Do You Get Jealous Of Anything?

ClassicRockr

ClassicRockr

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I got jealous of my last Supervisor. He had the major college degree, that I should have gotten. He had two Certifications in the job he had.
As for me, I was never the "college" type and dropped out during my first year. As far as the Certifications went, my Supervisor told me that his previous job helped him pay for. There was no way that I could pay for myself to become Certified.

When wife and I see people with a nice new boat, we get jealous. Ours is almost 15 years old!

When I read that one of my favorite music artist will be having a concert near us, I get jealous knowing we can't afford to go and, if we could, we would have to sit so far back/high, would have to use binoculars to see the group. I get a little jealous b/c I know that my ears couldn't take all the crowd noise like I did 20 to 30 years ago.

We get jealous when we see someone driving a nice Sebring Touring Convertible, knowing that we couldn't afford one.

So, what do you get jealous about? Anything?
 

Age has mellowed me. The Good Lord has blessed my wife and I and there is nothing I can justify being jealous of. Over the past 30 years, I've worked with major engineering firms... without even having a college degree. Early on, I was quite jealous of the degreed and licensed engineers. Then, I realized the PhD's were calling me and asking advice because they did not have the practical experience. Today, our firm won't let me retire at age 68. I teach a couple classes/year to young engineers. I am the link between our design teams and our clients. I still get the occasional, "How did you learn so much without going to college?" It's difficult to learn how to handle other people's poop sitting behind a desk.
 

Material goodies don't mean very much to me, so I don't get jealous of people driving fancy cars, or wearing expensive clothes and jewelry. I know that those things don't bring real happiness and contentment, and many times those folks who are putting on a show for others, are miserable in their own existence. I have what I need to live comfortably, a husband who loves me, and my health...some may even be jealous of me. :)
 
Sorry, I wanted to address this to ClassicRockr

Dude, I don't believe that you are jealous, maybe more like envious. From what I have read of your posts and all that you and your wife have done and still do, I think that there are a lot of people that may be envious of you also. To me, jealous is a nasty word meaning that you resent what other people have or could afford to have. I take your post as somebody who just wishes that they had or could afford to have the things that you see. Big difference.

Maybe you don't see it from our side, but you are lucky to have and done the things that you have. A lot of others aren't so fortunate. I am not chastising you for your post, just pointing out how good you do have it. Sometimes we need to be told how lucky we are because we can't see the trees for the forest. You are doing well, believe me.
 
oldman said:
Sorry, I wanted to address this to ClassicRockr

Dude, I don't believe that you are jealous, maybe more like envious. From what I have read of your posts and all that you and your wife have done and still do, I think that there are a lot of people that may be envious of you also. To me, jealous is a nasty word meaning that you resent what other people have or could afford to have. I take your post as somebody who just wishes that they had or could afford to have the things that you see. Big difference.

Maybe you don't see it from our side, but you are lucky to have and done the things that you have. A lot of others aren't so fortunate. I am not chastising you for your post, just pointing out how good you do have it. Sometimes we need to be told how lucky we are because we can't see the trees for the forest. You are doing well, believe me.
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You are right on with this,oldman! Envious is what Classic really is-but you are correct-he has what many people would envy him for. And that is something that money can`t buy.
 
I think I get a bit envious sometimes, but jealousy was reserved for when someone tried to hit on my wife, not that she ever gave me cause, but the primal instinct comes out.


I once stubbed my cigarette out on a bloke's hand and said "Oh, sorry! I thought my wife's knee was there"!
 
SifuPhil said:
So what is the difference between envy and jealousy? Is it just a matter of degree, or are they totally different emotions?
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I guess it's semantics, but I was always taught you can envy someone for what they have without being jealous. Isn't "jealousy" one of the deadly sins? I believe when you are jealous of something someone has, you resent them, but when you are envious, you are just wishing that you had one also. I don't know, it's a tough call. Probably a way out for those of us that can't afford to buy stuff that my neighbor has without saying that he doesn't deserve it or that I hate him for no other reason than he has something that I want.

There are two words that I dislike hearing the most. Jealousy and Hate. To me, they go hand in hand.
 
I guess I am strange in that I am not jealous of any one or anything and never have been. There are certainly things that I wanted and did not have, but I was never jealous of those that had them.
 
Lon said:
I guess I am strange in that I am not jealous of any one or anything and never have been. There are certainly things that I wanted and did not have, but I was never jealous of those that had them.
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Why do you say that you are strange because you wanted what someone else had, but you weren't jealous of them? That's pretty much what envy is. I don't think that I was ever jealous of anyone. If I was, I may have been very young and didn't know what jealousy was. I would hope that we have a lot of people on here that were never jealous.
 
You can envy someone for having nicer stuff. You are jealous when someone you love cares more about someone else, be it a spouse, siblings, etc.

You can envy your neighbour for having a nicer car, but if your spouse is having sex with your neighbour, you are jealous.
 
I guess I might get get a longing for something others have such as family to do things with, but, not for their material belongings, I know and have known people with great wealth and seen much unhappiness among them, would I like to have certain things, such as a Phd, sure, but, that's not going to happen no matter how much I would like to pursue any line of study due to my inability to retain information when it counts most due to medical issues.

Plus it's really difficult to think of being envious, when I so often hear the stats of so many in my state living in dire straights. Just heard the most depressing news, 45 of more percent of hard working people in my state can't afford the day to day living expenses, so, no, don't spend time envying people that have more of what I don't have. I can't see the point in it.

Don't mind me, just seeing this news report was depressing. People aren't building communities, they're only building equity and in so, young families are being priced out. OK rant over.
 
I've never really been a jealous person. I'd change a lot of things about my life if I could. But I'm OK with what I have. My 2006 corolla is fine with me.

I don't think a degree is for everyone. Unfortunately jobs without them are not what there once were either.
 
I've been working my way through the Seven Deadly Sins for some time now. I'm pretty much over *lust* and *greed*, and *pride* is hard to maintain when I look in the mirror, but I will admit to daily bouts of *gluttony*, *wrath* when there's someone ahead of me in the 10-items-or-less line WHO.DOES.NOT.BELONG.THERE and definitely *sloth*. I had an occasion of *envy* when I looked at the guy today driving a 1954 MGTD that I longed for as a teen.
 
jujube said:
I've been working my way through the Seven Deadly Sins for some time now. I'm pretty much over *lust* and *greed*, and *pride* is hard to maintain when I look in the mirror, but I will admit to daily bouts of *gluttony*, *wrath* when there's someone ahead of me in the 10-items-or-less line WHO.DOES.NOT.BELONG.THERE and definitely *sloth*. I had an occasion of *envy* when I looked at the guy today driving a 1954 MGTD that I longed for as a teen.
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Gluttony is easy, it's what happens when lust goes unfulfilled just right after wrath and pride. Wrath I do pretty well, especially when I tear into a chocolate cake. And then I'm :happy: until the next bout.
 
Thanks, but I don't know how he got my photo...
 

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