Coquettish describes a woman's flirtatious manner, (and is not a word you hear everyday), is it necessary?

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Coquettish describes a woman's flirtatious manner,.............., is it a necessary characteristic in a womans armoury to attract a mate, (or keep him interested?), or can it be "overplayed"?


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"Coquettish describes a woman's flirtatious manner. If you were acting in a coquettish way, you might banter playfully and bat your eyelashes. Coquettish is the adjective form of the noun coquette, a young, flirtatious woman. Coquette is the feminine diminutive of the French word coq, which means cockerel or rooster"

I attended a large Gala Dinner last night, whre everyone was "dressed up to the nines", especially the ladies, (and why not, everyone had had a busy week etc.), and I'd guess there were plenty there trying to attract attention in one way or another, (a fool like myself can do so without trying obviously!).

This prompted my question, and overall I'd say coquettishness is necessary, to answer my own question, (or I can put up with it anyway!). 💃.
 

If any woman had ever batted her eyes at me, I probably would have rolled on the floor laughing, or asked her if she had something in her eye. I think that coquettes are an artifact of an earlier generation, which is either for the good, or a pity. They wouldn’t play too well in the 21st century.

Now, Red Hot Riding Hood here knew how to attract attention!

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Related is a woman who might vamp a guy. This used to mean something other than bite them on the neck!

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We visited a "carpet school" in Egypt in 2000 and watched little girls hand weaving elaborate silk carpet rugs. This was the education they were supposed to be getting but the reality was that tiny fingers are required for such delicate work. When they reach puberty they are no longer required.

The little girls were very coquettish and well schooled in charming the tourists. They would invite you to sit beside them, try your hand at weaving and eventually ask you for baksheesh. The eyes and the smiles made it very hard to refuse them. I doubt that they were allowed to keep any of the money for themselves.

I came away feeling very sad and absolutely sure I would never, ever buy a hand made silk carpet. When I want something I am never coquettish. I am very straightforward in my relationships.
 
Warrigal said:
We visited a "carpet school" in Egypt in 2000 and watched little girls hand weaving elaborate silk carpet rugs. This was the education they were supposed to be getting but the reality was that tiny fingers are required for such delicate work. When they reach puberty they are no longer required.

The little girls were very coquettish and well schooled in charming the tourists. They would invite you to sit beside them, try your hand at weaving and eventually ask you for baksheesh. The eyes and the smiles made it very hard to refuse them. I doubt that they were allowed to keep any of the money for themselves.

I came away feeling very sad and absolutely sure I would never, ever buy a hand made silk carpet. When I want something I am never coquettish. I am very straightforward in my relationships.
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You are probably right, but a Swiss ex brother in law of mine told me how he and his mates used to show rich tourists around their town/city, and it wasn't them who were being exploited, (the case may not be comparable I agree, though I've never experienced a middle eastern country, and only known two Egyptian men working in Paris, both of whom I liked very much). :)
 
When we are dancing, often on an empty dance floor when it's a non dance event, for example a wedding reception, my wife always seems to attract the attention of both men and women. We have had many years of dancing and have learned far more than the ten most popular Latin & Ballroom disciplines.

What I notice about my lovely lady is that she uses her feminine charm to engage with those who watch us. Is she being coquettish? Off the dance floor it's as though she is a totally different person. That said, before retirement, she worked in the ambulance service as a paramedic, she loved her work and was always able to charm the most difficult patients just by her engaging smile. She even had a crusty old surgeon in a flutter on one occasion.

Is it flirtatious, hard for me to say, I do know that even after fifty-four years together she can still stop me in my tracks when she looks up at me through her eyelashes. Coquettish or good old feminine guile, you tell me.

Here she is charming all who are watching, (look at their smiles.)
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horseless carriage said:
When we are dancing, often on an empty dance floor when it's a non dance event, for example a wedding reception, my wife always seems to attract the attention of both men and women. We have had many years of dancing and have learned far more than the ten most popular Latin & Ballroom disciplines.

What I notice about my lovely lady is that she uses her feminine charm to engage with those who watch us. Is she being coquettish? Off the dance floor it's as though she is a totally different person. That said, before retirement, she worked in the ambulance service as a paramedic, she loved her work and was always able to charm the most difficult patients just by her engaging smile. She even had a crusty old surgeon in a flutter on one occasion.

Is it flirtatious, hard for me to say, I do know that even after fifty-four years together she can still stop me in my tracks when she looks up at me through her eyelashes. Coquettish or good old feminine guile, you tell me.

Here she is charming all who are watching, (look at their smiles.)
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One hell of a looker your missus, (if you don't mind my saying! :) ).
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As far as thread topic goes I thought I'd try to "think like a woman" for a second, or put myself as much into the mind of a woman and see if I can decide whether I'd wish to be coquettish myself, were I a woman, (no easy task obviously, as women's minds are a mystery to most men, but this is mainly because of how thick we are!).

I'd guess, if you're naturally beautiful, "having all the right curves" etc., you're going to be attracting a lot of men's attention, even before you start flirting or anything else!

Hence the issue might be, getting some attention from the fella you might have your eye on, and avoiding as much as possible all the "dross"!

If said fella is slow on the uptake, but still you're interested because he's still got that "je ne c'est quoi", then all kinds of tactics can quite justifiably be called for I'd say.

(how did I do, thinking like a woman etc.(?), its a bit like when a man/performer/comedian called Don Maclean - no not the American Pie singer - said when asked to get in touch with his feminine side "he hadn't got one", and I may be the same. :) )
 
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I suppose it could be one way to quickly sort out the straights from the gays but cannot think of any other plus for the woman. Playing hard to get to see just how keen he is would be much more useful IMO.

The days when a woman/girl had to build up a man's ego by laughing at his unfunny jokes, giving him come hither looks and admiring his muscles, are a thing of the past. When I was single, over half a century ago, the problem was not attracting male attention; it was more a case of being able to avoid it.
 
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I suppose it could be one way to quickly sort out the straights from the gays but cannot think of any other plus for the woman. Playing hard to get to see just how keen he is would be much more useful IMO.
The days when a woman/girl had to build up a man's ego by laughing at his unfunny jokes, giving him come hither looks and admiring his muscles, are a thing of the past. When I was single, over half a century ago, the problem was not attracting male attention; it was more a case of being able to avoid it.
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My point exactly, you'd have been almost beating them off with sticks back when!!!!!!
However, "hard to get", well yes I do understand, far better than these fearful females who come around staring us blokes up and down "like pieces of meat" would you believe, (seriously that happened to me and others I'd guess?). :(:confused::mad::eek::oops:o_O
 
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