Do you accept or resist old age?

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Rose65

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I accept.
There is a real liberation in doing so, accepting that time has taken it's toll on the body and things are deteriorating physically.

I believe there is a season for all things, for each phase of life. For me I want a quiet life now and to do the things I need for myself. It's not a giving up but acceptance and being realistic. Embracing the next natural path.

I see those who resist old age and time. Some are blessed with exceptional good health and genes. Yet there can be a ridiculous aspect to carrying on behaving as if young. Today's world does focus upon and celebrate youth to an excess - why? Old age has great value to impart, experience to be shared and listened to.

Surely there comes a time for wisdom and preparation for one's eternity. To reflect on what is next in our existence?
 

Old? What's that all about? It would seem that I picked the right parents to give me the genetic structure that keeps me going. There's many a baby-boomer that today have the aches and pains that tend to go with age, then there are those who have had an old age bypass.
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Rose65 said:
I accept.
There is a real liberation in doing so, accepting that time has taken it's toll on the body and things are deteriorating physically.

I believe there is a season for all things, for each phase of life. For me I want a quiet life now and to do the things I need for myself. It's not a giving up but acceptance and being realistic. Embracing the next natural path.

I see those who resist old age and time. Some are blessed with exceptional good health and genes. Yet there can be a ridiculous aspect to carrying on behaving as if young. Today's world does focus upon and celebrate youth to an excess - why? Old age has great value to impart, experience to be shared and listened to.

Surely there comes a time for wisdom and preparation for one's eternity. To reflect on what is next in our existence?
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Good for you @Rose65 we should all do what makes us happy.

Having said that, it is disappointing that you then go on to be negative about those who you perceive to be resisting what you have accepted. I have noticed this before, not by you particularly but by other posters who, when talking about their own approach to life, give shade to others (usually women) who have chosen a different path.

I am not sure why "behaving young" should be ridiculous or why it would preclude anyone from having wisdom.

Personally, I neither accept nor resist, I do as I choose and like to see others enjoy the same freedom of choice without judgment. Actually, if I am honest, I love seeing older people enjoying life and not giving a damn how many birthdays have passed. :)
 
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Rose65 said:
Yet there can be a ridiculous aspect to carrying on behaving as if young. Today's world does focus upon and celebrate youth to an excess - why? Old age has great value to impart, experience to be shared and listened to.
Surely there comes a time for wisdom and preparation for one's eternity. To reflect on what is next in our existence?
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I resist. Know why? Because a very wise soul once told me that as soon as a person gives up and "sits in that rocking chair," they never get up again. I don't ever want to be at a place where I say "oh well, I'm old, where's my rocker?" I'm going to be one of those you're scolding about trying to act young. Because that's what KEEPS me young.
 
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I'm twenty. I dress young, no polyester prints. My mind is young because it's open to possibilities. My head is still in that rock concert hall, that dark, smokey place rumbling with loud music.

Yet, I have accepted, Finally, that I am an old person with a young outlook on life. I have some people to live for and watch grow. Maybe I can help them?

I'm just me.
 
To me my age is just a number. I don't think I act any different due to my age but more due to my mobility issues. If I could walk with no problems I would be walking and going places every day. I try my best to not judge others. So if they are dressing in mini skirts and bell bottoms at 80, then good for them!
 
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hawkdon said:
Well I'm here, so I guess I've accepted it...the whole downer
for me is my lack of mobility, but oh well.........
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Everyone with chronic suffering, that includes many SF members, have to do both. If we are honest we sometimes resist this getting old and "dis-functional", but sometimes we can accept it, and find many things that we enjoy. So I like to mix the two up a bit. We accept our resistance, and we also resist our acceptance. I am a member of a couple groups that talks about chronic pain. No one wants to feel poorly, and all the people I have met, both young and old, want the best life than can have under their circumstances. That is universal, and most likely true throughout all of history.
 
I think it is less about age and more about physical ability and also personality.

Even when I was young, I was the type who would rather stay home and read than go to a party. That is not changing because I am older.

