Ronni
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- Nashville TN
@officerripley said something about opposites don’t always attract (mea culpa if I didn’t get that quite right) and it made me think of Ron and me.
In some ways we are complete opposites! He is an avowed risk taker while I am completely risk averse. He thinks in simple terms while I am a complex thinker. I overthink and overplan while he is impulsive and shoots from the hip, to mention several traits in which we are polar opposites.
While these contrasting approaches keep life interesting, they can also often be annoying to the both of us!
He’ll decide randomly as he jumps out of bed on a weekend that we should just throw some stuff into the truck, hook up the Razor (4 wheeler) and take off for some trails a couple hours away.
This adventure is something I will plan all week for, making sure we have snacks and drinks on hand, monitoring the weather, checking to see if there’s grill facilities/showers/bathrooms/mini store, planning the route, making sure the first aid kit is stocked, printing out a map of the trails….you get the idea.
I will plan for all contingencies, ensure redundancy of supplies, whereas his approach is to figure it out as we need it!
But living together has taught me to be more impulsive and spur of the moment, and has taught him the value in some degree of planning and forward thinking our adventures.
The thing we are NOT opposites about are, I think, also what makes us work. We both like and maintain a tidy, clean, clutter free home. He will vacuum, run laundry, dust, as he sees it needs to be done. He makes the bed, cleans up the dishes and runs the dishwasher and puts away the clean stuff.
He stays on top of his paperwork and filing. He routinely does closet purges. He strips and remakes the bed once a week. If he makes a mess working on a project it drives him nuts till it’s cleaned up.
Understand that I do all these things too. The point is that we are both fastidious and particular and don’t wait for the other to get to something that needs to be done, or even worse, not even notice it!
My ex was a packrat and a slob and it was a constant source of irritation and annoyance to me, so I especially appreciate that Ron isn’t that way. His ex had sloppy habits and was a relaxed housekeeper at best, and that was a constant source of irritation to him, so he values my attention to maintaining a clean and tidy home.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that both our differences and our similarities compliment each other, and that opposites CAN attract, depending on what they are, and gauged against the things we have in common.
What do you think?
In some ways we are complete opposites! He is an avowed risk taker while I am completely risk averse. He thinks in simple terms while I am a complex thinker. I overthink and overplan while he is impulsive and shoots from the hip, to mention several traits in which we are polar opposites.
While these contrasting approaches keep life interesting, they can also often be annoying to the both of us!
He’ll decide randomly as he jumps out of bed on a weekend that we should just throw some stuff into the truck, hook up the Razor (4 wheeler) and take off for some trails a couple hours away. This adventure is something I will plan all week for, making sure we have snacks and drinks on hand, monitoring the weather, checking to see if there’s grill facilities/showers/bathrooms/mini store, planning the route, making sure the first aid kit is stocked, printing out a map of the trails….you get the idea.
I will plan for all contingencies, ensure redundancy of supplies, whereas his approach is to figure it out as we need it!
But living together has taught me to be more impulsive and spur of the moment, and has taught him the value in some degree of planning and forward thinking our adventures.
The thing we are NOT opposites about are, I think, also what makes us work. We both like and maintain a tidy, clean, clutter free home. He will vacuum, run laundry, dust, as he sees it needs to be done. He makes the bed, cleans up the dishes and runs the dishwasher and puts away the clean stuff.
He stays on top of his paperwork and filing. He routinely does closet purges. He strips and remakes the bed once a week. If he makes a mess working on a project it drives him nuts till it’s cleaned up.
Understand that I do all these things too. The point is that we are both fastidious and particular and don’t wait for the other to get to something that needs to be done, or even worse, not even notice it!
My ex was a packrat and a slob and it was a constant source of irritation and annoyance to me, so I especially appreciate that Ron isn’t that way. His ex had sloppy habits and was a relaxed housekeeper at best, and that was a constant source of irritation to him, so he values my attention to maintaining a clean and tidy home.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that both our differences and our similarities compliment each other, and that opposites CAN attract, depending on what they are, and gauged against the things we have in common.
What do you think?
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