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Do any of you singles sometimes get scared... either for a good reason or for no specific reason at all ??
As I grow older, I've been disappointed to discover I'm not as "brave" as I was when I was younger.
The irony is... when I was younger I had so much more responsibility [I was a single working mother]
with less security than I have now. Maybe I just didn't have the spare time to worry. When I was young
and a crisis happened, I would think to myself... I must be brave for my child so he feels secure.
Now that it's only me... there's no more reason to even pretend to be brave.
I think that is only natural. Fear is a
NATURAL RESPONSE TO THE UNKNOWN. We humans are social animals. We like to have other people around us. Herd instinct. A single Horse is as Jumpy as a long tailed Kitty Cat in a room full of rocking Chairs. Put in another Horse (and a goat for more fun) and they settle down. Same with Humans. Remember we are a Tribal creature and in prehistoric times we had a village around us to watch over us in hard times. NOT TODAY THOUGH.
There are three kinds of fear.
Physical fear: Fear for our physical being. Violence upon our bodies, positions, fire, earthquake, storms.
Emotional fear: Fear of being alone, Fear of feeling worthless, Fear of Depleting our financial resources.
Spiritual fear: Fear of what the immediate future holds, loss of Identity as a person. Fear of Sickness. Fear of control over our lives.
For Physical Fear we can take steps to secure out surroundings. Alarms, fire, intrusion, and emergency requirements. (simply safe systems is a good place to start, as you can start small and add to the system as time and finances allow). Get a first alert pendent that will allow you to request assistance at the touch of a button. Get a wireless control for lamps in rooms so If you suspect some one is in your house you can turn on interior and exterior lights at the touch of a button. Secure your Environment with shutters and steel bars over windows.
Don't place iron bars over doors as that may keep first responders from getting to you in an emergency. The limits to your personal protection are in your bank book and intelligence.
You might want to consider buying a good safe. There are floor safes out there that cost $600-$800 for storing your valuables and financial records. However (now this is a touchy subject for a great many people); think long and hard about purchasing a fire arm. Unless you have lived around fire arms most of your life my advice is to skip them. They are more of a danger to you than to any bad guys.
Also you don't know what trouble is until you drop the hammer on some one!!! The police and the courts take the discharge of a fire arm very seriously (as well they should).
For Emotional fear: Get involved with LIFE. Join social groups where you can make new friends
and be a new friend. Help out at libraries, schools, long term care facilities. Charitable fund raising activities. Join a Church group, book club, bird watching club, and a
TRAVEL CLUB. I know of one TRAVEL Club that is an RV Club and bunch of senior citizens get together pool their resources and hit the road every summer for far away places. Those with out an RV can help pay the expenses of those who do have an RV.
Spiritual fear: A belief system where you know that your life mattered. A belief that you had a positive effect on some one at some time. A belief that you somehow made the world a better place for some one or ONE OF THE
DIVINE CREATORS CREATURES. Just have a little faith you your self and
YOU WILL BE ALRIGHT,