Do you have any regrets?

[Disgustedman]

Quite a few, but too many to list.

 

[MACKTEXAS]

...and no-one has said you should ...

I know, but just wanted to be clear. On our 42nd anniversary (next to the last) she told a good friend, "I still love the man I married." I never knew she said that until after she passed on. I wish she had said those same words to me, but I felt her love all the same.

I'm sorry for what you went through in your own marriage.

 

[Nathan]

I used to have a big pile of regrets, but then I began to regard them as "lessons learned". For instance, the experience I had with my ex taught me the meaning of "sociopath", "gaslighting" and "bankruptcy".

 

[hollydolly]

I know, but just wanted to be clear. On our 42nd anniversary (next to the last) she told a good friend, "I still love the man I married." I never knew she said that until after she passed on. I wish she had said those same words to me, but I felt her love all the same.

I'm sorry for what you went through in your own marriage.

42 years is a very long time to be married... it was terrible enough for me to lose my marriage after 24 years .. but 42 sheesh ! ...

 

[hollydolly]

Quite a few, but too many to list.

list one...

 

[CaliS]

My biggest regret is bittersweet, married a man I thought I could save... I couldn't. I have two wonderful children, so I would never change it - but it haunts me at times.

 

[Disgustedman]

list one...

Didn't push harder after 10 trucking companies turned me down for a driver position (Trained to drive them.)

 

[Pepper]

Most all of you are wonderful!

All of us are wonderful!

 

[MaidMarian]

I regret not having had a real career.

 

[Timewise 60+]

I've had a few, but I "did it my way"! From a song...says it all

 

[Marcy Sheiner]

me too... none more than the damn 25 years I spent married to an A hole....

I only did that for 6 years.

 

[Marcy Sheiner]

There is an old saying - I forget the exact words and won't waste my time looking it up - but something like "marriage is a 50/50 proposition." I haven't found that to be very accurate. From relationships I've observed, and from my own, one party generally gives more than the other. My wife was very calm and versatile, and would often just let me have my way rather than insisting it go as she wantedd .. . . . . except for some things. On those, I had to give in, and I did. So, no - I do not accept responsibility for being the kind of husband you seem to have endured.

A friend used to say that in every relationship there was a lover and a beloved.