Constantly being late now considered 'time blindness'

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Constantly being late/tardy is now considered 'time blindness'-lol

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/...little-known-condition-say-psychologists.html

I know people who have no sense of time, never wear a watch or look at clock but constant lateness for appointments, work etc is now has a name-'time blindness'. Oh goody another excuse for those who won't get their act together.
 

IMO, just slacker employer era pop psychology garbage for those that have developed bad habits and attitudes due to enablers letting them. The below comment in the article sums up what the so-called "experts" agenda is:

"...Mr Common also said that the best way to support someone with time blindness is to be compassionate and promote self-compassion."
 
It is ironic that most everyone has a cell phone which has the time and often alarm capabilities...

If people cannot or more likely WILL not show up on time it is rude and disrespectful for all the people who are held up by this......Wish people would treat adults like adults not every enabling excuse they can find.....

I worked at place that enabled this meetings start 15 minutes late and so go over most all there on salary so they did not care but us hourly were looked at funny if we requested the constant 15 min overtime this created. It hits so many somone shows up late they push my appointment back etc ........ drives me up the wall ........
 

David777 said:
IMO, just slacker employer era pop psychology garbage for those that have developed bad habits and attitudes due to enablers letting them. The below comment in the article sums up what the so-called "experts" agenda is:

"...Mr Common also said that the best way to support someone with time blindness is to be compassionate and promote self-compassion."
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OMG- - - This articles going from bad to worse.šŸ˜«
 
I prepare in a military way for appointments, aiming to be early, allowing margins of error for traffic etc. This effort spares much stress. Fortunately my husband is a good timekeeper - actually he is more strict about setting off, impatient and hovers around me if I am not ready to go.
 
From an article about time-blindness...

A person recently went viral on TikTok for saying in a tearful video that she was reprimanded for asking for an accommodation for "time blindness," a condition she said makes it harder to show up for work on time.

The video has garnered more than 4.6 million views and plenty of mockery in the comments. But mental health experts say time blindness is actually a legitimate experience, especially for people with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, or ADHD.

"Time blindness is a difficulty with a perception of time, how much time is passed, how much time it's going to take to do something, and it can be quite impairing to people," says Stephanie Sarkis, a psychotherapist and author specializing in ADHD, anxiety and narcissistic abuse. "It is a real thing that's been researched."

If you consistently over- or underestimate how much time has passed, seem to run late no matter how hard you try not to, or think you've been distracted for a few minutes only to look at a clock and see two hours have gone by, you may be time blind. Here's what you should know if you think you might be time blind:

Though it's most commonly observed in people with ADHD, Sarkis says, time blindness can manifest in anyone with impairment in executive functions stemming from the frontal lobe area of their brain, which is responsible for personality, judgment, self-control and more.

The frontal lobe is "like a floodgate for the brain," Sarkis says, adding that time blindness can also be present in people with depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder and other mental health conditions. "It's not exclusive to ADHD, but it does impact ADHD quite a bit."

Ari Tuckman, a psychologist specializing in ADHD as well as couples and sex therapy, adds that people can also experience temporary bouts of time blindness if they are grieving, drunk, stressed or sleep-deprived.

https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2023/07/21/time-blindness-viral-tiktok-is-it-real-adhd-symptom/70440407007/#:~:text="Time blindness is a difficulty,ADHD, anxiety and narcissistic abuse.
 
I am a nut about the exact time. I have 7 clocks and three watches- and they all have to say the same exact time. And I'm always late. I don't plan it or anything. And it's not some weird psychological thing. It just happens. What gets me about these "on time" people is they get to an appointment a half hour early and WAIT, but if I get there 10 minutes late, they are upset about WAITING for me. But they have no problem sitting WAITING for a half hour. Let's see 10 minutes vs 30 minutes????????? So, all these 'on time' people have to do is get to an appointment 10 minutes later, then when I get there, they've been waiting the same time. Works for me.

I am taking donations for the Fuzzybuddy Cure Time Blindness Fund.
 
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Thanks for the link @Paco Dennis

A person recently went viral on TikTok for saying in a tearful video that she was reprimanded for asking for an accommodation for "time blindness," a condition she said makes it harder to show up for work on time. The video has garnered more than 4.6 million views and plenty of mockery in the comments. But mental health experts say time blindness is actually a legitimate experience, especially for people with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, or ADHD.

