Do you believe in soul mates?
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Warrigal
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Or less irritating than others.
QuickSilver
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NO... That's just a crazy romantic notion. There are too many factors that are pure chance. I believe that within any given radius, you could find several people that you could love and live with and be perfectly happy.
My husband and I have been married for 45 years and known each other for nearly 50 years. However we are very different, having nothing in common apart from our children. It seems to work for us. I would hate to be so closely entwined with anyone that we lived for each other.
pchrise
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You could be of like mind I guess
QuickSilver
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I was widowed 13 years ago and have remarried... both men were/are good men and perfectly fine for me, yet they are/were totally different from one another.. So the notion that there is a single one and only person we were meant to be with is silly IMO.
They say opposites attract and in my wife's and my case that couldn't be truer. We both have different things we enjoy doing, eating and so on, but there are also like things and food we enjoy. I don't know how many times we have gotten dressed to go somewhere only to find out we look like twins because we were wearing the same colors.
oakapple
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I agree with this entirely.
Mrs. Robinson
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I don`t think I have ever referred to my hubby as my soulmate but a lot of other people have referred to us as that. I could never imagine being with anyone else and he says that he can`t either. Maybe it`s because we`ve been together since we were so young. In November,we will have been together for 49 years,married for 47 in Dec. We always say that because we also worked together for 34 years,it`s really like we`ve been married for 80 years lol. We are not an example of "opposites attract"-we are very much alike. We had very similar upbringings. I can`t even imagine being with anyone else-in fact,to use a phrase my daughter used to use about a couple of guys she dated,the thought of being with another man gives me the heebie jeebies lol.
That's brilliant Mrs R...I did meet a really strange man in a bar once..I was with my partner..as soon as we opened the door..I looked at him, he looked at me as if we were expecting each other..so we went to sit next to him..we were talking away and he said ''I feel as if I've known you forever''..He was like my brother..I knew what he was going to say before he said it..so strange..I felt like I'd known him forever too!!
Not really..I was just relating a personal experience...
Happyflowerlady
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I don't know if soulmate is the right term for it, but I have had people in my life that there was a special connection with beyond just the normal friendship. How it would work to have actually been married to one of those people, I don't know; I think it was more of just a mental bond.
In fact, one of those times that I have had a special bond, was with a lady that I worked with when I was an insurance agent. We had a route that we worked, and since we were the only girls on the team; we usually roomed together.
Many days, we came back with almost identical sales, and ended the week close to the same total, too.
Another interesting thing was that sometimes, when we needed to talk to each other about someone's insurance policy; we would both often show up at the motel at the same time, or even just drive around a corner and see the other person coming down the street in their vehicle.
As far as finding the perfect soulmate to spend their life with; I think there is more than one person that we can be compatable with, but if there is also that extra "something", then I think that we are closer to finding our one true love, as the saying goes.
In fact, one of those times that I have had a special bond, was with a lady that I worked with when I was an insurance agent. We had a route that we worked, and since we were the only girls on the team; we usually roomed together.
Many days, we came back with almost identical sales, and ended the week close to the same total, too.
Another interesting thing was that sometimes, when we needed to talk to each other about someone's insurance policy; we would both often show up at the motel at the same time, or even just drive around a corner and see the other person coming down the street in their vehicle.
As far as finding the perfect soulmate to spend their life with; I think there is more than one person that we can be compatable with, but if there is also that extra "something", then I think that we are closer to finding our one true love, as the saying goes.
I feel the term soul mate is very overused ... I was married to my husband for 49 years and I really can't say we were. I didn't feel that.
However, I have a SIL who claims she has found her soul mate twice!! in her several marriages. ..
.?? .. so to each his/her own.
However, I have a SIL who claims she has found her soul mate twice!! in her several marriages. ..
.?? .. so to each his/her own.QuickSilver
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Too much is left to chance. What if your parents moved to a different part of the country and you with them.. What if you were late in catching your bus? What if you stopped in one shop instead of another? What if you didn't go to that party because you had the flu? Too many things can influence who we meet.. UNLESS of course you believe our each and every move is predetermined by something or someone... then I guess you can justify saying soul mate
ClassicRockr
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Get ready, Ralphy1.......my wife and I ARE "soulmates" and darn proud of it!! It took us each two marriages to finally find each other, but after we did, dear old Cupid was giving us an applause. We don't have exactly the same interests, but so close it could be scary to some married couples. The only time we are apart is during the week (8AM to 5:30PM) when she is driving to work, at work, and driving back home.
Mrs. Robinson
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See,that`s just it,Twixie. People didn`t understand how we could be together every single day,all day,working together and not just want to strangle one another. But for us,it was great. There is no one else that either of us would rather spend time with. Now his brother was a different story-working with him every day for 34 years made me want to tear my hair out. Obviously we were NOT soulmates lol. Seriously though,I never,ever get sick of spending time with my husband-and he doesn`t get tired of spending time with me. I don`t know what it is,maybe it IS a matter of being soulmates.
ClassicRockr
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I am glad you are so happy...
Mrs. Robinson
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I AM happy-but it`s not just that. Plenty of people are happy,whether they are with their "soulmate" or not. I don`t feel that you have to have that in order to be happy. I understand that for many people,claustrophobic would be exactly what a relationship like ours would be. My sister and her husband have been married as long as we have,are very,very happy,could probably be described as soulmates,yet they spend very little time together. A little more,now that they are both retired,but for the 40 years that she worked,she showed dogs every single weekend,so was gone every weekend. We often wondered how my BIL felt about that but it worked out OK for him,I guess. After my sister retired,she also decided to retire from dog showing, but that only lasted a month or so-she is now showing more than ever and even leaving the Country a lot to show. Actually,she and her hubby went to France recently to attend a wedding and I was shocked. I don`t believe my BIL has left the city,nevermind the Country,in all the years they`ve been married! And they have never,ever taken a vacation together. So you never know.
That's interesting..what sort of dogs does she show??