Many of the people who are physical active view it as a choice. And it is a choice for many people. But for many people being less physically active is not a choice. They are just doing the best the can with health issues they can't fully control.

Aging gracefully can be used in a negative way. It can suggest that you have to give up things you like because you are getting older.

But it can also mean that you still find joy in life even when health forces you to give up some things you enjoy. You can find new things to enjoy or new ways to enjoy old interests.

There are people who spend much of there later years complaining about what they can't do. And this is what I think of when I think about not aging gracefully.
 
horseless carriage said:
Old? What's that all about? It would seem that I picked the right parents to give me the genetic structure that keeps me going. There's many a baby-boomer that today have the aches and pains that tend to go with age, then there are those who have had an old age bypass.
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you do know don't you, that Mick has had heart Surgery ?
 
Trish said:
Good for you @Rose65 we should all do what makes us happy.

Having said that, it is disappointing that you then go on to be negative about those who you perceive to be resisting what you have accepted. I have noticed this before, not by you particularly but by other posters who, when talking about their own approach to life, give shade to others (usually women) who have chosen a different path.

I am not sure why "behaving young" should be ridiculous or why it would preclude anyone from having wisdom.

Personally, I neither accept nor resist, I do as I choose and like to see others enjoy the same freedom of choice without judgment. Actually, if I am honest, I love seeing older people enjoying life and not giving a damn how many birthdays have passed. :)
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I apologise for negativity in my post. I often just say how I feel without perhaps thinking it through better!
 
Rose65 said:
I apologise for negativity in my post. I often just say how I feel without perhaps thinking it through better!
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Oh @Rose65 I didn't mean to make you feel that way and I hope you won't let it change how you post. It was just an observation and not meant as a criticism. We all have our opinions and sometimes they differ, doesn't mean either of us are right or wrong, we just have different views. I like posters who have opposing views, it would be boring if we all agreed :)

I look forward to exchanging views with you for a long time to come x
 
CallMeKate said:
I resist. Know why? Because a very wise soul once told me that as soon as a person gives up and "sits in that rocking chair," they never get up again. I don't ever want to be at a place where I say "oh well, I'm old, where's my rocker?" I'm going to be one of those you're scolding about trying to act young. Because that's what KEEPS me young.
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There you have it. Same here.
 
jujube said:
Are you talking about my 12-year-old Inner Child or my 76-year-old Outer Hag?

One wants the rocking chair and the other wants the roller coaster.

One is impatient with the other's limitations and one wants to beat the other one senseless with her cane.

It's a constant battle....
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I feel like I have an inner child, but my inner child is also an introverted homebody.

My old lady side wants to curl up on the couch with a good book.

My inner child wants to curl up on the couch with a good children's book or comic book. Not too much different than my actual childhood.

What I don't seem to have is an inner teen or inner 20 something. When people talk about feeling young, it seems to be more focused on teen years and early adult years.
 
Rose65 said:
I accept.
There is a real liberation in doing so, accepting that time has taken it's toll on the body and things are deteriorating physically.

I believe there is a season for all things, for each phase of life. For me I want a quiet life now and to do the things I need for myself. It's not a giving up but acceptance and being realistic. Embracing the next natural path.

I see those who resist old age and time. Some are blessed with exceptional good health and genes. Yet there can be a ridiculous aspect to carrying on behaving as if young. Today's world does focus upon and celebrate youth to an excess - why? Old age has great value to impart, experience to be shared and listened to.

Surely there comes a time for wisdom and preparation for one's eternity. To reflect on what is next in our existence?
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I don't see any real alternative. Of course I accept conditions on the ground and take precautions accordingly. Everything winds down and comes to an end eventually. Best to enjoy the whole trip.
 
I do not know exactly what this means. I never resist doing something simply because i am older. I would roller skate, ride a horse, play tennis or hike. If it hurts i do not do it. For instance i might not try to jump that far..and bungee jumping is a nonstarter. On the other hand…might hike across the grand canyon again soon…still can so better do it.
 

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