Do "Nice" people get more medical problems than "mean" people?

Mobilman44

Mobilman44

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This question has been bugging me for some time.

In my experience, "mean" folks tend to get significantly less medical problems than "nice" folks. My Wife agrees with me, and we cite several "nice" people we know that are often sick or have ongoing maladies. And then we know folks that are just "not nice" (to put it mildly), and they never seem to be ill.

My thought is "mean" people tend not to care, or hold stress. One individual boldly states "the amount of stress in my life is zero"!

Of course my observation is not universal, and there are many exceptions. But it does seem that, in general, the "nice" folks get more medical problems than the "not nice" folks.

Is there any basis for this, or is it just unique with the folks I've been around?
 

My father was one of the worlds, meanest people... a man full of anger , who beat his wife and children all the time....

My mother was no shrinking violet but she was a decent person... who was cowed by him...

My mother was always ill, there was hardly a time in my life when I didn't know her to be ill ( we all knew then it was caused by stress)... and she died in her 30's...

My father OTOH never had a day's illness in his life.. apart from Asian flu in the 60's.. and he lived until he died of PD in his 80's....

My mother's Mantra was always that ''only the good die young''...
 
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Nathan said:
I would think it would be totally the reverse, negative energy literally eats your brain and body. But then we see mean people that seem to channel their hate, and live on longer than we'd like to see...
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But that's just it. Mean people don't hold negative energy in, they let it go via their meanness. NIce people hold it in --to their peril.
 
hollydolly said:
My father OTOH never had a day's illness in his life.. part from Asian flu in the 60's.. and he lived until he died of PD in his 80's....
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You can rest assured he suffered the whole time he had PD. How many years did he have it. The shaking and tremors are only a tiny part of this disease.
 
Jules said:
You can rest assured he suffered the whole time he had PD. How many years did he have it. The shaking and tremors are only a tiny part of this disease.
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I know what the symptoms are... he didn't have it long...maybe 4 years....., and then died from a series of Mini-strokes brought on due to the PD. IMO he should have suffered for at least 18 years...the same amount of time he made my mothers' life a misery...

One of my neighbours who is only in his 40's has it too... he always seeks me out for a chat when he's passing my house... he's such a lovely guy, but very disabled with the Parkinsons... but he doesn't let it get to him
 
hollydolly said:
I know what the symptoms are... he didn't have it long...maybe 4 years....., and then died from a series of Mini-strokes brought on due to the PD. IMO he should have suffered for at least 18 years...the same amount of time he made my mothers' life a misery...

One of my neighbours who is only in his 40's has it too... he always seeks me out for a chat when he's passing my house... he's such a lovely guy, but very disabled with the Parkinsons... but he doesn't let it get to him
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Your feelings are understandable. He made a lot of people suffer!
 
I don't think of myself as mean but I do stand up for myself and set limits with others and this helps me control my life and feel less stress. I don't know if nice people get sicker than mean ones. They can end up taking a lot more abuse than assertive people though and that could cause illness. Interesting questions.
 
Nathan said:
I see what you're saying. I don't know if mean people actually live longer, it just seems like it. :p
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well I think mean people do... My ex mother-in-law.. she wouldn't harm a soul...intentionally... her husband otoh, was and still is a Bombastic man who altho' not cruel to her physically, was mentally cruel to her in many ways.

He was her second husband, and when they married they were in early 50's.. he had already retired, and had a HUGE pension pot and she still worked full time as a cook.. after raising her 2 kids alone when she was widowed at the tragic age of 29... and working all through their childhoods too

He let her work full time, even tho; her health wasn't the greatest, nothing terminal but High blood pressure etc.. . .. and aside from washing up a dish or 2 did nothing at home to help out , so her weekends in her late 50's and early 60's were spent cleaning the house after a whole week of working from 8am until 5pm.. and her house was immaculate...



She was so looking forward to retiring at 65, and being able to go on holidays to her favourite places... ... but within weeks of retiring, she was diagnosed with cancer and died within a short few months.. when my DD was age 16.. she lost her grandmother who was just 65...

Step- granddad however is still alive now at 103 years old... not a thing wrong with him medically except he's losing his hearing and eyesight... but still as fit as a fiddle otherwise.
 

Do "Nice" people get more medical problems than "mean" people?​


Oh yeh, of course they do, well, in those distant mists of time, someone (can't remember who) once told me that I was nice, or was it naughty, or perhaps it was both, it's the memory thing, if you know what I 'mean'. šŸ˜Š
 
I think ā€œ niceā€ people hold their stress and emotions in more. Donā€™t like to complain or be confrontational Holding in stress leads to a bunch of illnesses. Trouble sleeping Increased blood pressure, over eating etc etc. the ā€œ mean ā€œ people donā€™t seem to have any cares. No worries. They just take.
 
I didn't write this. It makes sense to me that mean people are selfish and kind people are selfless.

"Nature inherently favors the morally bankrupt and selfish.

Selfishness is the ultimate tool for survival, from an evolutionary perspective. Evolution awards selfishness with increased life span and propagation of oneā€™s genes. Selflessness is rewarded with an early death and the ending of your genes.

Back in cave men times, only the selfish survived. Those who were selfless didnā€™t survive long enough to reproduce. Thatā€™s why ancient times are always filled with violent kings and dictators. Ruthlessness and selfishness is what nature favors. If you were kind and compassionate, the selfish would come and take advantage of you and theyā€™d subjugate you knowing that you donā€™t have the desire to hurt. They take your kindness and turn it against you. Kings and dictators knew this so they ruled with iron fists and those who didnā€™t were toppled by their power hungry siblings or cousins, perpetuating the cycle of selfishness.

Even in the wild, animals who are ruthless and selfish will survive and those who are selfless will die early. Only the selfish and ruthless animals can hope to survive in an environment as harsh as the wild.

Although as time goes on, humans have developed technology and evolved their morals. These days, good people have the same chance of living as bad people. But selfish people definitely find it easier to get into better social positions such as CEOs and politicians or other cut throat industries because they can burn more people along the way and not feel bad.

The world we live in is an inherently predatory place. Survival is winning and thatā€™s why the greedy and selfish find it easier to get to the top."
 
I don't consider myself to be nice. My mother was mentally ill. She scream raged like you wouldn't believe. Abused. Threatened. There was always something wrong with her. She'd scream "I'm not well" at me as a child. Well yeah, I've now figured that out but exactly what the f. was wrong with you? "I'll be dead by morning." She told me, I was a child. She lived to almost 90. Beaten down stepfather is 94. I don't expect to live as long as either of them.

She also lied about having a heart attack for attention. She never had one. Old age and kidney failure got her.

I wish I'd never heard of ACE scores and what childhood abuse does to the body and mind.
 
I think people who are "mean" hate themselves. It is kind of like a mental illness. No one can be happy that way.
 
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