

I used to tell the young folks that worked for me not to bring me a problem without bringing me a possible solution.

It was good for all of us.

I got to know a bit more about their knowledge and ability and they gained a bit more confidence and experience.

Most self described experts are dangerous and should be avoided because they have for the most part stopped learning and growing.

When I first started work many moons ago, one of the first things I was told was that if someone tells you they have 20 years experience, it means they have 1 years experience, and it's 20 years old!

I've kept that in mind ever since, and whenever anyone claims to be an expert I always think back to that lesson I was taught all those years ago.
 


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