The issue is not that it isn't true that some people obviously may have a more difficult effort keeping track of times, but rather that such ought NOT be used as an Excuse in this era with alarm appliances. The enabling news article reinforces an attitude it is ok. Everyone has occasional late night events that will leave them groggy next mornings or awkwardly timed meetings whether at work or for medical appointments. Let alarm appliances fix that which might be as little as a smart watch.
 
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Sorry, not buying it. Everyone is late occasionally.....there's a traffic tie-up or something goes wrong or ..... I said "occasionally". It happens. You apologize and try not to have it happen again.

People who are late ALL the time don't value other people's time. I had to "divorce" a friend many years ago because she could never get anywhere on time or just didn't show up at all. That was before cellphones, so I'd be waiting somewhere, wondering where the heck she was and when/if she'd show up. After a while, I'd find a pay phone, call her and she'd still be at home.....she'd be "leaving shortly", "something came up", "somebody stopped by and she just couldn't ask them to leave", or the best yet...."I just wasn't feeling sociable". I really enjoyed her company WHEN she showed up, but..... Actually, she was capable of being on time when it was to *her* advantage, thus the feeling that she didn't value *my* time.
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I reconnected with her last year and we made plans to get together for lunch. I was at the restaurant, a half hour passed without her showing up. I called her and she was still at home. She would be leaving "shortly". She was at least a half hour away and I said, "forget it, we'll try another time." I haven't tried again. Apparently nothing has changed.
 
David777 said:
Thanks for the link @Paco Dennis

A person recently went viral on TikTok for saying in a tearful video that she was reprimanded for asking for an accommodation for "time blindness," a condition she said makes it harder to show up for work on time. The video has garnered more than 4.6 million views and plenty of mockery in the comments. But mental health experts say time blindness is actually a legitimate experience, especially for people with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, or ADHD.

The issue is not that it isn't true that some people obviously may have a more difficult effort keeping track of times, but rather that such ought NOT be used as an Excuse in this era with alarm appliances. The enabling news article reinforces an attitude it is ok. Everyone has occasional late night events that will leave them groggy next mornings or awkwardly timed meetings whether at work or for medical appointments. Let alarm appliances fix that which might be as little as a smart watch.
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If this IS a problem for those with ADHD or just the way their brain is wired the problem is not easy to fix. Suggesting there is no excuse because of technology
( alarms/timers ), might be helpful to some but it won't fix everybody. How long do you wait for people? Is it different for different reasons? Of course. We know time is relative. When we are engrossed in something we lose track of time. I think us seniors have many a joke told about our forgetfulness and being late. My personal habit is to plan to show up early when I am to meet with someone. If they are late, I consciously go into relax/patient mode. If they are ridiculously late, I usually begin to worry, and eventually leave.
 
For appointments, I'm usually early and waiting in my car a few minutes.

Work, I'm on time. I appreciate my co-workers who are also on time, because some are not.
 
Promptness is cultural to a degree. Had a Finnish supervisor that started meetings as the second hand swept pass the 12. And she ended the meeting not a minute too long. I am guessing this is a Finnish thing? At any rate, I appreciated it.

I am the same way with appointments or meetings. But for casual gatherings, up to 20 minutes late is acceptable for me for my guests, unless there is a phone call. One of my pet peeves is how our church starts the service and hymns right on the 12 if one particular person leads them. I can be on time, but not so much for my wife and daughter. When I led hymns, I gave everyone 4 extra minutes. I would have given more if I could. My friend that pastored a Mexican church gave his congregation 15 or 20 minutes.
 
Gee, I think 20 minutes late is really rude. I wouldn't wait that long for anyone without a phone call or message with a good reason.
Michael Z said:
our church starts the service and hymns right on the 12
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Sorry Michael, but IMO that's how it should be. It's not right to make all the others wait and then get out late. They have lives too.
 
Years ago, I had an appointment to meet a 'friend' at a restaurant. I waited an hour and a half past the designated time, then left. When I saw her again, of course I inquired as to the reason for her tardiness. She said she stopped to see another friend of hers on the way to the restaurant and lost track of time. She did eventually show up, but by that time I had departed. I missed her by 20 minutes according to the time she said she got there. To me it seemed totally lame excuse. If you have a set time to meet someone, don't make any stops on the way!
And this wasn't the only time she was late. Another time she promised to stop at my garage sale. I told her the hours I'd be open. I was almost finished packing up for the day when she arrived, then she dawdled over looking at what was still out when I was anxious to finish.

I find this behavior difficult to relate to since I'm usually early for things.
 

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