bobcat
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All very good points (Well, except for the watch comment, since you don't wind a battery powered watch), but I get the point you were making nonetheless. And for the record, I would never try to separate a woman from her chocolate, although I may ask her to share it, especially if eating too much was going to reduce her libido. A bit self-serving on my part, I'll admit, but who knows, she may thank me later.I read about that study. Here's the article. Chocolate’s Effects on Women's Interest in Sex
I think the part quoted below is particularly important for a man to read if he's even thinking about trying to separate his woman from chocolate. Just a note of caution.
"The first thing to realize (otherwise, nothing that follows will make sense) is that chocolate is like a drug. Chocolate is an ancient food, whose name is derived from the Nahuatl word cacahuatl. The Mayo-Chinchipe people cultivated cacao 5,300 years ago in Central America. For some religions, cocoa was considered to be of divine origin and gifted by the gods.
In 1648, according to the diary of English Jesuit Thomas Gage, the women of Chiapas Real arranged for the murder of a certain bishop who forbade them to drink chocolate during mass. In an ironic twist, the pontiff was ultimately found murdered after someone had added poison to his daily cup of chocolate. Second point: Women love chocolate."
Someone's fundamental beliefs directly affect how they deal with others and function in the world. That doesn't mean that they're not open-minded, are unwilling to understand, or can't or won't compromise with someone else whose beliefs differ from their own.
Having differing beliefs doesn't mean you can't respect someone regardless of their beliefs or even get along. It depends on just how different those beliefs are. It becomes much more problematic if you're in conflict with each other over a particular matter. If you're rowing in completely different directions, you won't get anywhere. Try as you might, sometimes you just have to abandon ship and paddle your own boat. I agree that long, revealing conversations certainly help, but whether it's a Rolex, a Timex, or a cuckoo clock, it doesn't matter how much you wind it if the battery is dead.
Gee, are we having a deep discussion?![]()
As for beliefs, I think mine have always been in a state of flux (Well, maybe not always). There was a time in my life that I thought I had things figured out, but thankfully in time I realized that I was wrong about a great many things. So as I forge ahead, I am a bit more humble in claiming I know anything. I do have beliefs, but I would never adduce that they are correct. The reality we perceive and interpret is often shaped by what we wish it to be.
With respect to paddling boats, I think sometimes it can save a lot of effort if the current is taking you in the direction you desire to go, and if so, you can just relax, sit back, and enjoy the ride. Sometimes when you're busy rowing, it's hard to see where you're going. I think that's why they invented sailboats, but it's just an assumption on my part.
...... and yes, Lady Bella, we are having a deep discussion. Will it reveal anything of importance? Perhaps, but that would have to be a subjective conclusion only you could make.