Ruth n Jersey
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- Location
- Northern New Jersey
I have 2 wonderful,married children who lead good lives. I am close to both of them. My problem is their relationship to each other. Never speak during the year, and at holiday time they just tolerate each other. They have different personalities, one is very laid back and quiet. The other, more out spoken and opinionated. Unfortunately,while they were growing up, the strong willed one knew just how to push my buttons, and me not having any patience, would ask the other one to do what needed to be done and pull up the slack.. In other words, the squeaky wheel got the grease. I think this caused animosity between them well into their adulthood. I treated them equally in every other way.They knew I loved them both. This was my fault, and I have even told them so, and to blame me and not each other.I think it is so deep rooted they can't get passed it. They constantly pick at each other even over the smallest thing. I wish I had been more strict . Always giving in made the situation worse and spoiled the one even more so. The strong willed one has given me 2 Grand kids and is a better parent than I ever was. I so wish I could do it over and make them understand how precious having a sibling is. I always feel so torn. I can't make them love each other but at least respect each other.