DD wants to mess with tradition

Georgiagranny said:
Thanksgiving Dinner is one of those inviolable things, at least to me. She wants to try a bunch of new recipes this year. What? Serving a new recipe for the first time for Thanksgiving. Nope.

She wants to skip some of the sides that we've always had and that have been looked forward to and usually don't even have leftovers. Nope.

Next thing I know, she'll want to serve duck or capon or something else rather than turkey. Nope.

Maybe I'll just stay in The Hovel and pout.

I should add JFTR, that DD has never liked to cook.
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I'm assuming that DD is your daughter.

I wouldn't say or do anything to offend, perhaps even alienate, my daughter for the sake of a traditional menu.

If cooking is not her thing, why not give her her head about the menu. Why draw attention to her lack of culinary skills?

Perhaps you could offer to bring something traditional to add to the feast?
 
Georgiagranny said:
She wants to try a bunch of new recipes this year. What? Serving a new recipe for the first time for Thanksgiving. Nope.

She wants to skip some of the sides that we've always had and that have been looked forward to and usually don't even have leftovers. Nope.
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My brother & sister-in-law once hosted Thanksgiving during a period they were members of a cooking club and so I can completely empathize with how disappointing it is to get weird changes to the traditional meal.

Don't miss out on your favorites, even if you have to make one every week before the real holiday and enjoy it yourself, and keep a portion of each dish to give yourself a proper meal when you get home from the new-recipe-Thanksgiving-Dinner.

Hopefully there will be at least one new recipe you love. We never had a whipped-cream-cranberry-fruit-salad side when I was little but somehow (possibly via a work potluck) it joined the traditional dishes and became a big favorite.
 

It's not a matter of what I'd bring or criticizing to her her cooking; we live under the same roof. Me in my granny flat, she and DSIL in their house. Thanksgiving Dinner is mostly left up to me. Anyway, it just doesn't matter a whole right now lot except to me. There will probably be complaints from the g'kids at dinner.

Pfft. Let's just drop it. I was and am venting, not asking for advice.
 
Georgiagranny said:
It's not a matter of what I'd bring or criticizing to her her cooking; we live under the same roof. Me in my granny flat, she and DSIL in their house. Thanksgiving Dinner is mostly left up to me. Anyway, it just doesn't matter a whole right now lot except to me. There will probably be complaints from the g'kids at dinner.

Pfft. Let's just drop it. I was and am venting, not asking for advice.
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Good luck and let us now how it went.
 
(roflol is roll on floor laugh out loud)

I'm on Georgiagranny's side! What is Thanksgiving about if not the family getting together for the traditional dinner? Sure it's to express thanks for things and we all go around the table and do that, but it doesn't have other traditions, like religious meaning, gifts, decorations cards, etc. It's really just the meal. If DD wants other things to eat she has 364 other days to try them.
 
For the longest time my in-laws were in charge of Thanksgiving dinner. Later, we took over and replicated their entire menu. We missed my husband's grandmother's great baked goods which were replaced by bakery bought goods!
One year after having visited the local Williams Sonoma store, I decided to make some changes to the menu and bought several things from that store. I was excited about the change. Well, our daughter almost cried because I was not serving the traditional meal. On top of that, by accident, I picked up a sugar free apple pie that truly did not taste good!
That was the first and last time I made changes to the menu!🥰
 
A lot of younger folk don't care for all the traditional holiday fare, not to mention the obligation attached. perhaps some have heard of "Friendsgiving" on social media, but more and more our kids are opting to spend holidays with their friends, much more informal and relaxed, they can talk and use language that they would feel inhibited about ,around mom and dad. Of course, some friend may bring some recreational goodies to share, again taboo around the folks. shrug.gif
 

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