Constantly being late now considered 'time blindness'

[WhatInThe]

I went through a period almost as a challenge to try and figure out things down to the second then I realized it's simply not worth it the hassle because that's what it was not adrenaline nor awards for showing up less than a minute before.

I always heard the chronically late for social or non work appointments was attention seeking behavior. Chronic lateness for work is another story although I think many in reality hate their job or people there ie it's not a priority which some interpret as disrespect. Some try to do too much and others don't give a hoot.

Not that all early arrivals are super stars or tardy are poor workers. Also had jobs where employees purposely played the system knowing it would take 3 lates for a write up unless they were over 15 minutes. Then there were three steps to being fired. So every 6 months they wound up with about a dozen lates and still with a job and with no suspensions etc.

 

[Retired Monica]

I understand that there are circumstances that arise that can make people late from time to time, but for those who procrastinate to be late chronically and hold up other people, that is just not right.

 

[Jeni]

I think people tend to think well we all could be late from time to time .......
The reality on this is in my experience one or 2 habitually late......... then another person thinks why should i put in effort to be on time when i know X and Y are always late.... so they become the third and so on.
Enabling behaviors or habits ...... lets them grow and multiply ......

 

[Fyrefox]

I guess my doctors must be as time blind as bats, because they always keep me waiting for 15 to 45 minutes. Maybe they just want the anxiety or anticipation to build…

I always endeavored to arrive early for my appointments professionally as that gave me time to compose myself and appear calm and focused. My appointees, however, tended to arrive late, and were “no shows” 10% of the time. They never faced consequences for this, while I certainly would have from my superiors…

 

[victorian gent]

Lateness is often worrisome to someone who has ADHD.
When I began dating my girlfriend, if I had not arrived within 2 minutes, she would begin calling and texting if I was still on the way. So I began to try to text her as to how many minutes I was going to be late if delayed by traffic. After a while, I gave her a range of 15 minutes as to when I would arrive. This caused less stress for her and she felt more secure that I was going to show up.
Now she has moved from 20 minutes away to 5 minutes away. My traffic reasons are not as valid anymore. I give her a small range of time if I have stops to make on the way.
I have always heard that one of the rules of being a gentleman, is that being on time is being 5 minutes early.

 

[Jeni]

I guess my doctors must be as time blind as bats, because they always keep me waiting for 15 to 45 minutes. Maybe they just want the anxiety or anticipation to build…

I always endeavored to arrive early for my appointments professionally as that gave me time to compose myself and appear calm and focused. My appointees, however, tended to arrive late, and were “no shows” 10% of the time. They never faced consequences for this, while I certainly would have from my superiors…

i wrote out a bill for my time ..... gave to the check in desk of a doctor........... whom must have thought it was ok to push back my appointment for 45 minutes...........also announcing loudly for the whole waiting room to know.
ALL my future visits i was escorted into back to wait .................as doctor said" i did not play well with others ".... lol
i had another person approach me by the elevator outside the office and he said "the whole office on time averages greatly improved after my stepping up. "

 

[debodun]

i wrote out a bill for my time ..... gave to the check in desk of a doctor........... whom must have thought it was ok to push back my appointment for 45 minutes

Only 45 minutes? You're lucky! Once I brough my mom to see her doctor and it was about 2 and a half hour wait. When I went to see my retina specialist last year, I waited over 4 hours.

 

[Sunny]

Didn't there used to be a thing about being "fashionably late?" Is this the same thing?

Whatever you call it, it is not excusable when it makes other people wait for you, as if their time is worth nothing. And as somebody else pointed out, there's definitely no excuse for it when everybody carries a cell phone all the time.

 

[Remy]

I guess my doctors must be as time blind as bats, because they always keep me waiting for 15 to 45 minutes. Maybe they just want the anxiety or anticipation to build…

I always endeavored to arrive early for my appointments professionally as that gave me time to compose myself and appear calm and focused. My appointees, however, tended to arrive late, and were “no shows” 10% of the time. They never faced consequences for this, while I certainly would have from my superiors…

The eye doctor group I go to are kind of jerky. If you are x amount of minutes late (can't remember if it's 5 or what) they will cancel you. Yet you wait and wait and wait there. Plus before they moved to their even fancier new building, the parking at the old place was beyond horrible. And I think they realized it because the parking spaces were very narrow. Staff and even customers parked on the streets in front of houses (bet they loved it) It was a hot mess. I think the surgery center is still there and I don't know what went into the general building if anything yet, but I'll bet the home owners around there are saying good riddance. I can't blame them.

 

[Della]

I am a nut about the exact time. I have 7 clocks and three watches- and they all have to say the same exact time. And I'm always late. I don't plan it or anything. And it's not some weird psychological thing. It just happens. What gets me about these "on time" people is they get to an appointment a half hour early and WAIT, but if I get there 10 minutes late, they are upset about WAITING for me. But they have no problem sitting WAITING for a half hour. Let's see 10 minutes vs 30 minutes????????? So, all these 'on time' people have to do is get to an appointment 10 minutes later, then when I get there, they've been waiting the same time. Works for me.

I am taking donations for the Fuzzybuddy Cure Time Blindness Fund.

They're early so you won't have to wait for them because they would feel very rude doing that to you. Then after all that extra consideration for you, you make them wait past the time you agreed to meet. The thirty minutes early by them was their choice out of consideration for you, and now you've made them wait for you out of inconsideration for them. That's why they're mad.

When I led hymns, I gave everyone 4 extra minutes. I would have given more if I could. My friend that pastored a Mexican church gave his congregation 15 or 20 minutes.

While you and the pastor are "giving" some people up to 20 minutes, you are taking time from the people who are sitting bored in the pew waiting for the people you have somehow judged to be superior and more worthy than them. If the sign outside says church starts at ten, it should start at ten out of consideration for the people who got up and made the effort to get there on time. If some people are consistently 15 minutes late for the ten o'clock service they could set their alarm ten minutes earlier. It's simple.

If I sit for more than about an hour my back starts to hurt, I know lots of people like that. You're putting those people through 15 minutes of pain while you are giving that gift to the people who shuffled around home having that extra cup of coffee while others waited for them.
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My husband does people's taxes for them for free. He works out of a food pantry/free store. People call for appointments and it's all set up. He gets up, gets dressed, leaves me at home doing the mowing or whatever by myself, and drives to the appointment, getting there a few minutes early to be ready, computer on,etc. Then his clients are almost invariably late. They drag in 30 to 40 minutes late with no apology. I can't imagine where people get such an arrogant sense of entitlement.

I was late for work one time when I was 19 because my ride share was late. I never counted on anyone else to get to work again, and I was never late again. If I could go 50 years without being late, why is it some people can't go a whole week?