Designated roles of couples

Just keep being good at pretending, Mr. Ed, and you'll be alright. :)

Look at it on the bright side, you still wear pants, just not THE pants. :giggle:

For years I WAS the boss when the kids were little ones, it was me who ran the show, but as the kids vamoosed, my husband took back the reins (more or less).
 
My wife means well, but tends to dominate financial transactions, when to pay bills etc. I haven't cooked anything yet, but I plan to take over meal planning and preparing meals. I have more time cook as she works full time and it would be nice to work together.
 

My husband always took care of the finances and I took care of running the house.
It dawned on me a couple of years ago that I really need to know the financial end of running the house and it hasn't been easy. Sad to say I never even balanced the check book.
I have learned and have taken over bill paying etc. and the hubby is very happy.
the problem is he has no desire to learn my end of it so now I'm stuck with all of it.
Makes me wonder who's the smart one here.
 
Hubby and I are a team and we are each others support. We each contribute what we can. He has always been the one who managed the finances and I stepped back, however we are equal partners with everything held in joint names. He is pretty helpless when it comes to more domestic duties and I have given up trying to educate him. The day is coming when I will be his carer, responsible for his welfare. Little by little we are moving to automatic payments using direct debit or annual payment for bills. IMO, managing finances is not such a big deal. The money comes in and the money goes out. It takes up much less time than doing the laundry.
 
Dancing_Queen said:
Why should anyone be the boss? It seriously makes no sense to me.
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You are right. My wife and I share different roles. My wife would not claim to be protector her domain, whereas a man might think this way. Previously I stated my wife thinks she is the boss was an oxymoron statement to the age old way of thinking when males were dominant over females who were considered less capable particularly in a patriarchal society.

Strangely though these powerful so called men were subduedly controlled by the woman who wore the pants.

I see a change developing as I learn to cook and prepare meals. I'm excited.
 
I think that in a relationship, one's judgement is more reliable than the other's. It's not a boss/employee thing. It's one of them represents the couple's interests better than the other, in some things. As long a the parties are happy with the roles they play, it doesn't matter. And you don't need a ***** to hammer down a nail , nor lose one to watch the kids.
 
jujube said:
An old joke:

A man is being razzed by his buddies about not staying for another beer. "Whatza matter? The old lady won't let you stay out late? What are you, a man or a mouse?"

"Oh, I'm a man, all right. She's afraid of mice."
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I must be young; the joke is too old for me. LOL It's a great one!
 
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