Do you feel 100% safe in all parts of your community?

Relatively safe, wouldn't leave the doors unlocked, and don't go for extended walks after dark anymore.

Used to go out at night often, my friend had a gun pulled on her after dark, walking through the park a couple blocks away. I had my bike stolen from the middle of the yard. Saw a couple strangers climbing a tree to retrieve a drone, explains how they know what we all have in our backyards.
 

Born and raised in Oakland California. Today? Wouldn’t set foot, particularly in the lower flat lands. Parts of San Francisco are not much better, but across the Golden Gate, most of Southern Marin county is A1. An excellent web site that rates crime, and other factors coast to coast is Areavibes.com.
 
Don M. said:
Our rural location has virtually no crime. The local weekly police reports generally consist of traffic tickets/accidents, and little else.
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pretty much the same here. However in the last 2 years a farmer sold his acreage and it's had 400 houses built on it..just shocking that they could be built so quickly, and sold even quicker.. .. and for the first time in living memory , I have heard emergency service sirens.. mainly police... on more than a few occasions..
 
I feel virtually 100% safe within the retirement community, tho I wouldn't go out walking the golf course paths at night without a flashlight because I don't feel safe from tripping and falling. I'd rather be in daylight/twilight so I'd be found.

In Nebraska I didn't feel totally safe even in my own pasture because there are so many crazy hunters who shoot at anything that moves, plus some risk of loose dangerous dogs, and to really spice it up sometimes the newspaper would report an unconfirmed mountain lion sighting.

In Colorado I didn't feel totally safe due to risk of bears and mountain lions.

I guess its always something.
 
... wish I could say the same ...

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VintageBetter said:
My answer: no.
I feel like certain government buildings are openly hostile to domestic violence survivors even though they are taxpayer funded edifices.
In certain neighborhoods I might be okay in daylight hours, but they are certainly not safe after dark.
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I feel relatively safe where my apartment is and when out shopping. I've worked early and very late hours and I'm used to leaving and coming home all hours of the night in the dark.

I remember driving home late one night per usual, and the light on a busy street turned red. I'd driven that road enough to know that the light stays green until a car from either side of the road approaches and then it turns red. It was very strange. I looked around to see if anyone was standing waiting to jump my car after pressing the pedestrian button. But there was no one. It turned green and on I went. No other cars around.

Could you elaborate more about what you mean by the government buildings? I'm sorry to say, sometimes the people who work in those places have jobs they know they will keep and they are not always the nicest.

When I had to have my finger prints done electronically (for some reason they couldn't scan the paper ones I'd had done years ago?) I went to the police station. I was afraid they could be rude. They were actually very nice, from the receptionist to the person who did my prints. Whew!
 
It's probably different for guys. I don't think twice about going for a walk after dark, except to avoid looking like I'm lurking out there or something. The motion detector lights are annoying because it feels like they just make my walking by more ominous to anyone inside, so I normally cross the street to avoid those.

I was in the habit for a long time of going out on the patio at night and starting a small fire in an above-ground metal firepit (sort of like a charcoal grill but lower to the ground with a mesh around it to catch sparks). I might have the radio on and exercise or stand watching videos on a tablet on an amplifier/speaker stand. I usually didn't sit. Being just me here I don't keep a patio table and chairs out there any more. There was one neighbor who'd come over to sit and chat by the fire but he moved away several years ago.

Same for driving. I went to buy groceries close to or after midnight until covid changed everything and stores limited their hours. Most of them have never gone back to 24 hour operation.

But night or day, I feel pretty safe around here anyway. It probably helps some that my community is somewhat isolated by road for historical reasons. While next to another larger community there are only a few roads connecting them.
 
It's heartbreaking to hear that government buildings, which are supposed to serve and protect all citizens, can feel so unwelcoming and even hostile to those who've experienced domestic violence. Survivors often face enough barriers as it is without having to deal with unfriendly or even dangerous environments when they're seeking help or support.
It's particularly concerning that these buildings might not feel safe after dark, especially in certain neighborhoods. Everyone deserves to feel secure and supported, especially in places that are funded by taxpayer dollars.
What do you think could be done to improve the situation and make these buildings more accessible and welcoming to survivors of domestic violence? It might take a combination of increased security measures, training for staff, and even just simple changes like better lighting and signage.
 
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We live on the outskirts of a city of just under 100,000. In the city itself, there's some tough areas but these areas were bad back in the late 40's - 50's. Stuff just didn't make the news like it does now-a-days.

You always had the bars and drunks and the druggies have just added to the problems. Overall, things haven't changed much although in all fairness, my wife and I aren't out and about as when we were younger but we haven't even come close to digging out a gun to answer the door. When it gets that bad, it's time to move.
 
DebraMae said:
I have the same issues several of you have mentioned, rural, isolated area and drugs. Harassment from the people across the road is common.
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Our nation's drug problem still does not get enough national press coverage. The NY Times should have a tracker for drug deaths, just like the one they have for Covid deaths.
 
I'd never think of you as "nuts". You're a person who has suffered traumatic situations in courtrooms. Many, if not all of us have suffered bad or terrifying experiences in specific places and have spent the rest of our days trying to avoid the place or experience.

We (and you) are just trying to avoid situations which have been unpleasant in our earlier days. Chin up !! :)
 
I have had some traumatic experiences when young and as a result I can’t live in a house by myself. Even with a big dog and a security system I don’t feel safe. It’s the reason I bought a condo on the top floor in a secure building. I feel very safe and can sleep with no problems.

Going out I feel safe even at night. I do pay attention to my surroundings.
 
Despite the crime in the city I do feel safe in my neighborhood. That doesn't stop me from being cautious and vigilant when I'm out and about though. There are certain areas of the city that I will not go into, especially at night.
 

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