Did you marry out of your childhood home?

My first husband was an ass. I used birth control..made him wear condoms & I now believe pepper spray should have been used as well

I didn't use any. Don't really know why not. I could have easily been on the pill.
 

That's right! You young sprouts had the pill! Guys never had so good after that, and still do, even better from what I have heard...
 

The pill didn't agree with everyone, certainly not me.

I got on it after my first was born. My dad didn't like my sister and I being on the pill because he worked in a speech clinic and saw many young women who had strokes that were blamed on the pill.

I used it until I was 35 and was no longer allowed to get it because I was still a smoker.
 
I couldn't take the pill. It gave me horrific morning sickness.

I couldn`t take it either-made me horribly sick. So I quit taking it,immediately got pregnant and......was horribly sick. Go figure.....

Married at 17, 3 months into my Senior year of high school, so yes, straight from my childhood home. Had been begging my mom for months, ever since Mr. Robinson left for boot camp. I finally just wore her down, I think. She made me promise that I would finish high school (I did),although, due to the above mentioned problem with the pill,I was 5 months pregnant at graduation.
 
No longer being controlled by our biology has changed women's lives forever. Yes! Men often reminisce about how wonderful it would be to go back and live in the past, women rarely do. For us, life sucked in many ways.
 
Yes, biology was destiny for eons, but some aspects still are, most violence in society is at the hands of men, the testosterone thing...
 
True Ralphy, although there are studies that still argue nurture over nature re testosterone. For example, my son is very intense, emotional, masculine, but would never hit a pet, woman, child. What few fights he had growing up, were started by

others. He used sufficient force to stop the aggression, but refused to pound the crap out of anyone. He plays airsoft to get out any excess testosterone he may have. He says, where possible, his weapon of choice is his mind. He learned other ways of

communicating, channeling his anger. Often, if one does not see violence in the home as a child, one does not turn to it as an adult.
 
Your son was an exception. The numbers of men either legally as soldiers, policemen, athletes, etc. or as criminal types acting violently is overwhelming regardless of nurturing...
 
I dunno, Ralphy. I deal with a lot of military, many of them suffering from severe PTSD. Much of their anguish has to do with the emotional scars of war, rather than their physical injuries--providing they are not suffering from severe brain injuries which

alter behaviour. Behind the macho warrior ethic, are often sensitive, wounded souls, horrified by, and struggling to deal with scenes of incredible carnage. To simplistically label them as violent, does them and us a huge disservice.
 
Not to berate them, but they joined and wanted to see some action. They got more than they bargained for...
 
Not really, I used an Esquire article in an adult life program to point out how some men love war. It seems that it is a high that no other experience can match...
 


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