Did you ever have any experience with bullying?

Casper said:
Thankfully, no Gael......
I attended a Catholic girls Convent for my education and I can honestly say it never happened to me
and I never witnessed it at all.:peace:
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You were very blessed indeed. Bullying occurs in schools especially.
I had an incident as a young child which was addressed immediately by my mother and it never occured again.

As an adult I didn't experience it probably because I am so assertive but I suspect, just lucky too.
And I most certainly have witnessed it and still do, especially online which has become rife with it.
 
Yes i was bullied by a few kids in state school and back then no-one took any notice of bullying,and there was a girl up the street who bullied me so much i was terrified of walking up there so went the long way round.
 
I was bullied throughout my primary school (4-11)years as I came from a more well off family than most of my peers. My father's advice was to hit them harder than they hit me, which I didn't take!
 
Jillaroo said:
Yes i was bullied by a few kids in state school and back then no-one took any notice of bullying,and there was a girl up the street who bullied me so much i was terrified of walking up there so went the long way round.
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Hopefully they've made inroads in recognizing and addressing this in more recent years. But a whole new chapter opened up with the advent of the internet.

Sorry to hear that you encountered this Jilly, and unfortunately, your story would be all too common during that era.
 
Justme said:
I was bullied throughout my primary school (4-11)years as I came from a more well off family than most of my peers. My father's advice was to hit them harder than they hit me, which I didn't take!
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How did you deal with it and what effect do you think it might have had on you then and later?
 
Gael said:
How did you deal with it and what effect do you think it might have had on you then and later?
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I don't know it had much effect on me, apart from not liking school. At 11 I was sent to a fee paying all girls school, where I wasn't bullied.
 
Justme said:
I don't know it had much effect on me, apart from not liking school. At 11 I was sent to a fee paying all girls school, where I wasn't bullied.
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That's an effect alright, to make you dislike school Glad you were able to escape it though.
Today they have so called anti-bullying campaigns and school policies but I notice at least in the UK, they don't seem to enforce them strenously enough.
 
Gael said:
That's an effect alright, to make you dislike school Glad you were able to escape it though.
Today they have so called anti-bullying campaigns and school policies but I notice at least in the UK, they don't seem to enforce them strenously enough.
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I would have probably disliked school even if I hadn't been bullied. I didn't enjoy my secondary school either, even though bullying wasn't part of the equation. I get bored very easily, and lessons never fired my imagination, even though I got school prizes each year at both primary and secondary school.
 
The worst bully at my primary school was the head teacher. He had been a young teacher when my grandfather had been a pupil at the school. He was wounded in WW1, but returned after that war and eventually became head teacher, and was the head when my father was a pupil there. He used to beat the kids who came from poverty stricken homes black and blue with a stick, not a cane, for the sheer hell of it! He even beat one kid unconscious and got away with it!
 
In the UK nowadays teachers have to be extremely careful with any physical contact they have with pupils, in case it is misconstrued.
 
Moving around, changing schools constantly one might think that being the new kid would bring on the abusive mongoloids. But, perhaps I was too "charming" or just kept one step ahead of 'em . . . In high school, there was friction between the guys into cars and the surfers. It got so bad that my mom was going to keep me home from school. At the time, I was taking Auto Shop (duh) and was the only wave riding fool in the class. One day, the biggest, meanest guy with the fastest, baddest car around strolled up to me and I figured I was dead meat but would go down swingin'. Anyway, he walked up and said, "Hey! You're alright for a surfer." Whew......
 
When I was in grade school there was some picking on that I guess was bullying it would bother me but I got over it fairly quickly. However in the eighth grade we had just moved to southern California. I had made friends with several girls who lived on my street. they asked me to go on a shopping trip into LA with them. I went but they were not shopping but shoplifting. I refused to shoplift and they became very angry with me. For the rest of the school year they made my life a living hell with constant bullying. Maybe they were afraid I would tell on them I don't know but I never did. My mother kept trying to get me to socialize with them and couldn't understand why I wouldn't. I didn't tell her what happened until years later. I withdrew and concentrated on my school work, so the bullying did effect me.

Just a thought. Maybe instead of the entire focus being on stopping the bullying it would help if they also concentrated on helping the children being bullied on how to handle it.
 
