Do you feel "old"?

Irwin said:
I feel like I don't look forward to much of anything any more. I wake up and have the same routine every day, which makes me feel old. I'm slowly getting back in shape, and my knee isn't hurting as bad or getting stiff after I've been sitting for a while, and that's something positive, but I feel like I'm just hanging around because my wife and our dog need me. I don't want to talk to anyone. I don't want to achieve anything. I'm tired of being here and I don't know what I could do to change that.
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you sound on the brink of depression.. :( you definitely need a hobby or activity that will perk up your interest in life.. anything will do as long as it something you can do that you'll enjoy, and can do on a regular basis...

It could be anything from a solo pursuit like photography, hiking, biking, stamp collecting, keeping model trains , bee-keeping.. to joining a club or group for some kind of activity... . It's hard to get motivated when you feel so down, but one step at a time....find something that peaks your interest .
 

Irwin said:
My wife has health problems that prevent her from doing much of anything these days. Going to an amusement park doesn't appeal to me, anyway. Been there, done that... and I get sick from the rides and usually puke. I know, I know... too much information! :)

But I would like a bit of excitement in my life.
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Another thought is line dancing. You do not need a partner and you do not need to know how to do it to start with. I suggest also snorkling, great fun! and who knows that may lead to you wanting to scuba dive! Thatā€™s enough from me or you may think I am Ms bossy boots :):)

 
fuzzybuddy said:
I'm 75, and disabled. I was getting into my car yesterday. I have a light weight wheelchair that I use. It was raining. A 30-ish guy came over and asked if I needed help. Told him "no", Having people come over, asking to help, is not a rare thing. There are a lot of thoughtful people in this world. But it also means I look like an old geezer. It dawned on me that I am old. And old is not a bad thing.
Forget the 'old as you feel" nonsense, you're as old as your drivers license says you are. GeogieXplant , in a post yesterday said, "it gets tiresome being told what clothes to get rid of, how to style my hair, how to decorate my home...all so that I won't look "old". Guess what? I am old! At 80,". Do you feel your age? Do you feel "OLD"?
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Do not stop people from helping you. Most of the time it is not to do with your age, some people are kind, let them be kind :)
 

Since starting my daily hour walking for the last couple of years, I don't feel as old as I used to. I am annoyed and sad that I can't do some things myself like I used to: open and close windows; cleaning that used elbow grease; running around all day and then cook a meal for many others; many everyday things that I took for granted when I was younger and had more strength and energy. I don't mind anyone offering to help me or calling me dear, etc. If it makes them feel good to help, why not?

I wish someone would tell me how to style my hair or how to decorate my home as I sure don't know how to. My greatest worry is being so ill or incapacitated that I can't take care of myself.
 
IrisSenior said:
Since starting my daily hour walking for the last couple of years, I don't feel as old as I used to. I am annoyed and sad that I can't do some things myself like I used to: open and close windows; cleaning that used elbow grease; running around all day and then cook a meal for many others; many everyday things that I took for granted when I was younger and had more strength and energy. I don't mind anyone offering to help me or calling me dear, etc. If it makes them feel good to help, why not?

I wish someone would tell me how to style my hair or how to decorate my home as I sure don't know how to. My greatest worry is being so ill or incapacitated that I can't take care of myself.
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this is where Youtbe videos come in very handy... just search for how to style hair over X age... or how to easily style Fine hair/thick/curly over 60... or whatever age you want... there's loads out there.

Do the same with how to decorate my home.. ignore any fancy schmancy ones.. put in. How to decorate my small /large livingroom on a budget...or how to decorate in Spring colours.. ..you get the picture I'm sure (y)
 
fuzzybuddy said:
I'm 75, and disabled. I was getting into my car yesterday. I have a light weight wheelchair that I use. It was raining. A 30-ish guy came over and asked if I needed help. Told him "no", Having people come over, asking to help, is not a rare thing. There are a lot of thoughtful people in this world. But it also means I look like an old geezer. It dawned on me that I am old. And old is not a bad thing.
Forget the 'old as you feel" nonsense, you're as old as your drivers license says you are. GeogieXplant , in a post yesterday said, "it gets tiresome being told what clothes to get rid of, how to style my hair, how to decorate my home...all so that I won't look "old". Guess what? I am old! At 80,". Do you feel your age? Do you feel "OLD"?
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My Self doesn't feel much different than at 17 except maybe a little wiser and smarter šŸ˜Š OTOH, my body often feels a whole lot different!

