In our early years others make choices for us but later we make our own - I made mine at 18 +++ - I now live in outback Ozzie sweltering at 40C and shorts and tee shirts only for Xmas! - all the roads and choices seemed random along the way including 3 yrs in HK but are they or are they designed for us? - I've enjoyed all moments - made a few errors but who doesn't - but would I have changed any ?? - doubt it?
Choices we make and take??
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officerripley
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Sometimes I miss the years when I could make my own choices, not everything about those years (they were lonely sometimes), but being more able to do what I wanted when I wanted. Now it's Huzz making most of the choices and I get so tired most of the time.
Paco Dennis
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@smiley Yea, how come you didnt stay in HK? 
You could of you know?
i live in the forest in Missouri, Alone with my mate/friend. Have for over 30 years. I had the good life of a working musician but I chose to quit that and get a job near my children. I am not sure that having other people make my decisions is much different than when I think it is strictly mine. Nope...others are always involved. Always.
You could of you know?i live in the forest in Missouri, Alone with my mate/friend. Have for over 30 years. I had the good life of a working musician but I chose to quit that and get a job near my children. I am not sure that having other people make my decisions is much different than when I think it is strictly mine. Nope...others are always involved. Always.
Imogene
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- Middle Tennessee
Mom was a lot more intuitive than I gave her credit for, in my early years.
I was only a teenager when she told me I had better plan on having a good paying job and that was all she said. For years I only thought that meant don’t be lazy. Get out there and get to work. Well, that was part of it — the other half of that meant I was far too independent and wanting to do my own thing to depend on somebody else.
That did not mean not getting married. It simply meant not getting married to a control freak who wanted to keep me under their thumb 24/7.
I was only a teenager when she told me I had better plan on having a good paying job and that was all she said. For years I only thought that meant don’t be lazy. Get out there and get to work. Well, that was part of it — the other half of that meant I was far too independent and wanting to do my own thing to depend on somebody else.
That did not mean not getting married. It simply meant not getting married to a control freak who wanted to keep me under their thumb 24/7.
Decisions were made for me for most of my life. I knew I was going to college because my parents paid for it and it was what was expected of me. I had planned on being an architect.
While going to school, I worked part-time at Sears selling men's clothing. I was scouted by the owner of a men's clothing boutique and was offered a manager position. Our best customer, who owned a tour company, offered me a position in sales. I really didn't want another sales position but I took it. That led to me being picked up as a local sales rep for a cruise line. I spent my career at a couple of cruise lines and retired as VP of Sales. Neither sales nor travel were decisions I would have made, but the opportunities presented themselves. Of course, I ultimately made the decisions to move forward in each case.
The best decision I made own my own as an adult was moving from South Florida to Dallas in 2006. I'd done some research and Miami was significantly "overvalued" and Dallas was "undervalued". I sold our house and my mother's and bought two less expensive (but nicer) ones in Dallas, allowing me to pay off both at 49 y/o. I also had the benefit of working from home until I retired 14 years later because I managed a group of salespeople located all over the country. Our headquarters was in Miami at the time, then moved to Seattle, so I never had to live near headquarters.
There are many situations life throws at us, both good and bad, and ultimately our decisions come down to how we handle them.
While going to school, I worked part-time at Sears selling men's clothing. I was scouted by the owner of a men's clothing boutique and was offered a manager position. Our best customer, who owned a tour company, offered me a position in sales. I really didn't want another sales position but I took it. That led to me being picked up as a local sales rep for a cruise line. I spent my career at a couple of cruise lines and retired as VP of Sales. Neither sales nor travel were decisions I would have made, but the opportunities presented themselves. Of course, I ultimately made the decisions to move forward in each case.
The best decision I made own my own as an adult was moving from South Florida to Dallas in 2006. I'd done some research and Miami was significantly "overvalued" and Dallas was "undervalued". I sold our house and my mother's and bought two less expensive (but nicer) ones in Dallas, allowing me to pay off both at 49 y/o. I also had the benefit of working from home until I retired 14 years later because I managed a group of salespeople located all over the country. Our headquarters was in Miami at the time, then moved to Seattle, so I never had to live near headquarters.
There are many situations life throws at us, both good and bad, and ultimately our decisions come down to how we handle them.
Naturally
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I’ve made unsupervised choices. Several warning signs were ignored. Time briefly hesitated. Physics filed a complaint. Reality is considering an appeal. History will deny responsibility. Archaeologists may argue about the findings for centuries. I admit to having been present ... when the choices occurred ... and taking notes.
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Remember when... thirty seemed so old.
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- Arkansas, and also Florida
My life.
Sunkist
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I know much of your story.. (((((HUGS)))))