We had a bully in grade school who kept us all "intimidated" until a new boy moved into the neighborhood who was big and tough and kept the original bully in check shaking in his boots. The new bully was nice to most of us and was a pretty nice guy.
 
My son was being bullied in elementary. The problem is that sometimes it will spread and very soon all the kids are joining in and ganging up on you. I wrote a letter to the teacher and had a conference but, when that did not stop it, I wrote a letter to all his teachers with a list of names of all the students involved. I was prepared then to keep escalating all the way to the supreme court if I had to. I was a pissed mother (rawr!). I did get an apology from the principal and all of the students were called one by one into the principal's office. My kid was made PeaceMaker (in charge of reporting any kind of bullying going on) and he never was bullied again.
 
Justme said:
The worst bully at my primary school was the head teacher. He had been a young teacher when my grandfather had been a pupil at the school. He was wounded in WW1, but returned after that war and eventually became head teacher, and was the head when my father was a pupil there. He used to beat the kids who came from poverty stricken homes black and blue with a stick, not a cane, for the sheer hell of it! He even beat one kid unconscious and got away with it!
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I've noticed that jobs with authority over the vulnerable often attract sadistic types. For obvious reasons.

My husband was struck in the face with a large "sally rod" (a switch taken from a privet hedge) which left a large welt on his cheek. He was unusally good with sums and the teacher has accused him of cheating.

In those days in the 30's Ireland, the schoomaster, the priests, nuns ruled unquestioningly. Very out of character his little father went after the schoomaster with his hawthorne stick. He didn't catch him but I love that he tried and I keep that stick by our mantle as a reminder of a father's love for his little son.
 
Judi.D said:
When I was in grade school there was some picking on that I guess was bullying it would bother me but I got over it fairly quickly. However in the eighth grade we had just moved to southern California. I had made friends with several girls who lived on my street. they asked me to go on a shopping trip into LA with them. I went but they were not shopping but shoplifting. I refused to shoplift and they became very angry with me. For the rest of the school year they made my life a living hell with constant bullying. Maybe they were afraid I would tell on them I don't know but I never did. My mother kept trying to get me to socialize with them and couldn't understand why I wouldn't. I didn't tell her what happened until years later. I withdrew and concentrated on my school work, so the bullying did effect me.

Just a thought. Maybe instead of the entire focus being on stopping the bullying it would help if they also concentrated on helping the children being bullied on how to handle it.
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There you have it, Judi. How it's handled. They need to educate the parents and the teachers as to how it affects children and what the child should do if this occurs. It used to be these things and worse (incest, etc.) were just not spoken about.

There are numerous programs about but I still see it going on. A lot of ignorance still abounds and of course, very irresponsible parenting.
 
Mirabilis said:
My son was being bullied in elementary. The problem is that sometimes it will spread and very soon all the kids are joining in and ganging up on you. I wrote a letter to the teacher and had a conference but, when that did not stop it, I wrote a letter to all his teachers with a list of names of all the students involved. I was prepared then to keep escalating all the way to the supreme court if I had to. I was a pissed mother (rawr!). I did get an apology from the principal and all of the students were called one by one into the principal's office. My kid was made PeaceMaker (in charge of reporting any kind of bullying going on) and he never was bullied again.
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Hats off to you Mirabilis!:hatlaugh1: You fought and got results. That's what I mean, the schools are not accountable enough even today.
 
Judi.D said:
... Just a thought. Maybe instead of the entire focus being on stopping the bullying it would help if they also concentrated on helping the children being bullied on how to handle it.
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Judi, I'm sorry but that's like laying in a large supply of Band Aids because there's broken glass on your sidewalk.

You don't cover the wounds - you remove the glass.

The problem of course is our liberal atmosphere where it's wrong to stick up for yourself, you're questioned like a criminal when you practice self-defense and Buddha forbid that we actually punish the trouble-makers - that would be infringing on their rights.
 
I was never bullied nor was I ever a bully but in my first year of teaching I had a Deputy Principal who was a bully. He was sadistic towards the children and would walk past a young teacher's classroom, and if there was any noise coming from it he would select a couple of kids for the cane as a means of intimidating the teacher. He took bullying to new heights. I loathed him.

I also remember a teacher in primary school, not mine fortunately, who would start the day by giving everyone in his class one cut of the cane just to sharpen them up. I loathed him too. I loved my teacher who was fair and just.

Both men were sociopaths IMO.
 
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