For those who want something different to do, there's ziplining. Really. You're tethered and padded and gloved and given a helmet. And tethered again! Before you get started, there are demonstrations, cautions repeated, a couple of dry runs on a zipline just a few feet above ground...it's fun and it's safe and best of all when you're done you can say you did it!

If you prefer something a little more tame and aren't one of those people who doesn't want to be around "all those old people", if there's a senior center in your area, they're an option. You can probably find a card game or two to join, keep company with others at lunchtime, sign up for an excursion to...wherever they're going next.

Back during the recession of '08 all the state/county-supported senior centers near me closed and most never opened up again, but there are a few here and there and also a good many that are supported by area churches. In addition, they often have transportation available.

One more thing, and it's important! When someone offers help, accept with gracious thanks, even if it's something that you can do yourself. People like to be helpful, and you will have made someone feel good because they did something nice for you.
 
hollydolly said:
this is where Youtbe videos come in very handy... just search for how to style hair over X age... or how to easily style Fine hair/thick/curly over 60... or whatever age you want... there's loads out there.

Do the same with how to decorate my home.. ignore any fancy schmancy ones.. put in. How to decorate my small /large livingroom on a budget...or how to decorate in Spring colours.. ..you get the picture I'm sure (y)
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Thanks Hollydooy, I wrote myself a note to check it out.
 
Some of what appears to be aging or symptoms of it can be side effects of medications that docs often put you on combat things like high blood pressure and high cholesterol. My meds can give me dizziness and fatigue but lower the risk of heart attack or stroke. Itā€™s kinda like they put out one fire but start anotherā€¦
 
It amazes me when people say that although they see an old person in the mirror, they still feel young inside. I've never felt young inside even when I was actually young. My late sister-in-law told me the same thing, that as far back as she could remember, she'd always felt old.

And this discussion got me to thinking about it: what did sister-in-law and I have in common that would make us feel this way? Dysfunctional childhoods. What I can remember most about my childhood is being afraid all the time, maybe on a "good" day just being worried. In both of our cases, it was our fathers who scared us the most. So if you're wondering why some of us don't "feel young inside", that could be why.

From what I experienced and all the people I've known, carefree, happy childhoods were very rare. (Or maybe we survivors of unhappy childhoods always gravitate to each other, IDK. And I can understand why those few who did have happy childhoods wouldn't want anything to do with us who didn't, they'd want to keep that "don't depress me, lalala" thing going.)
 
The main thing I notice is to be more careful in the balance area when negotiating uneven terrains. Of course we do a lot of outside work, planting and digging, so its easy to get off balance. Hub has sinus issues and those loud knees...playing f ball when he was young and facing a full front line that wasn't under 300 lbs. each didn't help his knees, lets face it.

Think as we age, we will pay for those less than stellar choices we made with respect to youthful recreational activities, not to mention the over indulgences...lol.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
I didn't make my self clear. I meant do you accept that you are the age on your driver's license, or the number of candles on your birthday cake? I think we tend to downplay our age. WE deny we are as old as we are." I'm 93, but I feel I'm 18". It's not about physical abilities, but the admission to yourself, you are "old".
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Fuzzy... just in case you hadn't noticed.. your keyboard is playing up.. it said you were 93.... .. I know that's not possible because of your young outlook (y):giggle:
 
fuzzybuddy said:
I didn't make my self clear. I meant do you accept that you are the age on your driver's license, or the number of candles on your birthday cake? I think we tend to downplay our age.
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Oh, I'm happy and proud and feel extremely lucky to be 72
Shoulda been gone long ago, with the things I've put myself thru

Used to think anybody over 70 was pretty much done

Not now

Got more livin' to do

Much more

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@fuzzybuddy
In the last decade i have begun to feel 'old' physically, even tho i'm still very active--part of it is that my endurance isn't what it was. But even that may be good thing. Even when a 20-something i sometimes 'overworked', didn't rest or take breaks the way i should have. Just now i my body punishes me even more for that and i don't recover as quickly as i did in my youth. OTOH, completing a physically draining task that i would have just 'checked off' my mental 'to do' list even just 20 yrs ago, now give me a sense of satisfaction.

i think i've mentioned on this forum somewhere, i always looked much younger than my age and as result often was not taken serious or even got very dismissive attitudes from co-workers and people in public. i was an overly responsible kid who was capable of thinking of solutions to problems even when adults around me were panicking, so i was glad when my hair went grey and wrinkles emerged, it meant i didn't have to cop an attitude to be 'heard'.

i was raised to do what i could for others and also to appreciate when they lended me a hand. So i don't ever feel someone is making a statement about me being 'frail old lady' just by holding a door or picking up something i dropped for me. i know that even now i do those same things for others.
 
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